Do you think people that use sex toys and porn as a couple have better relationships?

Contributor: chula101 chula101
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Just wanted to see everyone's opinion on this.
05/03/2012
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Contributor: js250 js250
I do. It requires more trust and openness than basic sex. Once you feel comfortable watching porn and playing with toys together. It opens up a new closeness with that person, one that is more personal and intimate than anything else. You are sharing a part of you that no one else is supposed to know about--but your partner does.
05/03/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Not necessarily. We were together over 2 years and everything was fine. We found EF back in like Nov last year and just started using things. But a couple is getting tired of the same routine I think they can help out alot.
I'm talking about toys though.

We don't watch porn. I don't like it and it isn't my thing.

It all depends on the two involved.
05/04/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I think the couple might trust each other more but I don't necessarily think it makes the relationship better...I don't really know how to formulate that into a proper response that doesn't make either situation sound bad. I think it's really up to the individuals and there's more to a relationship than good sex. You can have the best sex in the world with every toy imaginable, but if you're lacking in other areas the relationship can be just as fragile as if the sex were bad.
05/04/2012
Contributor: BG529 BG529
I think it really just depends.
05/04/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
If you're using them together, I'd say yes. It can also be a sign that the couple is very comfortable and honest with each other, so cause and effect could be reversed.
05/04/2012
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
While I think it could help out a relationship, I won't say it definitely will. My wife and I were together for 21 years before we brought toys into the bedroom (we did use a cock strap). The wife never was much for porn so I do not push that subject.

To me two things are needed for a good relationship; communication and commitment. When you have those all else comes naturally.
05/04/2012
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
I don't know- it probably depends on the couple. Toys can certainly spice things up, but they are just window dressing. If you don't have a solid relationship based on respect and trust with good communication thrown in, toys aren't going to help.

OTOH, toys can add another dimension of fun and intimacy to a couple with a solid relationship.

I know this is a toy site so this might be heresy here. But a lot can be said about the couple who know each other well enough to have magicically, fulfilling, intense sex without any toys at all. (Not everytime of course- I'm not crazy!)
05/04/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Not necessarily, no. Different people have different proclivities. There are also people who are completely asexual - so they more than likely do not view porn together or use toys, but still have a healthy, fulfilling relationship.

For some couples, yes - porn and toys can help liven up their sex lives and bring them closer. It certainly does NOT mean you automatically have a good relationship, or a better relationship than anyone else just because you do those things though. I think people are far too different from each other to make such a blanket statement.
05/04/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
I think the relationship has to be there first. Then, as long as the couple explores together without one feeling pressured into uncomfortable territory, toys and/or porn can provide an avenue for the relationship to grow. Really, same can be said of sex. Sex doesn't make the relationship, but it is a reflection of the relationship's health.
05/04/2012
Contributor: Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
You could substitute that with any common thread. It doesn't matter what your M/O is, as long as your doing it together, that's whats binding. I'm sure those who love to bowl together fuck like bunnies after a perfect game.lol
05/04/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I don't think it makes the relationship better. What makes the relationship is trust, commitment, and complete honesty.

Can toys bring some fun back into a relationship yes, will it make the relationship- no!
05/04/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by Zombirella
Not necessarily. We were together over 2 years and everything was fine. We found EF back in like Nov last year and just started using things. But a couple is getting tired of the same routine I think they can help out alot.
I'm talking about ... more
^ this. I agree with all of it.
05/04/2012
Contributor: Melan!e Melan!e
It's not necessary but I think it can definitely bring a couple closer. It's what the use of toys and porn will allow the couple to experience together and discover about each other, I think, that can make a relationship stronger. It's about being open and honest with each other.
05/04/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I think it depends on the couple. Just because you use toys and watch porn doesn't mean each person is sexually satisfied.
05/04/2012
Contributor: Cwhitten006 Cwhitten006
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Originally posted by Beck
I think it depends on the couple. Just because you use toys and watch porn doesn't mean each person is sexually satisfied.
I agree. I recently started using toys (no porn) just to spice up things in the bedroom. Me and my husband have been together for 12 years and after 12 years you need to do something different, just to keep things from getting boring (atleast for us). I didn't make the decision on my own though, my husband and I discussed it first.
05/05/2012
Contributor: Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
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Originally posted by chula101
Just wanted to see everyone's opinion on this.
I do.....I think it helps add that extra little spice that some people sometime go else where to find. If a couple has all that extra, then there is no need to look outside the home, but also because happy sex life is happy home life.
06/04/2012
Contributor: Megan Jean Megan Jean
Better? No. More intimate? I believe so.
06/04/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
trust makes the relationship but toys make it more exciting for some
06/04/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Not necessarily, but it can improve the sex, which is one part of the intimacy within a couple
06/05/2012
Contributor: xilliannax xilliannax
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Originally posted by chula101
Just wanted to see everyone's opinion on this.
Yes
06/10/2012
Contributor: BoomersGirl BoomersGirl
I think toys can definitely enhance and spice things up - adds something different our God-given human parts can't do - LOL. However, my husband seems to think that's an insult to his "manhood" so I can rarely get him to use any. Which is frustrating for me, because it's soooooo much quicker and easier using them. But whatever - not worth a fight.

Porn I do not like, do not watch and my husband also does not watch it. The most we watch is True Blood (but FF through the naked parts - LOL).
06/10/2012
Contributor: Talena Talena
I think that the couple who uses toys and porn may be more adventurous but not necessarily have a better relationship.
06/18/2012
Contributor: lilgrump lilgrump
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Originally posted by js250
I do. It requires more trust and openness than basic sex. Once you feel comfortable watching porn and playing with toys together. It opens up a new closeness with that person, one that is more personal and intimate than anything else. You are sharing ... more
agree x1000
06/21/2012