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Communication is the cornerstone...if you can't at least talk about it there is a larger issue. It seems like there should be some common ground you can find..Go slow and be honest.
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fabjennie
I knew he didn't like them from the moment we started dating. And he knew I did. At first he actually took my toys away from me which I actually found hot and sexy for a little while but eventually I found them and put them back in their home in
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I knew he didn't like them from the moment we started dating. And he knew I did. At first he actually took my toys away from me which I actually found hot and sexy for a little while but eventually I found them and put them back in their home in my nightstand.
So now here we are married for 2 years and not only have I started doing reviews for Eden but also sell products through another company. So of course my collection has grown. I don't flaunt them or tell the hubby about every toy I get but I guess he checks in on them and sees the collection growing. I am a grown woman and see no reason to hide my toys or pretend that I don't like them but now it is starting to cause problems. He threatens to throw them away or accuses me of liking them more than I like him which is ridiculous. We have sex often and it is great! But he works nights which leaves a lot of time alone.
I understand that it is possibly an insecurity but I don't know what to do. I would be VERY unhappy without my toys and even more unhappy without him. And I hate him not being happy but I just don't get why he wants to pick THIS to be unhappy about. I've tried introducing the toys slowly. And even attempted to start off with massage oils and candles and such. No luck. It was like he was so uncomfortable that it took away all the pleasure.
Should I hide my toys? Get rid of them? Tell him to shove off and deal with it? It seems silly for him to have this reaction but then again it seems silly for me to fight so hard for them.... less
So now here we are married for 2 years and not only have I started doing reviews for Eden but also sell products through another company. So of course my collection has grown. I don't flaunt them or tell the hubby about every toy I get but I guess he checks in on them and sees the collection growing. I am a grown woman and see no reason to hide my toys or pretend that I don't like them but now it is starting to cause problems. He threatens to throw them away or accuses me of liking them more than I like him which is ridiculous. We have sex often and it is great! But he works nights which leaves a lot of time alone.
I understand that it is possibly an insecurity but I don't know what to do. I would be VERY unhappy without my toys and even more unhappy without him. And I hate him not being happy but I just don't get why he wants to pick THIS to be unhappy about. I've tried introducing the toys slowly. And even attempted to start off with massage oils and candles and such. No luck. It was like he was so uncomfortable that it took away all the pleasure.
Should I hide my toys? Get rid of them? Tell him to shove off and deal with it? It seems silly for him to have this reaction but then again it seems silly for me to fight so hard for them.... less
