How would you all sugest hubby and i make more time for eachother?

The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
I am married to an awesome man we took in my daughters 3 older children to raise them so we dont have a lot of time to spice things up so any tips or ideas would be awesome.
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a special night out
Lakmé , melissa1973 , MaryExy , married with children , Lady Venus , newfoundlust , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , padmeamidala , sexyintexas , LostBoy988 , kelaaa33wish , darthkitt3n , Adriana Ravenlust , Elnoa , slynch , Eden C. , potstickers , MidnightStorm , PieC , brevado , captainsgirl , mpfm , hotinpink , chelly411 , Feisty , sXeVegan90 , llellsee , BrittaniMaree , vittmsk , Bignuf , LovesAPoet , wicked48 , angel42539 , karenm , dancingduo
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a special night
Lady Venus , newfoundlust , Eden C. , Kate8 , Fun2 , Airen Wolf , angel42539 , SydneyScreams , dancingduo
9
other
newfoundlust , daniel and frances , Redboxbaby , Adriana Ravenlust , Trixxxy , KrissyNovacaine , Noelle , angel42539 , dancingduo
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Total votes: 53 (44 voters)
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06/22/2011
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newfoundlust newfoundlust
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Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner
I am married to an awesome man we took in my daughters 3 older children to raise them so we dont have a lot of time to spice things up so any tips or ideas would be awesome.
Text/email each other during the day, give each other massages, meet each other for a special "lunch" or "dinner" at a local hotel, go get a couples massage together, take a stay-vacation (even if its in your own town-make sure it has a pool and other stuff for the kids) and get two rooms. Browse EF together looking for toys ideas for both of you, then share with each how they feel. Read some erotica together-easier to hide than watching it. For instance, literotica.com has lots of free erotic stories for all kinds of different interests/lifestyles. Just a few thoughts.
06/23/2011
sexyintexas sexyintexas
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Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner
I am married to an awesome man we took in my daughters 3 older children to raise them so we dont have a lot of time to spice things up so any tips or ideas would be awesome.
Talk, MAKE time for eachother. Get a sitter one night a week and spend time on you. I think that people feel way to guilty about getting grandma to watch the kids for your personal time. The way I look at it is its healthier for the kids if the adults have a healthy relationship. My husband is gone 22 days a month so we make an effort to have US time, whether it be going out with adult friends, dinner or a romantic night. We talk on the phone 10 times a day and just let eachother know that you love eachother.
06/24/2011
daniel and frances daniel and frances
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Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner
I am married to an awesome man we took in my daughters 3 older children to raise them so we dont have a lot of time to spice things up so any tips or ideas would be awesome.
I think that there can be plenty of little moments that titillate if you make the effort. Little stolen kisses and fondles, Sexting, whispers, masturbating and telling each other. It's a frame of mind and you need to choose to be more into it. (which I know can be tough with kids.) The preparation is what makes your time together more electric. All the teasing and wanting will make the times you DO have together more exciting.
06/24/2011
LostBoy988 LostBoy988
Plan ahead and make time for yourselves.
06/24/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
My husband and I grocery shop together without our kiddo (since he turned 12 or so); most every time we need to go to the store we go together and we go alone. This gives us alone time in the car to talk (even if it is only for 10 minutes at a time).

When my husband comes home from work we go to the bedroom (together and alone), so he can change; our door gets locked, and I help him out of his clothes. There is always a few minutes for a quick romp, cuddle time, or just some time to chat. Sometimes I make sure to run a tub full of water before he gets home (mostly in the winter - giving us a chance to warm up) and we soak for a half hour together.

We also have a standing date every Sunday from 12-3pm. We go to our favorite pub and have a brat and a couple of beers.

Our 16 year old son still has a bed time during the school year. 8:30 or 9PM is plenty late enough to stay up when we all get up at 5AM. He is in bed by 9, giving us plenty of time for each other as well as pillow talk time.

We have made it very clear to our son that we need time alone together. He sees that as us taking care of each other and taking time to nurture our relationship. Even his friends have said they wished their parents took time to go out on dates together. It's important for them to see their parents take time out for each other.
06/24/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
My husband and I grocery shop together without our kiddo (since he turned 12 or so); most every time we need to go to the store we go together and we go alone. This gives us alone time in the car to talk (even if it is only for 10 minutes at a ... More
LOL! My Man and I do the same things. I have to BEG to be taken grocery shopping, though. He thinks he spends more when I'm with him. But, we do tend to bond over mundane things like grocery shopping, etc. We also hang out in the bedroom when he gets home from work, while he gets changed.

We also try to take a walk every day, if weather permits. We've had horrible weather in Chicago the last 2 weeks, so we're behind.

You and your man are like our Alaskan counterparts.

However, we slipped up and our kids are up all hours of the night in the summer. We had just finished making love last night, and I hear both kids wandering around upstairs at 1:30 AM last night. My middle one has taken over the spare room, and she's been making a mess in there (claims its her "sewing room") so she was in there last night, right across the hall from us, doing heaven knows what. I like the house quiet late in the evening.
06/24/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by P'Gell
LOL! My Man and I do the same things. I have to BEG to be taken grocery shopping, though. He thinks he spends more when I'm with him. But, we do tend to bond over mundane things like grocery shopping, etc. We also hang out in the bedroom when he ... More
"You and your man are like our Alaskan counterparts." Funny you say that, there are so many times I will read a post of yours to my husband and we laugh and say if we didn't know better we'd think one of us had written it.

We are very lackadaisical when it comes to the bedtime in the summer. Our son has so much going on and is rarely home in the evening for dinner or whatnot anyway, so as long as he is in his room and trying to be quiet, we don't really care what time he goes to bed. Once he starts in with any attitude during the daytime hours, we tighten the slack considerably. He was up 'til 2:30AM this morning messing with his drumset and playing his keyboard (headphones on)...albeit quietly.

Thank God his room is on the other end of the house for all our sakes. Things were a bit loud last night on our end, but he knows he is better off putting the headphones on when mom and dad go to their bedroom.
06/24/2011
Eden C. Eden C.
Well, I don't have kids of my own but I babysit (and I have my own parents) and alone time is, needless to say, very important. Just remember that you do not need to go out in order to have a babysitter. Some babysitters are fine with dropping the kids off at his/her home, leaving the bedroom free.

Since the kids are older, you can arrange regular slumber parties with other families. Sometimes the party can be at your place, and sometimes at the friend's house, which frees up the house for some alone time.

I hope my suggestions are helpful. I work in child care and I generally don't give parents advice because I don't have kids of my own, but I thought I'd give my two cents!
06/29/2011
brevado brevado
Definitely start "Date Night"
02/19/2013
Fun2 Fun2
My wife and I set a goal for often we would make time for each other in a week (bedroom time). It seems to help force us to make more time that way.

Spending time to talk with each other has always helped us as well.

We have tried to do "date nights" off and on for a long time, but with 4 kids, it really hasn't worked for us consistently. As soon as the older ones can babysit though we will give it another go.
02/20/2013
hotinpink hotinpink
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Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner
I am married to an awesome man we took in my daughters 3 older children to raise them so we dont have a lot of time to spice things up so any tips or ideas would be awesome.
Night out. A night at home won't be effective if he's into his computer or TV.
02/20/2013
chelly411 chelly411
special night out is always good because it focuses the attention on each other rather than a night in which could be the TV or anything other than just one on one
02/22/2013
Feisty Feisty
Date night out!
05/22/2013
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Have yourself a night out just the two of you.
05/22/2013
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
a special night out every other week or 1 time a month maybe
05/22/2013
Mr. John Mr. John
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Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner
I am married to an awesome man we took in my daughters 3 older children to raise them so we dont have a lot of time to spice things up so any tips or ideas would be awesome.
First and foremost, congratulations having found that right guy. He really sounds like a winner.

It's hard to suggest idea's, when I don't know matters regarding your finances and ages of your children. So, ignoring that, I would suggest you calendar a date monthly, or bimonthly. Ideally the date would include dinner and a movie, followed by a one night stay at a hotel. Strawberries and champagne would be a nice touch, along with candles. Champagne, strawberries, cheese, white or red wine, candles massage oil and such, are all things which you can mix up and bring along from home. Lingerie and costumes can always be introduced for added romance and excitement. If child sitting services are an issue, I would hope that you have some family you can rely on.

I understand that my suggestion's might not be real world for your personal situation. However, I think that any attempt for an away from the home rendezvous would do wonders for keeping the romance alive in your relationship.

Best of luck!
05/22/2013
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I agree with building anticipation. Naughty messages are great. My hubby and I do that a lot. We have a lot of work appropriate codes, so he won't get in trouble.
05/22/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner
I am married to an awesome man we took in my daughters 3 older children to raise them so we dont have a lot of time to spice things up so any tips or ideas would be awesome.
We have a group of friends we do dinner with every Friday night, then stay out late at each others homes for dessert. Then we have "just the two of us" romantic dinner every Wed. We mostly go out, but once in a while will stay in, but the whole thing has to be SPECIAL. That may mean candles and gourmet food/flowers..etc, or a special place we both want to try. Either way, it's Date Night.
05/22/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Feisty
Date night out!
Sometimes date night in works too...if you both participate in making it special.
05/22/2013
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner
I am married to an awesome man we took in my daughters 3 older children to raise them so we dont have a lot of time to spice things up so any tips or ideas would be awesome.
I voted Other, but I would say do Both.
05/22/2013
angel42539 angel42539
I checked all three! Take an extra 30 mins to an hour after the kids go to bed and spend that time loving each other and talking. You can try to text each other or call each other throughout the day. Try getting a babysitter one night and go out and have fun or stay in and spend the time in each others arm talking or watching a movie. Even five minutes a day counts. I wish you the best of luck!
05/22/2013
SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
A special night together, whether in or out, would probably help!!

Perhaps you can find a mutual hobby to share (maybe one that can involve the kids if you don't want/can't afford a sitter)?

Spending time together doesn't always have to be sexy, but make sure to fit that in
05/22/2013
karenm karenm
Especially night out, or in if you don't have time.
06/01/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
Make time! Life is way to short! I have kids too...i know the feeling!
06/09/2013
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