Some people say yes, some say no ... some may even say they would do marriage counseling. What would YOU do if your spouse was cheating? Would you leave?
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If Your Spouse Was Cheating, Would You Leave?
For me, I wouldn't leave if it was the first time. I would try to address what the issue was that caused him to cheat, and then proceed from there. I've had marriage counseling before and it really was helpful. Thank goodness it wasn't due to infidelity, though.
My issue would be how could I forgive him and forget it. Things like that dwell in my mind and I don't think I would be able to truly let it go.
My issue would be how could I forgive him and forget it. Things like that dwell in my mind and I don't think I would be able to truly let it go.
02/01/2011
I would give her a second chance under the right circumstances, and I know I would seriously consider leaving her. The problem is that I am very jealous. I trust my girl and doubt that she ever would, which would just make it harder. I would hope for a second chance. I don't know if it would last after something like that but it's worth a shot.
02/01/2011
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I have to second this. I have a hard time fathoming the idea that my husband would break the trust that we share. I would certainly want to find out why he was cheating and see if we could fix whatever it was that led to the cheating. If we could not come to a mutual agreement and if he could not end the relationship on the side, then I would end the marriage.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
I have a hard time with this question because my wife and I share a trust makes the prospect so remote. My inclination would be to investigate the situation and if the situation was irreconcilable, yes I would leave.
02/01/2011
What if you have a child (or children) together? Would that have a huge influence in your decision?
I have a daughter and if my husband cheated on me, I would have to keep in mind that little girl and how this would effect her. It's hard to think about, but I really don't know what I would do. If I left, my daughter would suffer just like the rest of us. Then again, being in a unhealthy marriage where both parents are miserable is not good for her either.
I have a daughter and if my husband cheated on me, I would have to keep in mind that little girl and how this would effect her. It's hard to think about, but I really don't know what I would do. If I left, my daughter would suffer just like the rest of us. Then again, being in a unhealthy marriage where both parents are miserable is not good for her either.
02/01/2011
Absolutely. I make it very clear at the beginning of a relationship that cheating is a breach of trust that is absolutely intolerable. I am a very open person and options of looking elsewhere can be discussed, I cannot say for sure what the result would be given that I have never been in a completely trusting relationship. However I believe that if I fully trusted my partner and it was discussed ahead of time, I might be open to it.
02/01/2011
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Well said.
Originally posted by
Redboxbaby
I have to second this. I have a hard time fathoming the idea that my husband would break the trust that we share. I would certainly want to find out why he was cheating and see if we could fix whatever it was that led to the cheating. If we could
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I have to second this. I have a hard time fathoming the idea that my husband would break the trust that we share. I would certainly want to find out why he was cheating and see if we could fix whatever it was that led to the cheating. If we could not come to a mutual agreement and if he could not end the relationship on the side, then I would end the marriage.
02/02/2011
I can't really imagine it really happening, though I've tried. The greatest blow might be that I would feel like I didn't know my partner. What would change my best friend, whom I've known since we really were just kids? I would not make a hasty decision to part ways forever. We might separate for a while. There would be a lot of talking.
But who knows what would happen.
I'd rather not think much on it right now.
But who knows what would happen.
I'd rather not think much on it right now.
02/02/2011
I don't think cheating is the be-all, end-all horrible thing for relationships. I would be hurt if the boyfriend cheated - but because he didn't trust me enough to communicate what the actual issue is. It depends on how long the extra relationship went on, what he feels for the other person, and if they'd leave the other person no questions asked, but it's pretty unlikely I'd leave just because someone cheated. After we strengthed our communication again, I think it'd be time to figure out what the underlying issue was and see if we needed a new type of relationship though.
I'd be more concerned about the possible STDs than any sort of emotional thing.
I'd be more concerned about the possible STDs than any sort of emotional thing.
02/02/2011
Most definitely! I made it very clear in the beginning of our relationship that cheating would be a breach of trust and it would be over. I don't think I could trust him after that. He also knows that I'm not into sharing & he isn't either so the whole open relationship thing doesn't enter the picture. That being said I don't think I have too much to worry about!
02/02/2011
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Thats the way that I feel about this too.
Originally posted by
Alan & Michele
It's not likely to happen in our relationship anyway, but if it did I wouldn't leave *unless* he told me he was in love with her. I don't own him, and ultimately I want him to be happy. If it was just sex though then it would be time for
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It's not likely to happen in our relationship anyway, but if it did I wouldn't leave *unless* he told me he was in love with her. I don't own him, and ultimately I want him to be happy. If it was just sex though then it would be time for us to discuss an open marriage or other changes.
02/02/2011
For me. yes I would. My husband and i have discussed our relationship very clearly before we sealed the deal. Neither one of us believe in divorce. However there are two factors for automatic divorce. 1) cheating, 2) abuse (physical or verbal) to me and our kids, if we have any. I know that people would say talk about it 1st or look into counseling. But I couldnt. So yes I would leave.
02/02/2011
I can't imagine it ever happening with my current husband, but if it ever did then yes I would likely leave. Because in my previous marriage he did cheat numerous times and he is the kids' father. I stayed and tried to work through things not only b/c I still loved him, but because I wanted to keep my family together. I grew up in a broken home and never wanted my kids to go through what I did growing up. But towards the end when the physical abuse started that was the straw that broke the camels back so to say. Not only towards me, but he was threatening his own children. Needless to say I made him pack and leave and filed for divorce the next day!
02/03/2011
