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Well-Rounded Well-Rounded
Does anybody have any issues with trying to get their partner more adventurous? My hubby was a virgin before me and we've been together for years and I'm... well... more experienced. He is reluctant to try anything new and I'm getting tired of the same old bump and grind. Have you experienced this before or are currently experiencing this? If so, how did/are you handling it?
11/13/2015
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Andykh Andykh
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Originally posted by Well-Rounded
Does anybody have any issues with trying to get their partner more adventurous? My hubby was a virgin before me and we've been together for years and I'm... well... more experienced. He is reluctant to try anything new and I'm getting ...
I had this problem with my ex but as for my wife now I must say no
11/13/2015
Andykh Andykh
She actually handled the problem for me and got out of my life. Long story but im definitely glad it happened
11/13/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
I'm sure you have tried to persuade him into being more adventurous many times.

Is he against reading or listening to you reading exotica or sexy stories ?

Porn is not real, but does give "motivation" and ideas. Do the two of you watch together ?

I'm sure there will be some gals with some answers for you. Either on your thread or even pm.
11/13/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
Communication is always key. If you haven't already, let him know how you feel and that you would like to try some new things. Suggest having a "his" and a "hers" night On his night, you will do what he enjoys doing. Then, on your night, (hope he's ready to buckle up!) You do some of the things you like or have been wanting to try.

You can also try playing a game. It might feel a little less awkward for him this way. Here's a link to a cute dice game that you can play around with. Customize it to fit the activities you would like to try link
11/14/2015
TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Communication is always key. If you haven't already, let him know how you feel and that you would like to try some new things. Suggest having a "his" and a "hers" night On his night, you will do what he enjoys doing. Then, on ...
Sound advice.
11/14/2015
Well-Rounded Well-Rounded
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
I'm sure you have tried to persuade him into being more adventurous many times.

Is he against reading or listening to you reading exotica or sexy stories ?

Porn is not real, but does give "motivation" and ideas. Do the ...
He refuses to do anything like that. He thinks that is gross. He thinks everything is gross.
11/15/2015
Well-Rounded Well-Rounded
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Communication is always key. If you haven't already, let him know how you feel and that you would like to try some new things. Suggest having a "his" and a "hers" night On his night, you will do what he enjoys doing. Then, on ...
Thanks! I've communicated but it hasn't gone anywhere but he loves games.
11/15/2015
Well-Rounded Well-Rounded
Update: I attempted the game idea and it was a flop. I even gave him some "coupons" and now he is using them as a negative thing. "Sorry you didn't use a coupon so no." "You have to use a coupon to get that." I told him it was meant to be something to be sexy and spicy. He just responded by laughing at me... My husband is going to drive me crazy.
11/18/2015
NJ casanova NJ casanova
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Originally posted by Well-Rounded
Does anybody have any issues with trying to get their partner more adventurous? My hubby was a virgin before me and we've been together for years and I'm... well... more experienced. He is reluctant to try anything new and I'm getting ...
It depends on what your thinking?
different positions, anal, spanking, hot wax, bondage/nipple clips, sex swings, threesomes MMF/MFF, DP(you) with a toy, sex in public/exhibitionism, Using a toy on him, choking, orgies?

Adventurous can mean alot of different things to different people.
11/18/2015
Well-Rounded Well-Rounded
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Originally posted by NJ casanova
It depends on what your thinking?
different positions, anal, spanking, hot wax, bondage/nipple clips, sex swings, threesomes MMF/MFF, DP(you) with a toy, sex in public/exhibitionism, Using a toy on him, choking, orgies?

Adventurous can ...
I'm not really trying to throw him completely into my fetishes that is for sure. I just would like some oral for me (I already give) and different positions. Missionary gets boring and isn't as stimulating as other positions. For him, that is adventurous. Trust me I know what real adventurousness is.
11/18/2015
XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
yes, I went through this a year ago with my partner. As soon as we got back into our toy play with one another, things only went uphill from there.
I demanded a change in bedroom play and it worked out for the better.
11/18/2015
NJ casanova NJ casanova
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Originally posted by Well-Rounded
I'm not really trying to throw him completely into my fetishes that is for sure. I just would like some oral for me (I already give) and different positions. Missionary gets boring and isn't as stimulating as other positions. For him, that is ...
"I'm not really trying to throw him completely into my fetishes that is for sure. I just would like some oral for me (I already give) and different positions."

I'm so sorry to hear that...I think that is completely unacceptable,not returning the pleasure... my girls have trouble getting me to stop(like my quote says). If

Sorry to hear that, I though you wanted extra spice(cajun, buffalo wings)...You're just trying to get some flavor at all, He sounds like (unseasoned tofu):-(

If you don't mind saying, how old are U/him and how long have you been married? He seems really old fashion as my buddy even in their 60's, do everything.

You can start "slow",
blind folds and feathers
whipped cream,chocolate strawberries
candle lite bubble bath for 2
can you just jump on top? be in control
would he try, using a toy on you
does he at least manually stimulate you
could U/ have U,masturbated in front of each other as foreplay?

I hope you find something to get his wheels turning... I think once you find that first thing..other possibilities will open up. good lucky
11/18/2015
Well-Rounded Well-Rounded
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Originally posted by NJ casanova
"I'm not really trying to throw him completely into my fetishes that is for sure. I just would like some oral for me (I already give) and different positions."

I'm so sorry to hear that...I think that is completely ...
The funny thing is that we are in our early twenties with two kids. We've been together for three years; married for two. He says me on top hurts (the one time I tried). He doesn't really play with me manually and no he finds the masturbation thing weird. He has only masturbated three times in his life... all of which happened in his last deployment. He really does seem old-fashioned.
11/19/2015
NJ casanova NJ casanova
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Originally posted by Well-Rounded
The funny thing is that we are in our early twenties with two kids. We've been together for three years; married for two. He says me on top hurts (the one time I tried). He doesn't really play with me manually and no he finds the masturbation ...
"Three times in his LIFE" I would bet "my member" that is a COMPLETE lie, unless...
1. He is one of the people that never get pleasure, Asexual?
2. You said it hurt??? Might have a medical problem?
3. Physically/sexually abused as a child, usually pushes the person into extremes...wanting no sex or wanting it all the time.
4. Is he a Closet Gay man?, not bi or straight. My uncle after 3 kids and 25yrs of marriage "came out".
5. No Labeto at all, needs some testosterone shots.

You said, "last deployment", I think you just found the problem...PSTD
11/19/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by Well-Rounded
Update: I attempted the game idea and it was a flop. I even gave him some "coupons" and now he is using them as a negative thing. "Sorry you didn't use a coupon so no." "You have to use a coupon to get that." I told ...
I'm sorry. At least you tried.
11/21/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
Sounds like he definitely has some underlying issues going on. You may have to get him to see that there is a serious problem with your sexual relationship and it's very unfulfilling for you. Trying to bring a toy into the picture may help. However, his comments about physical discomfort during intercourse is a concern and needs addressed. It's only going to continue or potentially get worse.
11/21/2015
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