Is it ok for married people to use condoms? Are there certain situations that would change your opinion?

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Is it ok for married people to use condoms? Are there certain situations that would change your opinion?

Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Is there ever a situation that would make it OK for you and your husband to use a condom. Please give me an example of when you think it is OK, or why you feel like it is never OK.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, depending on situation
11  (12%)
No
Yes
81  (88%)
Total votes: 92
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05/28/2012
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spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
Why would it not be ok? A lot of people use them as their form of birth control. Not to mention other reasons.
05/28/2012
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Quote:
Originally posted by spunkmonkey
Why would it not be ok? A lot of people use them as their form of birth control. Not to mention other reasons.
That is my thought. Perfectly fine, but I have met a lot of people who think its "taboo" so I thought I would ask a larger group of sexually active people.
05/28/2012
nanamondoute nanamondoute
Yeah...if you don't want a kid, use a condom!
05/28/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
I can't think of any reason why you wouldn't use a condom after being married. It's a form of birth control, why stop when you get married, unless you are trying to conceive.

I've never heard anyone (outside of radical anti-birth control people) who would have a problem with it.

If people are giving you a hard time, remember choosing when to get pregnant, or when not to get pregnant is YOUR business, not theirs.

It's a good form of birth control, easy to obtain, simple to use and available.
05/28/2012
Rossie Rossie
That's a funny question, why would it be not OK for a married couple to use condoms? We've been married for 19+ years and have been using condoms all along, except for the times when we wanted to have kids.
05/28/2012
Passion plum Passion plum
Simple answer, yes.
05/28/2012
Vanille Vanille
....why wouldn't it?
05/28/2012
CindyH CindyH
i think it is ok
05/28/2012
Gracie Gracie
Condoms are a good form of birth control. Unless both partners are ready to conceive you should use whatever form of bith control that the 2 of you agree on. Why does it matter what other people think? If you like them keep using them! If you don't like them explore other options. It is about what is right for you.
05/28/2012
indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Is there ever a situation that would make it OK for you and your husband to use a condom. Please give me an example of when you think it is OK, or why you feel like it is never OK.
There are plenty of situations where its okay for a couple to use a condom. A flare of an STI, failing birth control, just after having a child and not wanting to go back on birth control right away. Just married and no birth control yet. SOOO MANY REASONS
05/28/2012
CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
Why wouldn't you use a condom? Unless you're trying to have a kid I'd think you'd keep using them.
05/28/2012
indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by spunkmonkey
Why would it not be ok? A lot of people use them as their form of birth control. Not to mention other reasons.
Exactly. It's not weird or taboo to me at all.
05/28/2012
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Is there ever a situation that would make it OK for you and your husband to use a condom. Please give me an example of when you think it is OK, or why you feel like it is never OK.
Ummm... I would think it'd be OK, but if you're talking about in a case where there's no need to worry about pregnancies and the married couple are absolutely monogamous, I don't see why they would WANT to use a condom--if both are free of any std's and such. I mean if they've never wanted to use them before and don't have the pregnancy, disease and stuff to worry with, I don't know many reasons a married couple would just choose to use condoms unless they're allergic to sperm or one has a yeast infection? I suppose if a couple have never used condoms before and suddenly one partner decides to, that could raise some suspicion and I might would have to wonder if my partner suddenly wanted to use a condom--since we're absolutely monogamous, free of disease and don't have pregnancy to worry with. I'd definitely wonder why he chose to wear one and I'd ask. I guess a reviewer might be reviewing a condom, but I don't choose to review condoms since it isn't something we ever use--I just leave those for people who truly do need/use condoms to review.

So I guess I don't feel that condom use is WRONG necessarily, but I can see it raising suspicion in some cases. I mean if one of the couple have betrayed their partner and not been monogamous, I'd HOPE they would tell their partner rather than choose to still have sex with them while keeping their secret, but using a condom to "protect" against whatever they may have picked up while straying. I suppose one person might suspect that their partner has strayed and decides to use a condom so they don't catch whatever the partner may have caught, but if you think you're partner has cheated, you'd probably not be wanting to have sex with them. Lol.

I would just ask if I were in that situation. Since we don't use them and do not have any need to, I would be a little bit worried if he strapped one on before having sex with me. I'd definitely have to stop right there and ask...'whoa! why a condom?' It may raise the question "has he/she been involved with someone else?" Or "Do they think I HAVE been unfaithful and that's why they're using protection?"
05/28/2012
hillys hillys
sometimes people hate condoms but sometimes people like them. It totally depends on preference and birth control
05/28/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I think it is ok especially if you guy's don't want to have kids at this point.
05/28/2012
Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
It isn't a big deal as it depends on the couple how they want to prevent pregnancy.
05/28/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
If both partners agree to it, I see no valid reason not to. We've been using condoms because we don't want another kid, and hormonal birth control didn't agree with my system the last time I tried it. There's nothing wrong with that!
05/28/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
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Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
It isn't a big deal as it depends on the couple how they want to prevent pregnancy.
Of course it is alright, why wouldn't it be, if that's what the couple wants and agrees on... ^^
05/28/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I hate them and it annoys me that we have to use them but we're really not ready for a baby and I don't want artificial hormones in my body.
05/29/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
i personally dont like condoms but if i miss a pill and my fiancee really wants sex ofcourse wed use a condom
05/29/2012
Terri69 Terri69
It is a form of birth control, some women can not take the pill.
05/29/2012
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Married for 13 years, together for 23 and still use them. Never thought it was taboo, just a form of birth control that is easy to use and obtain.
05/29/2012
namelesschaos namelesschaos
I never knew people found it taboo to use condoms in marriage. There are many reason married people would use condoms.

Birth Control keep in mind:
-some people reacts poorly to hormonal birth control, hence condoms work better for them
-some people have moral/ethical objection to hormonal birth control but not condoms.
-some have easier access to condom then they do other forms of birth control.
-Some find it easier to remember to put a condom on each time then remember to take a pill every day.
-Some have them as a backup in case their partner forgot to take the pill.
-Some people are very cautious about unplanned pregnancy and like having both a barrier and a hormonal form of birth control in place.

STD prevention keep in mind:
-Consensual non-monogamy (married doesn’t equal monogamy)
-People with known STD get married too, some chose to have sex and use condoms to minimize the risk of transmitting it to their partners.

Some people don’t like the feeling of semen inside them and would prefer easy clean up.
Using them on toys.
For anal due to concerns about the “mess”

And I could probably think of more but ya plenty of reason for married people to use condoms.
05/29/2012
Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by kendra30752
Ummm... I would think it'd be OK, but if you're talking about in a case where there's no need to worry about pregnancies and the married couple are absolutely monogamous, I don't see why they would WANT to use a condom--if both are ...
Oh Kendra, I share your perspective but hope it will not create any chaos for some couples out there!
05/29/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Quote:
Originally posted by spunkmonkey
Why would it not be ok? A lot of people use them as their form of birth control. Not to mention other reasons.
^this. I'm married and I don't like condoms and use another form of birth control. But if that was the only one out there, I absolutely would use them!
05/29/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
As a form of birth control. When a woman has a yeast infection or something to that nature. If you are on birth control and taking an antibiotic.
05/29/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
It makes sense to use it as a birth control or STD preventative
05/29/2012
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
I actually agree with everything you guys are saying. I just know a few married people especially women who feel like if there husbands want to use condoms then he is hiding something. I feel like condoms are a wonderful contraceptive idea.
05/29/2012
Deeder Deeder
After the birth of our son, we knew we wanted more kids, but we still wanted to wait a year or two between. While we could've gone the route of pills or what not, we knew that sometimes the hormones take a while to get out of your system, and that wouldn't necessarily work for us. Plus, there are times where we wanted to try the "enhanced" condoms (textured, cooling, etc).

Unfortunately, it turns out my husband has developed an allergy to latex, so it really limits us in our options.
05/30/2012
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