Is it ok for married people to use condoms? Are there certain situations that would change your opinion?

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Is it ok for married people to use condoms? Are there certain situations that would change your opinion?

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Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Is there ever a situation that would make it OK for you and your husband to use a condom. Please give me an example of when you think it is OK, or why you feel like it is never OK.
Sure if they are trying to prevent pregnancy.
05/30/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
It's definitely ok. Could be practically essential if it's the only birth control used, one partner has a STI or if the pair are not monogamous.

Sometimes it just makes clean up quicker.
05/31/2012
Contributor: L&P3040 L&P3040
We had to use condoms after the birth of our first child. As soon as one of us get fixed it'll be back to bare dogging it. Can't wait!!!!
05/31/2012
Contributor: Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
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Originally posted by Deeder
After the birth of our son, we knew we wanted more kids, but we still wanted to wait a year or two between. While we could've gone the route of pills or what not, we knew that sometimes the hormones take a while to get out of your system, and ... more
Actually, I am allergic to Latex as well and have just started using the Skyn condom by Lifestyles, and I must say it is quite nice. Have him try it out.
06/01/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Skipped pills and not wanting any/more kids.
06/01/2012
Contributor: chuckthompson453 chuckthompson453
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Is there ever a situation that would make it OK for you and your husband to use a condom. Please give me an example of when you think it is OK, or why you feel like it is never OK.
don't see anything wrong with condoms
06/01/2012
Contributor: CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
Condoms are what we use as birth control since I would rather not mess with my body with the pill.
06/04/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
I actually agree with everything you guys are saying. I just know a few married people especially women who feel like if there husbands want to use condoms then he is hiding something. I feel like condoms are a wonderful contraceptive idea.
Mrs. T&G said; "just know a few married people especially women who feel like if there husbands want to use condoms then he is hiding something"

That is a heavily paranoid way of looking at the situation! Jeez. I trust my partner completely, we use withdrawal as a form of birth control, and once in a while he'll ask if I have a condom, so that he can come inside. I don't get paranoid about it, I look in the sex toy drawer to see if we have any polyisproine condoms. (I'm allergic to latex.) It's NEVER occurred to me (and it never would) that he was cheating, as I'll sometimes ask the same thing, for the same reason. I'm not cheating. Also, some men may have reason to believe that they need added birth control (this seems to happen with they are under a lot of stress at work, or are in fear of losing their job or just found out they are not getting a bonus, and a child would be a burden at the time) and are certainly NOT cheating.

I think a woman who thinks like that ("he's asking to use a condom, he's cheating") has a MUCH less honest relationship with her husband than she is letting onto. Marriage is about trust. If you don't trust your husband, then I'd look other places in the relationship that whether he wants to use a condom or not.

I'm actually flabbergasted that ANYONE would read "cheating" into a request to use a form of birth control!
06/04/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Deeder
After the birth of our son, we knew we wanted more kids, but we still wanted to wait a year or two between. While we could've gone the route of pills or what not, we knew that sometimes the hormones take a while to get out of your system, and ... more
They make both polyurethane and polyisproine condoms. I'm allergic to latex, and we use these on the occasion that we use condoms.

Here's Lifestyles Skyn one brand of polyisproine condoms that Eden carries.

06/04/2012
Contributor: Talena Talena
It's up to the couple. I personally have never been able to have a condom used with me. But if we were to experiment with other couples I would demand one despite the allergy.
06/04/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Talena
It's up to the couple. I personally have never been able to have a condom used with me. But if we were to experiment with other couples I would demand one despite the allergy.
Please read my previous post.

DO NOT use latex condoms if you have an allergy. Anaphylactic shock can KILL you!

There are non-latex condoms. LOOK at the post above yours your post for more details.
06/04/2012
Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
i think condom is a great idea
06/12/2012
Contributor: WD40watcher WD40watcher
I don't see why is would not be ok. Whether you are married or not, if you do not intend on getting pregnant and having a child than you use a form of birth control.
06/12/2012
Contributor: booboo111926 booboo111926
yeaa. some people just aren't ready for kid or have health reason that wont allow them to.
06/14/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Yes it's okay. Especially if you don't want kids!
06/14/2012
Contributor: A.noel A.noel
It should not be an issue for anyone. But what married people do in their own bedroom condoms or not is no one's business. Some people can't use hormonal birth control so in that case it would be necessary to use condoms to prevent pregnancy.
06/14/2012
Contributor: butts butts
I don't see why it would EVER be inappropriate for anyone, married or not to use condoms for whatever reason, be STIs/STDs, pregnancy protection, mess, yeast infections, etc.... Not everyone wants to be on/can be on the pill, condoms dont have side effects, the pill does, and condoms are easy to find/cheap/simple.
06/16/2012
Contributor: AU AU
Some people view contraception of any sort as an act against God, and/or believe after marriage comes being "fruitful" (or trying to be.). For these people contraception may not be acceptable.

I think that all sexually active people should be careful as bringing more people into the world is a pretty big deal and affects everyone. I strongly recommend that couples use condoms or other contraception in their family planning. But of course this is a personal and/or couple decision.

We don't want kids, definitely no problems with contraception here.
06/16/2012
Contributor: CoffeeCup CoffeeCup
I am baffled by this question, honestly.

You specify condoms. Why would other forms of contraception be acceptable but not condoms?
06/19/2012
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
I can't imagine it being an issue in most situations. However, if your husband has never worn a condom in several years of marriage and suddenly puts one on, I can imagine it raising an eyebrow.

For my husband and I, we had no issue wearing a condom the few times during our marriage when I was not pregnant or on birth control.
08/08/2012
Contributor: digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Is there ever a situation that would make it OK for you and your husband to use a condom. Please give me an example of when you think it is OK, or why you feel like it is never OK.
yes
08/08/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
Why would it not be okay to use condoms? I mean, I'm a health clinic volunteer so I'm generally very much in favor of condoms for everyone, so maybe I'm missing something here. Still, the bottom line is, if even just one partner needs a certain form of protection to be used in order to be comfy, either that method gets used or you can't have sex. Consent is important, y'all.
08/09/2012
Contributor: VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
Of course condoms are ok! But I agree, if you're married and never really used condoms a lot and all of a sudden your partner wants to start using them I'd definitely be concerned.
08/09/2012
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
I am on a birth control pill...however, anytime I am on a medication that can cancel out the effects of the pill we ALWAYS use a condom!!! We are not financially ready for children. However, if a married couple chooses to wear a condom, I think that is a personal choice. We prefer to not use one unless we have to.
08/09/2012
Contributor: panthercat23 panthercat23
It's personal choice if they use condoms or another form of birth control.
08/09/2012
Contributor: Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Mrs. T&G said; "just know a few married people especially women who feel like if there husbands want to use condoms then he is hiding something"

That is a heavily paranoid way of looking at the situation! Jeez. I trust my partner ... more
Exactly, my husband and I have used condoms for months know, and I never thought a second thought about it. But to sit and talk to some of these ladies, I will admit that something seems fishy. She is on bc but out the blue on day he wants to use a rubber? My thought was isshe on the pill and maybe he is worried about "mistakes". People have there reasons, but I would need an explanation under certain circumstances.
08/09/2012
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
I don't understand why it wouldn't be okay.
08/09/2012