Getting him to try anal?

minifreak minifreak
How can I get him to let me atleast show him how good it feels?
03/17/2011
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hjtee hjtee
I'd like to hear people's answer to this question as well. My husband doesn't mind my fingers & hands going near his area, but toys are completely out of the question for him.
I can't figure out for the life of me how that makes sense.
03/21/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I explained how much I wanted for him to experience the pleasure associated with prostate massage and how much I wanted to give that experience to him. That alone was the straw that broke the camels back, but we talked a lot and read A LOT first!
03/21/2011
Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
I explained how much I wanted for him to experience the pleasure associated with prostate massage and how much I wanted to give that experience to him. That alone was the straw that broke the camels back, but we talked a lot and read A LOT first!
I wish it were that simple.

I'm really happy that I got my hubby to allow me to use fingers after more than a year of gentle, sporadic prodding, so I hope its only a matter of time like it was with fingering.

I'm sorry that I have no tips. All I can say is to be patient and don't force the idea; it will just make him even more weary to explore. My husband has told me he doesn't like it, which I know from experiences with him isn't true. I personally think he has insecurities from being "gay" all the way to it potentially changing our entire sexual relationship.

That's why patience is so important. You have to prove that you're interested in it for his own pleasure and that he can trust you with such a delicate area.
03/21/2011
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Start small. Maybe an external prostate massage? Or just putting pressure on the outside? Eventually he'll realize that it can feel good, and learn to enjoy it, and you can take it further.
03/21/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
You could look for stuff on the web (and here) on the health benefits of prostate massage, don't forget to mention the possibility of hands free ejaculation.

After all the talks and reading, it will be his decision. So do not push to hard and let him tell you when he is or is not ready.
03/21/2011
kfdarling1375 kfdarling1375
I wish my wife would want to do this! She is not too keen on anal play. I think a lot of guys turn into homophones about anal play. They are afraid that if they like it they might be gay. It just isn't true.
03/22/2011
kfdarling1375 kfdarling1375
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
You could look for stuff on the web (and here) on the health benefits of prostate massage, don't forget to mention the possibility of hands free ejaculation.

After all the talks and reading, it will be his decision. So do not push to hard ... More
What is the best way to achieve the amazing handsfree ejaculation?
03/22/2011
tickle me pink tickle me pink
I'd say a good first step is to talk to him and get a feel for what he thinks about it. A lot of guys think that anything going near their butt is "gay" and although that's totally not true he might still think that. You may have to be very very patient and don't be too forceful, because that will probably just push him away. Let him know how good it can feel to have a prostate massage and how happy it would make you to try it on him. This will most likely be the biggest hurdle to clear.

Probably the most important thing I can advise is to start small and go slow! If he'll at least allow you to touch him down there, you can just massage the area, either directly or through underwear. When he's comfortable enough to go for penetration, start with just one finger and use PLENTY of good lube (there are a lot of good anal lubes on this site). And always remember not to rush. Hopefully then you can move up to more fingers and eventually some toys. I wouldn't do all this the first time, of course. Let him slowly warm up to it. Another thing I'd recommend is pick a time when he's more relaxed. If he just came home from a stressful day at work he'll be more tense, and if he gets hurt that will only put him off. If you want a little extra help, a good massage, hot bath, a little alcohol, or anything else that he finds relaxing may be a good idea.

I hope that helps, even just a bit. You can also do a bit of research on the net, I've read a ton of different articles about having enjoyable anal sex with your man. Good luck!
03/23/2011
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by kfdarling1375
What is the best way to achieve the amazing handsfree ejaculation?
Practice. Start off learning how to relax and enjoy anal and prostate stimulation, then find a comfortable toy and position and start practicing with a rhythmic stimulation (and plenty of lube). It may take a while, and some guys never get all the way there. Starting off sexually excited helps.
03/23/2011
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