Have/would you sign a prenuptial?

snowminx snowminx
If your future spouse came to you and asked you to sign a prenuptial? Do you already have a renup in your current marriage?
Would you agree to one right away, discuss it, or refuse to sign one?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Married- have a prenup
1
Married- do not have prenup
20
Would sign one
12
Would not sign
20
Other
Total votes: 53 (41 voters)
Poll is closed
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
If your future spouse came to you and asked you to sign a prenuptial? Do you already have a renup in your current marriage?
Would you agree to one right away, discuss it, or refuse to sign one?
We didn't have a pot to piss in when we married and I don't plan on getting married to anyone who would require a pre-nup. HOWEVER, if I should ever HAVE something that I don't want to lose in a divorce I would insist on some sort of arrangement ahead of time.
03/24/2013
sexyscreenname sexyscreenname
I wouldn't mind in the least, especially if it is well constructed.
03/24/2013
bratcat bratcat
I would totally sign, so long as we sit and really talk about the details together, what may make us uncomfortable and like sexyscreenname says well constructed.
03/24/2013
Aishiteru Aishiteru
I'd rather not, especially since there might be a child involved and that would likely effect them in some way if there is a divorce.
03/24/2013
eri86 eri86
To me a pre-nup is an exit strategy for the person asking. And that would make me second guess our upcoming marriage altogether.
03/24/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
We've talked about it...depends whats all involved.
03/24/2013
js250 js250
It depends on the nature of the reason. If it is to protect the other person and their children yes. If it is a business only decision and only for future wealth that I may help earn--no. But I am known for being fair and not capitalizing on other's money so it would not matter much if it was discussed in a loving manner.
03/24/2013
Lioncub Lioncub
Quote:
Originally posted by eri86
To me a pre-nup is an exit strategy for the person asking. And that would make me second guess our upcoming marriage altogether.
I totally agree. I would not for any reason sign one. If you can't trust the person you're marrying then why are you marrying them. And once you become married everything in essence would belong to you both anyway.
03/24/2013
AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
I wouldn't sign one and I didn't. I see it as, if the person is expecting us to break up, then that's not the person for me. I'm willing to risk it all and they should be of the same mind.
03/24/2013
Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
If your future spouse came to you and asked you to sign a prenuptial? Do you already have a renup in your current marriage?
Would you agree to one right away, discuss it, or refuse to sign one?
absolutely! i would demand one being signed if i were to get married. i see too many divorced couples getting unfairly screwed by greedy exes
03/24/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I'm married, don't have one, and would have refused to sign one.
03/24/2013
Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
If your future spouse came to you and asked you to sign a prenuptial? Do you already have a renup in your current marriage?
Would you agree to one right away, discuss it, or refuse to sign one?
I would sign one, but only after my groom-to-be said that it didn't matter to him if I signed.
03/25/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I would if C asked. I may just make one, anyway, because I am previously divorced and pragmatic enough to know that Reality can trump Love when it damn well feels like it.

I started out fully intending to always be married to my first husband, would never sign a prenup if he wanted one, love was more important, etc. Then our marriage went to shit and divorce was the best course of action. Fortunately, he was civil and didn't try to take my car or anything away (because I actually own more than he does), but a prenup would have saved my ass if he was going to be petty.

It's insurance is all, just like vehicle, life, home, etc insurance - for JUST IN CASE. Just because you make/sign one does not mean you fully intend to make it happen so it can be used. And it really helps protect what you have if your spouse should die and leave you holding the bag with their debts or even their funeral. A former coworker of mine had everything taken away from her - home, vehicles, horses, possessions - to pay off her late husband's debts. A prenup would have saved the stuff she bought in her name, instead of being grabbed by creditors simply because she was married to him.
03/25/2013
jr2012 jr2012
I kind of think prenups should be mandatory nowadays! It would stop the controversy of "are you thinking about divorcing me one day?", and make sure everyone gets a fair deal.

I am personally not getting married due to personal beliefs, but if I was to, I would sign one without a second thought.
03/25/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
While logical, I wouldn't sign it. All it would mean to me is that someone has one foot out the door before we are married! I want someone that will fight for our marriage regardless of the stakes!
03/29/2013
Melan!e Melan!e
I would sign one. There would be no reason for one with my current partner but if there were, I would. I won't be marrying anyone for their belongings...
04/19/2013
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
I would sign one if I was asked to. I agree with Melanie, I wouldn't marry for money so why not sign. I do not want anything that was theirs before we were married.
04/29/2013
Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
i didnt sign one, he didnt ask. I dont know if i could sign one. i feel like it might be like saying i expect to break up one day and i dont want you to get a thing when we do. I just feel like if i am marrying someone it would be because i trusted them.
04/29/2013
surreptitious surreptitious
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
If your future spouse came to you and asked you to sign a prenuptial? Do you already have a renup in your current marriage?
Would you agree to one right away, discuss it, or refuse to sign one?
I absolutely wouldn't sign one unless there were a very, very good reason. If I were marrying someone for love and they happened to have a lot of money, I wouldn't trust him if he asked me to sign one. I would rather just live with him out of wedlock than have him ask me to sign away my rights, because that's incredibly suspicious to me. If I were marrying someone for money, (which, quite frankly, is more likely than me bothering with the paperwork if it's for love), then obviously a prenup wouldn't work for me.
05/08/2013
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