How can I enjoy giving my guy head?!

Contributor: KingsQueen0611 KingsQueen0611
For some reason Im just rarely in the mood to go down on my husband. Ive always been like this, I just want to be able to please him. Been married 2 years and I feel things slipping...
05/30/2013
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Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
I'm male bodied, but trans identified, so not exactly a "normal guy," still I enjoy receiving (and giving) oral sex. My female partner has never liked giving head, it will happen occasionally but she just doesn't find it pleasurable for her.

And that isn't a problem (and we've been together over 10 years, and married for almost 3).

If you don't like giving oral you shouldn't feel obligated to do it. Find other things that please you and your husband and go with those. When he does get oral it'll be a special treat.

If a lack of oral sex is causing your relationship to "slip" you may want to reevaluate whats going on with it in general.
05/30/2013
Contributor: Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
I agree with Boink, Sex shouldnt be the glue holding your marriage together. But i Love giving head. For me i enjoy it because he enjoys it so much. i just get into it and get messy and i feed of his energy. if hes really getting into it then it gets me going even more. i think that it is something you just have to enjoy. Personally i have to have him clean though thats a major turn off is he isnt clean then there is no way i am going down there. Sorry i couldnt be more help. good luck.
05/30/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It's about attitude. You can actually convince yourself to like it - especially if you make your starting point that you derive pleasure from giving pleasure to your partner. This axiom is the basis for all activities that my wife and I share.
05/31/2013
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Flavored lube. I recently tried the Goodhead helper, it's like a masturbating sleeve but half the size. It really helped things for me.
05/31/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
Having him shower right before you do it might make you enjoy it more. And maybe trying to give him handjobs more (to switch things up) will take the pressure off of you and make you you feel more comfortable doing it once in a while because you don't feel so obligated.
06/01/2013
Contributor: dancingduo dancingduo
Is it the...act or something about it? Taste? Smell? Be honest with him and find other things he would like, butt don't be afraid to do it even if you don't like it. Not saying become a blowjob queen, bug be willing to put him first and do it occasionally.
06/09/2013
Contributor: thelittlepretty1 thelittlepretty1
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Originally posted by KingsQueen0611
For some reason Im just rarely in the mood to go down on my husband. Ive always been like this, I just want to be able to please him. Been married 2 years and I feel things slipping...
I understand!! I don't like doing it either, but I know there are things he does that he may not like. I had to start touching myself, but then I asked if he would touch me instead. Make it a two way street, so you both benefit from it. Also, try a numbing spray (I like mint, but I've seen other flavors). Another idea is to put some pop rocks in your mouth too.
07/28/2013
Contributor: mam97 mam97
I didn't used to like doing it but somewhere along the lines that changed. We don't use lube so sometimes to get me in the mood I'll go down on him. In just a few minutes I'm wet enough that he can slide right in. I do it as much for me as I do for him. I know he enjoys it which gets me hot and bothered. He really likes it when I have him deep then I hum or moan. I think if he lets you know how much he appreciates it then it helps you want to do it for him.
10/25/2013
Contributor: vanessa8 vanessa8
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Originally posted by KingsQueen0611
For some reason Im just rarely in the mood to go down on my husband. Ive always been like this, I just want to be able to please him. Been married 2 years and I feel things slipping...
I ve heard this issue before and I'm bit always surprised by this. If you really like the guy you surely find his gorgeous dick very attractive and don't mind putting it in your mouth! Think of his dick as a small(er) version of him
Do you find him sexy in general? Well, I was in few relationships before when I just came to the saddening conclusion that the guy just wasn't my type and I don't find him sexy altogether. But then again may be you have more like a attraction / type problem not a blowjob problem?...

Anyways - the key to giving a good blowjob is to show your partner how much you enjoy doing THIS!! If you show that you are doing this only to pleas him - It is far worst than nothing!

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01/12/2014
Contributor: KingsQueen0611 KingsQueen0611
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Originally posted by Ciao.
I'm male bodied, but trans identified, so not exactly a "normal guy," still I enjoy receiving (and giving) oral sex. My female partner has never liked giving head, it will happen occasionally but she just doesn't find it ... more
Wow I totally forgot I ever even posted this! Things have def changed! It's still not my favorite thing, but have found the more I can tell he's enjoying the more into it I get! Sloppy, beautiful mess! Haha! Thanks for all the advice everyone!
06/30/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by KingsQueen0611
Wow I totally forgot I ever even posted this! Things have def changed! It's still not my favorite thing, but have found the more I can tell he's enjoying the more into it I get! Sloppy, beautiful mess! Haha! Thanks for all the advice everyone!
And people tell me I'm forgetful. Guess better to remember later than never.
07/01/2015
Contributor: gagehale gagehale
Flavored lube definitely helps, my wife hated giving head tell she tried using lube.
08/06/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by gagehale
Flavored lube definitely helps, my wife hated giving head tell she tried using lube.
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Try to get her to do some prostate massage while giving you head. That is, if you have not already. The 2 of you will be amazed and thrilled with the results !
08/07/2015
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by gagehale
Flavored lube definitely helps, my wife hated giving head tell she tried using lube.
I like Intimate Organics Cherry Lube
08/11/2015