How do I get my husband to notice me when I walk around naked/wear sexy clothes?

Noelle Noelle
Noelle
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My husband doesn't respond, or act like he notices. WTH is up with that? What do I need to do to get his dumb ass to notice me? I'm in great shape and take care of myself. I'm so irritated!!
07/28/2012
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deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by Noelle
My husband doesn't respond, or act like he notices. WTH is up with that? What do I need to do to get his dumb ass to notice me? I'm in great shape and take care of myself. I'm so irritated!!
What!?! Hold out on him for a few days and try it. He'll definitely notice.
07/29/2012
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by deltalima
What!?! Hold out on him for a few days and try it. He'll definitely notice.
Unfortunately his libido is WAY low, and that is why I try to get him to notice. He isn't paying attention, so I suppose he isn't in the mood as usualy.
07/29/2012
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
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Originally posted by Noelle
My husband doesn't respond, or act like he notices. WTH is up with that? What do I need to do to get his dumb ass to notice me? I'm in great shape and take care of myself. I'm so irritated!!
I hate to bring up the elephant in the room, but is it possible that he is not interested? Maybe he is into something else?
07/29/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Is he busy with something when you do this? If he's busy and you're trying to distract him, that might be why he's ignoring you.

If your sex drives don't match up, it's time to have a serious conversation together about how your needs are not being met. Walking around in lingerie isn't the way to solve a problem.
07/29/2012
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
I hate to bring up the elephant in the room, but is it possible that he is not interested? Maybe he is into something else?
No, we both are gym rats, and when we aren't both at work, we are together. We are both happy. He is just 10 yrs older, and I think his libido is low and mine is peaking.
07/29/2012
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by - Kira -
Is he busy with something when you do this? If he's busy and you're trying to distract him, that might be why he's ignoring you.

If your sex drives don't match up, it's time to have a serious conversation together about ... More
I've never know a man not to notice a naked women walking in front of him, have you?
07/29/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
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Originally posted by Noelle
I've never know a man not to notice a naked women walking in front of him, have you?
Meet my ex-husband ...

Scene: First Year of Marriage
Him (looking up from the computer): Are you going to the store this afternoon?
Me (unclothed): Wasn't planning to. Why?
Him: We need more soap.
Me: I need someone in bed with me.
Him (eyeroll, looks back at screen): You're getting worked up about a genital sneeze again, aren't you?

*facepalm* (Of course, he also had lots of issues and the marriage was never consummated because of them.)

Sit down and talk with your husband about what's going on - trying to drop the hint will fly right over men's heads and make you resentful that he's "not getting it".
07/29/2012
geekkink geekkink
stroke his ego and make him feel sexy. Men need that too.
07/29/2012
meitman meitman
Wow!

My wife has my attention immediately if she walks into the room like that! I'm sorry. You definitely should talk to him. That's just crazy!
07/29/2012
<3BF <3BF
Sometimes if you get used to your S.O. being naked ALL the time it doesn't feel special. Make sure he knows that those naked/lingerie moments mean good things are going to happen. Either pounce him the next time you are naked, or walk up to him in new lingerie and aggressively initiate something so he doesn't associate nakedness/lingerie with normal hanging about the house but with hot and steamy action! Men are dense that way...
07/29/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by Noelle
I've never know a man not to notice a naked women walking in front of him, have you?
Yup! If my husband is busy with something (his car or a video game, for example) I'll get a quick "mmm...not now!" reply. He has a super high sex drive most of the time, but if he's busy with something I'd just be wasting my time.
07/30/2012
mikeysPlace mikeysPlace
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Originally posted by Noelle
No, we both are gym rats, and when we aren't both at work, we are together. We are both happy. He is just 10 yrs older, and I think his libido is low and mine is peaking.
Methinks you may be one to something here. If you are walking around naked or in lingerie and not getting totally jumped even some of the time, then there's something else going on.

Hopefully no one else has captured his interest?
07/30/2012
mikeysPlace mikeysPlace
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Originally posted by - Kira -
Yup! If my husband is busy with something (his car or a video game, for example) I'll get a quick "mmm...not now!" reply. He has a super high sex drive most of the time, but if he's busy with something I'd just be wasting my time.
Doesn't matter what I'm doing. If my wife is in the mood and I haven't noticed, she will get naked or put on some sexy lingerie, do her hair, put on a little makeup and interrupt whatever I'm doing. It works every time.
07/30/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by mikeysPlace
Doesn't matter what I'm doing. If my wife is in the mood and I haven't noticed, she will get naked or put on some sexy lingerie, do her hair, put on a little makeup and interrupt whatever I'm doing. It works every time.
It works most of the time with my husband, but if he's busy with something he lets me know. lol Heaven forbid I interrupt his car time.
07/30/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
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Originally posted by - Kira -
Yup! If my husband is busy with something (his car or a video game, for example) I'll get a quick "mmm...not now!" reply. He has a super high sex drive most of the time, but if he's busy with something I'd just be wasting my time.
I've never had ANY luck interrupting guys from video games... lol
07/30/2012
indiglo indiglo
If he already has a low sex drive, and already feels pressured to have sex with you more than he wants to - it may just be that when you prance around naked he's feeling pressured into sex yet again. Or he may feel that he's being reminded of his "inadequacies" in the bedroom, or that you're sexually frustrated, etc. He's probably taking it as another way he's failing you, just based on the reaction you get from him.

The best thing to do (in my experience) in these situations is have a loving, understanding, non-judgmental heart-to-heart talk. If those are hard to come by at your house (every relationship is different) it may be time to think about getting some professional help through a couple's counselor.

Best wishes!
07/30/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by indiglo
If he already has a low sex drive, and already feels pressured to have sex with you more than he wants to - it may just be that when you prance around naked he's feeling pressured into sex yet again. Or he may feel that he's being reminded ... More
This is great advice! Having talks outside of the bedroom can make a big difference.
07/30/2012
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
I agree, go with the heart to heart, because as stated above YOU have a problem, but he may not. Find out where he is as far as sex is concerned. If after the heart to heart there is still a problem then worry. I am a firm believer in giving a chance to hear both sides of the story.
08/01/2012
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