My man says that after so long a relationship is bound to go sour NO MATTER WHAT!!!

I'm sorry. It's never an easy subject but there's only one way to know and that's ask him. There could be lingering resentments or other emotional brick walls that prevent him from feeling satisfied. It's best to find out now instead of assuming everything is ok.

You would do well to also note the context of the conversation and use that to dig a little deeper into what he may or may not be thinking.

I totally agree with Audra. It also might be that he just fears or flat out doesn't want a long term relationship. If that's the case; yeah, for him, all relationships past a certain point are doomed. I would get this stuff out on the table now. Also, there's a lot more to a long term relationship and what causes it to or not to go sour than sex.

There is also a lot more to a relationship than the sex.That is just one part of a huge equation. And no relationship is easy. They always take work. If you dont work at it yes it will go sour.

He is wrong. All you need is love, a simple sense of fun, and the will to make some sacrifices for others.

Basically, you have to be a good person.

Love is not enough.

Relationships are about first, and foremost, communication. Then compromise, respect, sex, common interests, laughing, etc. It's supposed to be a friendship more than romance. When the day-to-day gets tedious and you don't feel romantic, there has to be more.

I've never met one person, not ONE. SINGLE. PERSON. who has been married for more than 3 years who said it's always romantic and sexy and they're "so in love."

There are days I almost HATE my husband. He makes me mad. He does things to offend me. He makes me cry. There are days he really doesn't like me either. There are days where I piss him off and say something wrong, or do something that affects our family that we didn't discuss before hand and it upsets him.

He also makes me laugh until tears run out of my eyes. He listens to me. He holds me when I cry. We love to watch movies together and both appreciate bookstores as if they're sex stores! We share similar views and can talk about them for days on end. He brings me flowers "just because." He considers me a superhero when everyone is sick and have been up all night caring for our little family. I respect that he works so hard for our family. I'm proud of his integrity and work ethic.

AND... on top of all of that, we share an insanely satisfying sex life. But that insane satisfaction can ONLY happen when we're communicating and are respectful and loving towards each other. It's like the sprinkles and whipped cream on the sundae that is our relationship. (I don't like maraschino cherries)

Also, we have had dry spells in our sexual relationship in the past. I'm sure there are some to come too. Sometimes life is too much and sex is not a priority.

I can't add much to this discussion but I agree with what's been said. You guys could always go see a couples counselor too, no? Perhaps a bit of therapy and open discussion would help on strengthening the relationship.

There are many statistics and stories that will refute his claim. It takes effort and there will be times where it is harder and things are dry, but if you work on it your relationship just keeps getting deeper.