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MamaDivine MamaDivine
I was wondering, how many of you have done this? Does this sound like a good idea? What do you think would come of this?

Back when I was married to my first husband, he looked at a lot of porn. I'm not just talking that he was on the sites here and there, he was on them daily. He had a porn addiction.

Well, my creative mind thought "Well, maybe if I do something like that, then he'll want to see ME instead of the porn!" So I did. I was very conservative and didn't really get into all that stuff in the past and for me to take photos of myself (nudes, close ups of certain areas hehe, etc etc) and even take a few videos of myself masturbating, it was a huge step for me.

In the end, it didn't work out too well. Not days later, he started back into watching the porn (he watched/looked at my stuff too-but, still with the porn). Of course, this devastated me and I was at a loss of what to do to get his attention away from it.

Eventually, he ended up cheating on me with my cousin and we divorced. I know, blah blah-TMI. But, I was wondering, have any of you ever tried this idea? (In general, not to pull your partner away from anyone or anything lol).

If so, how did it work out?
04/12/2012
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Iron Man Iron Man
I've made home videos for my partner before and it was a smashing hit. Went great and I intend to do it again some time. I've let her take videos of me too, whenever I'm visiting.

Pretty much a normal thing for us, if infrequent.
04/12/2012
PeppermintPatty PeppermintPatty
The porn is not what made him cheat! He would have done it anyway. Men are visual creatures. The women they lust after in porn are different from the ones they settle down with. If he was watching porn before the two of you became a couple, then you should not have tried to change that. Just join in on the watching and relax. Having a woman that is willing to watch is a bigger turn than a woman trying to change you.
04/22/2012
Cwhitten006 Cwhitten006
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Originally posted by PeppermintPatty
The porn is not what made him cheat! He would have done it anyway. Men are visual creatures. The women they lust after in porn are different from the ones they settle down with. If he was watching porn before the two of you became a couple, then ...
My husband watches porn..he didn't before we had children. After children I gained a lot of weight, we also started dating as teenagers, so obviously my body would change. I use to wear a size 5 pants and weighted 130 and now after 4 kids (2 are twins) I wear a 14 pant and weight 220. He says he looks at porn to get ideas for us in the bedroom, but I highly doubt that. All the women are blonde and skinny, what I use to be. I've tried doing things like they did, but it didn't help..so I put a password on the computer and he can't even get on computer without me putting in password. HAHAHA!!! Yes, I treat him like a child, but there is no more porn. He tried ordering it on his phone, but I put a stop to that too. Our cell phones are in my name. I don't believe in porn, and I want him to focus on me not fake tits. He says with tax money one year I could go get my boobs done and lipo and tummy tuck, but I'm ok with my body, I don't think it is disgusting just another type of beauty!!
04/29/2012
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I make porn for my partners all the time, but it isn't to try to control their porn watching habits, it's just because it's fun for me.

My SOs both watch porn, and I encourage it and love it. I know one SO does so for many hours every day. It doesn't affect our sex life and he's still in love with me and finds me attractive, even though I've gained a lot of weight, etc. He shows that to me daily.
04/29/2012
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
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Originally posted by PeppermintPatty
The porn is not what made him cheat! He would have done it anyway. Men are visual creatures. The women they lust after in porn are different from the ones they settle down with. If he was watching porn before the two of you became a couple, then ...
I agree. Cheating is cheating and porn is porn. They are unrelated. Studies show people who watch porn are less likely to do unsavory things in some areas, because they have an outlet.
04/29/2012
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
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Originally posted by Cwhitten006
My husband watches porn..he didn't before we had children. After children I gained a lot of weight, we also started dating as teenagers, so obviously my body would change. I use to wear a size 5 pants and weighted 130 and now after 4 kids (2 ...
Your starving him of any excitement. I don't care what dress size you wear, but you should appreciate the fact that he will fulfill his need no matter what you do. Concentrate on being constructive, your driving him away. And if he's willing to help you feel sexier, you may want to consider the positive effect it can have.
05/04/2012
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
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Originally posted by VelvetDragon
I agree. Cheating is cheating and porn is porn. They are unrelated. Studies show people who watch porn are less likely to do unsavory things in some areas, because they have an outlet.
I second that, porn had little to nothing to do with it, it may have bought some time(maybe not quality time). Without great things to look forward to together marriages fail. You have to feed it.
05/04/2012
prettynpink prettynpink
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Originally posted by MamaDivine
I was wondering, how many of you have done this? Does this sound like a good idea? What do you think would come of this?

Back when I was married to my first husband, he looked at a lot of porn. I'm not just talking that he was on the sites ...
I have taken pictures and sent them to him, he loved it
05/12/2012
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