Hah, yeah right! No way in HELL is my fiance ever getting that lucky.
Would you ever consider adding a third to spice things up?
06/15/2011
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I just had a GF who "pretended" to be another woman...kind of letting him "cheat" without ANY cheating. Simply blindfolded him, put on different perfume, etc. Worked great for them.
Originally posted by
tammyandy69
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06/17/2011
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Sounds hot in theory. I have know it to be a disaster for two different marriages...both, interestingly, where the wife "secured" another woman for her husbands pleasure!!! Later, when jealousy and real human emotions kicked in...it was not a happy thing anymore.
Originally posted by
CPTInsanity
The situation would have to be right. I'm not trying to screw up a good thing. I'm not a jealous person, so I could deal with my wife having sex with someone else, but I'm not sure she could deal with me doing the same. I think that it
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The situation would have to be right. I'm not trying to screw up a good thing. I'm not a jealous person, so I could deal with my wife having sex with someone else, but I'm not sure she could deal with me doing the same. I think that it would be pretty hot because I'm completely about pleasuring my wife, and I would do anything to give her the most pleasure.
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06/17/2011
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That is both interesting in it's complexity and in your honesty about it. Nothing simple about this stuff, is there?
Originally posted by
hspence
i've tried it before and even tho i'm bi and love women i can't handle my man being with someone else
06/17/2011
The boyfriend and I recently had an amazing threesome with one of my best friends!!! When I brought up the group sex idea first he didn't believe me, then he asked where to we "go find a girl like that?" I sternly reminded him that 1) women are not boxes of frosted flakes to be picked from a shelf whenever you have a craving and 2) I'm only having sex with someone I trust and care about and 3) why are you limiting yourself to women? So I suggested we adopt the view of not seeking out a person, but just recognizing the opportunity when it arises and not being afraid to ask. For my life, group sex should manifest naturally when you're surrounded by people you love and someone just suggests we all take off our pants.
06/17/2011
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we would have to totally trust them and talk and talk and talk some more
Originally posted by
tammyandy69
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06/22/2011
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HAHAHAHA. I love this part: "and someone suggests we all take off our pants." Those are crazy situations, but they do happen. It's happened to me multiple times. That might be because I am in college though. I wonder if it will continue to happen throughout my life.
Originally posted by
teeny <3
The boyfriend and I recently had an amazing threesome with one of my best friends!!! When I brought up the group sex idea first he didn't believe me, then he asked where to we "go find a girl like that?" I sternly reminded him that 1)
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The boyfriend and I recently had an amazing threesome with one of my best friends!!! When I brought up the group sex idea first he didn't believe me, then he asked where to we "go find a girl like that?" I sternly reminded him that 1) women are not boxes of frosted flakes to be picked from a shelf whenever you have a craving and 2) I'm only having sex with someone I trust and care about and 3) why are you limiting yourself to women? So I suggested we adopt the view of not seeking out a person, but just recognizing the opportunity when it arises and not being afraid to ask. For my life, group sex should manifest naturally when you're surrounded by people you love and someone just suggests we all take off our pants.
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06/23/2011
My girlfriend and I discussed this subect and to my surprise she was open to the thought of bringing another woman (or even a couple)into our relationship. We placed an ad on a swing site, received some replies. but didn't find the "right" person(s).
So at this time, we are still open to the thought but waiting patiently to find the right person.
So at this time, we are still open to the thought but waiting patiently to find the right person.
06/24/2011
I could not imagine sharing my hubby with someone else and I love him so I would never want to be with someone else. And it's not right IMHO. Sex is supposed to be between two people who love each other. Anything else is just icky and wrong. I think if two people truly love each other, they should enjoy the gift of sex with each other only and that should be enough. And really, the best sex comes with someone you are comfortable with to be open and communicate.
06/30/2011
I personally think this is a terrible idea. Just...for every reason imaginable. It's a fantasy most guys have , and some girls I suppose, but the reality of it is NOT that great. IMO.
07/04/2011
CutiePatootie
We love it.
07/27/2011
I don't think I could emotionally handle seeing someone else with my husband.
07/27/2011
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we have and like it
Originally posted by
tammyandy69
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07/27/2011
I could never share my husband with anyone, nor would he want to have sex with anyone else. We took our vows for a REASON.
07/28/2011
are you talking about a threesome or are you talking about an addition to the relationship? i think a threesome would be fun, but a third on the relationship would be a bit challenging
07/28/2011
I could never share my husband with anyone, nor be with anyone else.. and although I've known guys who have said they'd like to have a 3some, or watch their woman with another woman, I also know that believe it or not, it makes the guy incredibly jealous afterwards, and makes them worry about being good enough because they thought the third did a better job than them and vise versa. Bringing a third is just a bad idea because rather than spicing up you're relationship, afterwards can destroy all trust and confidence each other had in one another.
07/29/2011
I'm not comfortable personally with sex without feelings, and my partner is demisexual, so adding someone just for sex wouldn't work for us. We would consider adding a third as someone we were in a relationship with.
07/29/2011
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The idea of my wife with another woman is definitely an awesome fantasy, but the thrill of a fantasy is that it's open to imagination. There's no room for jealousy or any other feelings.
Originally posted by
tammyandy69
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08/03/2011
I would probably have to give it a lot of thought before making that decision
08/12/2011
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I didn't vote, because I've actually already added a third in the past. It was awful, but mostly because of who we chose to add. We added a man and it ended up just being really... upsetting. He didn't want to follow our rules about it and it was a total mistake. Its been a year since it happened and I'm only now able to look back on it and not get sick to my stomach.
Originally posted by
tammyandy69
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08/12/2011
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That's exactly where we are now. After a really bad threesome experience (there was no penetration, but oral sex), I don't feel comfortable with it anymore. The fantasy is great, but its totally not worth the emotional sacrifice of it.
Originally posted by
Lithaewyn
I said no because I can't imagine the potential sacrifice ever being worth any additional pleasure.
08/12/2011
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I agree with your husband. I would enjoy another pair of loving hands and a warm mouth to kiss and arouse my wife in places I can not reach due to position limitations.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
We have had threesomes for spice but I prefer something more substantial and Sigel likes the ease of knowing our partner is clean and safe around the kids....and he likes having someone else to "deal" with me! (His words >.<)
08/12/2011
Tried it a few times. It caused lots of troubles, arguments and hurt both of us. Won't be going there again.
08/16/2011
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That's exactly what it did to my previous marriage. And to another relationship I was in.
Originally posted by
southern woman
I could never share my husband with anyone, nor be with anyone else.. and although I've known guys who have said they'd like to have a 3some, or watch their woman with another woman, I also know that believe it or not, it makes the guy
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I could never share my husband with anyone, nor be with anyone else.. and although I've known guys who have said they'd like to have a 3some, or watch their woman with another woman, I also know that believe it or not, it makes the guy incredibly jealous afterwards, and makes them worry about being good enough because they thought the third did a better job than them and vise versa. Bringing a third is just a bad idea because rather than spicing up you're relationship, afterwards can destroy all trust and confidence each other had in one another.
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08/16/2011
No thanks! Definitely not for us.
08/16/2011
I think it's great for people who are open to it. I couldn't do it.
08/16/2011
Never could do it.. I'm a one on one type
08/17/2011
No, I think it would really be strange and weird.
08/19/2011
My boyfriend and I keep bringing up the possibility of another guy. He has a friend from high school he's messed around with who totally wants to play with us, but the guy needs to shave his scraggly artist-beard first before I'd be game. Then theres the whole "nut up or shut up" aspect of it that i need to get over. I wouldn't ever want to add another girl though. I have absolutely no interest in vagina, and I have jealousy issues.
09/07/2011
the wife and I have talked about this and we're currently looking for another woman to play with
09/16/2011