The penis size

Christian Christian
I think my question is more lady-oriented ..just wanna know how important is the size of the penis for a good relationship?
05/21/2008
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Jennifer Jennifer
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Originally posted by Christian
I think my question is more lady-oriented ..just wanna know how important is the size of the penis for a good relationship?
As I tell all who ask, size is not the most important factor or only factor in sex and relationship. Size doesn't make sex good or bad. But it can make it worse if other areas are lacking... if you know what I mean.
05/21/2008
Rachell25 Rachell25
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Originally posted by Christian
I think my question is more lady-oriented ..just wanna know how important is the size of the penis for a good relationship?
Size is not the most important aspect for me and I really wouldn't put the focus on the inches.
What most men have is almost certainly enough to satisfy a woman and there are many more important things than penis size.
05/21/2008
BiancaBi BiancaBi
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Originally posted by Christian
I think my question is more lady-oriented ..just wanna know how important is the size of the penis for a good relationship?
I can not say that size does not matter at all, but in my experience, penis size is never the reason I'm not happy.
05/21/2008
Lilith Desiderata Lilith Desiderata
I agree with the gals above - you could be hung like livestock, but if you're not treating me right and showing love (not just lust!) I'm not going to be impressed. And in general, guys seem fixated on length, whereas even a woman who's raring to go is, I believe on average, no deeper than 6". There's a cervix back there, and I think a lot of gals would agree with me that getting that smacked is no fun at all.
05/21/2008
Essin' Em Essin' Em
If you're either a size queen, or have an incredibly small vagina, it's possible that size is a deal breaker, especially for a one night stand. But seriously? How much of your relationship is going to be having sex? I mean, in my ideal life, it'd be a few hours everyday, but in the real world? Maybe, at tops, a few hours a week. PLUS, not all sexual experiences involve teh Penis, so really, how much time in any relationship are you ACTUALLY going to be hanging out with it? Not so much.

So what *is* important is how well you two mesh, how you get along, if you can deal with each others imperfections, etc.

Best of luck!
05/23/2008
Sleeping Dreamer Sleeping Dreamer
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Originally posted by Christian
I think my question is more lady-oriented ..just wanna know how important is the size of the penis for a good relationship?
I don't think penis size has any importance on a relationship unless both parties are only in it for their own sexual gratification.. but if that's the case, what kind of relationship is that? I love the penis and I love it regardless of what shape, length, color, girth, etc it is.
05/27/2008
TexasBrat TexasBrat
I've been with a variety of sized males, and, though I will say I like a fuller feeling, it's not a relationship killer if the guy's smaller.
06/29/2008
Bulma Bulma
I've noticed that size gets a lot of attention...way more attention than it should. I don't think most women care about the size that much, girth or length. I have only been with men of average size (5-6 inches length and 1 1/2 inch diameter for girth) and it was never an issue. Granted the man who's penis I've loved the most was the man I chose to marry, but it had very little to do with the size of his cock. It was the tenderness and passion that he displayed, the confidence and the willingness to please and show his pleasure.

Another issue that I do believe makes a lot of difference is shape, and by that I mean a curve. I've never had the pleasure of being with a man who's penis curves downward, but I've been with men who were straight and my husband who's penis curves upward or towards his abdomen when erect. It doesn't seem like a big deal, but allows for easier g-spot stimulation during different positions. I actually can achieve a G-spot orgasm from missionary position, as long as my husband doesn't finish too quickly
07/08/2008
Lynx Lady Lynx Lady
I agree that penis size doesn't, or at the very least shouldn't, be, anything close to a deal-breaker in a relationship. The depth of a vagina is usually around four inches, beyond that it's all stretch. And considering it's stretch *into* her body, there's not a lot of that. Width-wise there is a good bit more give and take. I would say I've experienced problems with either end of the spectrum. I had a lover who was smaller and totally unwilling to put forth effort to please me, and a lover who I had such bad communication with that he was jabbing at my spleen. Ultimately, it wasn't the size of their cocks that made these relationships ones I left, the problems in bed were symptoms of issues in the relationship as a whole. My current lover is deliciously average, but if things between us were not as good as they are I would no doubt be unhappy with the sex we have. For me the more compelling things about a penis are the girth and curve of it, far more than length alone.
07/10/2008
Betty Rocket Betty Rocket
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Originally posted by Christian
I think my question is more lady-oriented ..just wanna know how important is the size of the penis for a good relationship?
I recently had a MFM with a well endowed man. He had a GINORMOUS 10 inch cock, and my cunt ran SCREAMING. Big dicks are extremely overrated. Fun to look at, but so's a lion at the zoo. I think it really depends more on who the cock is attached to then what size it is.
07/22/2008
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Jennifer
As I tell all who ask, size is not the most important factor or only factor in sex and relationship. Size doesn't make sex good or bad. But it can make it worse if other areas are lacking... if you know what I mean.
I agree...size isn't quite the issue if the owner is skilled in many areas. Also length isn't as much an issue as width.
~Airen
02/25/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
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Originally posted by Betty Rocket
I recently had a MFM with a well endowed man. He had a GINORMOUS 10 inch cock, and my cunt ran SCREAMING. Big dicks are extremely overrated. Fun to look at, but so's a lion at the zoo. I think it really depends more on who the cock is attached to ... More
This is actually a great quote, LOL! I miss Betty. =(

A bigger or thicker dick is better for some positions, a smaller or thinner dick is better for others. I hate being on top when the guy has a big dick, for example, but I prefer a well-endowed man over a smaller man when I'm in doggy.
02/25/2009
Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
This is actually a great quote, LOL! I miss Betty. =(

A bigger or thicker dick is better for some positions, a smaller or thinner dick is better for others. I hate being on top when the guy has a big dick, for example, but I prefer a ... More
I'm with you, I can't have sex with me on top, with a guy with a longer dick, nor can I "grind" on a long dildo either. Just physically does not work for me.
02/26/2009
Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
I have been with hubby poo for over 10 years and it still hurts. There are times that I wish it was smaller because I get sore so fast. I love him not for him not his dick, adn accept him how he is. However...really, really, small ones, are not fun because they come out so easily. My experiences range from about 4 to over 9. Perfect for just feeling is honestly somewhere in the middle I guess, but when I am away from him, I crave his and only his.
02/26/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
hmm I have a question now...

1. Is 6 inch to big to go all the way in (base of penis and area around the base are touching the vagina).. I wouldn't want to poke anything important that might hurt.

BTW I think the average is like 5-6 inches... But the studies that are higher inch ratios are usually not measured by someone else, they are usually done by polls or people skewing the results, basically lying... At least this is what I've read. I would only trust a study done by a "measuring staff". LOL, sounds like it'd be really huge to use a staff. (Joke)

*Below are just some ideas I threw out... (I'M NOT AN EXPERT - this is purely just for discussion)*

I would believe if it does not go all the way in your still receiving the same amount of pleasure (vaginally, anal might be different BC it might be deeper) at 8 inches as you would at +10 inches, BC it can only go in so far, the rest is not stimulated at all (There is an argument that mentally (smaller guy) you might feel more stimulated BC a bigger % of your penis would be stimulated)... This is if the girth was the same, but if girth is different you might have more surface being stimulated so it might be slightly more stimulating. But I'm not a Sexologist/Doctor/Expe rt. This could be an interesting study but I have no idea how they would measure it accurately.

I do however believe if you are able to go all the way in to your pubic bone you would be receiving more pleasure than some one that cannot. Because your whole shaft is being stimulated also your body is touching as well and stimulating the skin around the base of your penis. I know when I used my Fleshlight and it stimulates my whole penis vs just my hand which only covers part of it at any given time. I feel I get more pleasure out of the Fleshlight, I think (I say I think because it's different material and it has a texture, which my hand does not have and feels a little different. Plus with the hand you can adjust the tightness pretty easily. So it's not easy to compare. But, with the Fleshlight (STU) I do notice my orgasm do last a few seconds longer and are a little bit more powerful).
02/26/2009
Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
That depends of factors such as body size and position. Six inches is just wonderful to go in all the way.
02/26/2009
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Cinnamon Chambers
That depends of factors such as body size and position. Six inches is just wonderful to go in all the way.
6-7 inches and a man who knows what to do with them is heavenly!
~Airen
02/26/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
6-7 inches and a man who knows what to do with them is heavenly!
~Airen
Hah, I don't have a clue

That is the only problem I find with being a virgin is being inexperienced for the time you do have sex... I hope who ever I do it with has about the same amount of experience I do so I don't look like a dumb ass when I ask a lot of questions...

But on the flip side isn't the first time really great too because its new? And you never did it before, so it's really exciting?

Anyone care to share a female perspective on rhythm and thrusting what works best for you... I'm an info whore if anyone hasn't notice that about me..

After you had sex did you feel like you were missing out the whole time you didn't have sex (Like before the first time)
02/26/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I've only ever been with my current boyfriend. While he describes his penis as "average", I don't believe that there could ever be a penis made better to fit inside my body. Sometimes, if we're trying to get in a quickie and I'm not properly prepared, he actually feels like a bit of a stretch. Most times though, it feels like we're two pieces of a puzzle interlocking. That's a little mushy, I know, but in our case, our sizes accommodate each other perfectly.

As for the size issue... like mentioned by many above, it's not a make or break issue. Since most of the "pleasure spots" on the vagina are located not too far in, most penises, I'd think, would be able to stimulate them regardless of size. Even for smaller penises (what's the smallest one on a grown man? anyone know?), I'd bet that with the right position and effort, it could do just as much as a Kong Dong could
02/26/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
Um they can be so small that it sticks out like a centimeter or 2 but that's a medical condition called.. Micro Penis Hapeir or something so it can be REALLY small... here are some pics of the size very unusable link

Then on the large size ...

You can have a condition called elephantiasis and it can be huge and kinda of deformed saw a guy with a finger the size of a full dildo but he only had 2 fingers on that hand... he might have been able to do the best shocker ever.. link here of a guy with huge balls link
02/26/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
Soemthing interesting about plasticizers/phthalate s on baby boys and penis size

straight from wikipedia cant always trust it but ill post it anyway

It has been suggested that penis size differences between individuals is caused not only by genetics, but also by environmental factors such as culture, diet, chemical/pollution exposure,[54][55][56][ 57] etc. Endocrine disruption resulting from chemical exposure has been linked to genital deformation in both sexes (among many other problems). Chemicals from both synthetic (e.g. pesticides, anti-bacterial Triclosan, plasticizers for plastics, etc...) and natural (e.g. chemicals found in tea tree oil and lavender oil[58]) sources have been linked to various degrees of endocrine disruption. The plasticizer DEHP has been associated with smaller penis size. DEHP metabolites measured from the blood of pregnant women have been significantly associated with the decreased penis width, shorter anogenital distance, and the incomplete descent of testes of their newborn sons, replicating effects identified in animals.[59] Approximately 25% of US women have phthalate levels similar to those in the study.[59]

full article here link

I used tee tree oil now I'm wondering how big my thing would be had I not used it. heh. But I am generally happy with my size I guess
02/26/2009
Mae Baby Mae Baby
I think that it matters up to a certain point. I don't think any girl wants to be with a man that's "too" small. I love my hubby's penis tho because it's not to small not to big and it's just right for me. There are times and different positions that he can be to big or at least feel that way. I personally don't think I'd like to be with a super small guy but if he was the worlds perfect man with a slightly smaller penis I still think I'd take him.

It's kinda of like in the movie Twister "She didn't just marry your penis!" LOL...I think the guys attitude, looks, kindness and caring is a BIG part of what makes me stay with my hubby...not just his penis size.
04/05/2009
Machina Machina
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Originally posted by That Weird Guy
Hah, I don't have a clue

That is the only problem I find with being a virgin is being inexperienced for the time you do have sex... I hope who ever I do it with has about the same amount of experience I do so I don't look like a ... More
To answer the initial discussion question- size really does not mater to me. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who had the smallest penis I've encountered in person. Some of the worst sex I've ever had was with one of the bigger guys I've been with- 8". I find all those "male enhancement" commercials to be so silly, and totally misleading.

I actually prefer smaller guys because they can get all the way inside of you. I've found "smaller" guys stimulate my clit & g-spot better than larger guys. My perfect penis would be a 5" long and 1 1/2" in diameter.

I think the most satisfying sex comes from men with big brains rather than big dicks.
-they don't set their expectations by porn
-they know how important foreplay is to a girl's satisfaction
-they are knowledgeable about the female anatomy
-they know how to give a good massage
-they are aware of what pleases you & what doesn't (or are open to taking suggestions)

that weird guy- rhythm and thrusting is something that is also very important to me. Slow, deep, gentle thrusts work best for getting me off (think-one mississippi... thrust... two mississippi ... thrust... etc. Lots of kisses & caresses help too, along with steady clit massage. But I don't want the same rhythm and motion every time, usually just towards the very beginning, and right before I'm about to come. I can lose all orgasmic momentum if a guy changes his rhythm right before I'm about to come. I like some creativity with different paces and positions during the middle though, keeps things interesting. This is just me though, all girls are different. As I mentioned above, the best thing a guy can do is be aware of what pleases the particular girl they are with at the time.
04/05/2009
Tuesday Tuesday
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Originally posted by That Weird Guy
Hah, I don't have a clue

That is the only problem I find with being a virgin is being inexperienced for the time you do have sex... I hope who ever I do it with has about the same amount of experience I do so I don't look like a ... More
About the first time: Its not necessarily great. Mine wasn't. I was too nervous. The next guy I cared about more and it was much better. My son tells me that his first time was great. He and his girlfriend were at it for 15 hours. He sure doesn't get that stamina from his father. My son knew his girlfriend for a while before that first time.

Rhythm and thrusting: I personally prefer to be pounded - fast and hard. I don't believe all women are like this though.

My neighbor tells me she prefers for her husband to stay all the way inside her and just move back and forth, not in and out. She claims she read a study that showed that most uncircumcised men move this way instinctively and that women almost always prefer it. I'm the exception it would seem.
04/05/2009
Tuesday Tuesday
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Originally posted by Machina
To answer the initial discussion question- size really does not mater to me. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who had the smallest penis I've encountered in person. Some of the worst sex I've ever had was with one of the bigger ... More
I second Machina's vote for big brains over big dicks.

And I see by her description of what she likes that women indeed are all different regarding that.
04/05/2009
Rockin' Rockin'
I'll shamelessly admit that the size of a guy's cock does matter to me. I'm in a committed relationship now, so this isn't a big deal to me anymore, but before this I kind of had an idea of a minimum size in my mind. I've only had sex with the guy I'm with now, so I can't say that some other size wouldn't have worked. I guess if a guy were great in every other way it'd be fine if he weren't packing it like a horse down there. I'm a really picky person, and I figured if I were going to be stringent about so many other things, he might as well also be well hung.

All that said, the size of his cock doesn't affect how we get along in day-to-day life. So I see where people are coming from with the "you don't have sex all the time" statements. It sure is nice in the bedroom, though. I think it's more important that the size of the guy and the size of the gal matches than either size individually.

Oh, and a big YES to "girth is more important than length."
04/06/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
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Originally posted by Tuesday
About the first time: Its not necessarily great. Mine wasn't. I was too nervous. The next guy I cared about more and it was much better. My son tells me that his first time was great. He and his girlfriend were at it for 15 hours. He sure ... More
I read that study too.

I love this place. Good info all the time.

I don't like the penis enlargement commercials either they are misleading.

I know as a guy my self everyone in school was boasting about having a 10 inch cock but really now that's really huge and probably cause more problems than the oh's and ah's are worth in the long run.

Being up in the air about my own sexuality I'd prefer something kinda like 5 - 6 inches...NO BIGGER! I think average is perfect.. I like my size I would settle for a replica.. hehe. Anyone tried that make your own dildo thing I would love to have a mold of my penis sitting on my desk just as art.

I really want to know if it's safe to mold, safe to use (NO harmful materials like phthalates or other things) and doesn't smell bad...
04/06/2009
Christyd87 Christyd87
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Originally posted by Christian
I think my question is more lady-oriented ..just wanna know how important is the size of the penis for a good relationship?
To me, size is extremely important. If a guy is small, or even average, it just doesn't work for me.
04/12/2009
Magician Magician
I'm going to have to agree with Rockin up there that it's more of a two people matching thing over a size thing.
04/12/2009
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