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I feel like our marriage is falling apart, but I know we still love each other so looking for ideas to bring more love/spice back into our life
Well I would say step one is to find where your love is falling apart. The earth shattering love that makes you feel super connected is a blend between commitment, intimacy, and passion. So after you identify what your missing you think of ways to make that more balanced in your relationship.
If you're missing intimacy add more deep conversations. More emotional connectedness. You know your woman, inside out, you know just why you married her and why she is amazing and you surely love her/his entire soul. Remind her of that. Remind her of how it use to feel when loving her and talking to her and connecting to her/him was the easiest thing in the whole world. This might involve carving out some special time, and making special plans that you HAVE to stick to.
If you are missing passion, spice up the bedroom life. Maybe take it out of the bedroom. Maybe add new toys. Maybe talk to each other more about what you like or what would be romantic. This would be a perfect time to fulfill a fantasy. Add foreplay. Take it back to that young love, first date kinda feeling where you just have to touch each other and be close. Find that urgency in your love and your desire.
If you are missing commitment, renew a gesture. Maybe dig out your old vows. Or maybe edit them. Show your dedicated to the relationship.
And MOST IMPORTANTLY have more fun. It is psychologically proven that if a couple engages in tasks that are fun that make them work together they will report a more consummate love after the task!
Haha, sorry....I'm a psychology major...this might have been lengthy and unhelpful but it has strengthened my relationship =D