Are we inferior?

LittleBird LittleBird
As a single person, do you ever feel inferior? Like something is wrong with you because you don't have a mate? I guess I'm just a pessimist but I'm just curious if anyone felt the same.
03/12/2011
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Chilipepper Chilipepper
I often feel I'm not 'good enough', yeah. After years in school of being ridiculed by guys who told me I was fat and ugly and gross ... it's hard to think of ever being good enough to have anyone's attention or love or desire.
03/12/2011
jfree jfree
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I often feel I'm not 'good enough', yeah. After years in school of being ridiculed by guys who told me I was fat and ugly and gross ... it's hard to think of ever being good enough to have anyone's attention or love or desire.
I used to get this a lot growing up too. I still have some self-esteem problems where I don't think I'm good enough either (really doesn't help my last breakup and the resulting fall-out haven't made my view any more rosy.)

To the topic: yeah, I have. But after a while, I've grown to like masturbation and learning to like my own company. I may not necessarily like myself, but I don't mind being in my own presence, if that makes sense.
03/12/2011
closed account closed account
i am aware of how messed up i am, lol. unfortunately i'm being serious
03/20/2011
Rockin' Rockin'
There is so much singlism in society that goes undetected by many people. I'm a fan of the blog on Psychology Today called Living Single. The woman who writes the blog covers a lot of the aspects of single life, singlism, myths about single people / the single life, and how to combat singlism.
03/20/2011
Ansley Ansley
Inferior? No. Maybe more baggage than your average coupled person, possibly.

There are so many different reasons why someone is single and infinitely more why some of those people are never able to hold relationships.
03/20/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
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Originally posted by LittleBird
As a single person, do you ever feel inferior? Like something is wrong with you because you don't have a mate? I guess I'm just a pessimist but I'm just curious if anyone felt the same.
Nah. But then most of the time I'm not really sure I could put up with having a partner. I like doing what I like, when I like!
I get interest from guys but I'm not interested in them..... they are inferior...hehehe.

I'm picky and won't settle for just any Tom, Dick or Harry!
03/21/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
Quote:
Originally posted by LittleBird
As a single person, do you ever feel inferior? Like something is wrong with you because you don't have a mate? I guess I'm just a pessimist but I'm just curious if anyone felt the same.
Nah. But then most of the time I'm not really sure I could put up with having a partner. I like doing what I like, when I like!
I get interest from guys but I'm not interested in them..... they are inferior (as in - not my type or they show interest too soon).
I'm picky and won't settle for just any Tom, Dick or Harry!
03/21/2011
wetone123 wetone123
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Originally posted by Shellz31
Nah. But then most of the time I'm not really sure I could put up with having a partner. I like doing what I like, when I like!
I get interest from guys but I'm not interested in them..... they are inferior (as in - not my type or they ... More
I feel the same way most of the time, then there are other times I miss being in a relationship, being loved and cared for. All the guys I meet have something wrong with them tho' I may be showing my age here but weren't guys better to women in the old days? Right now I;m just happy to be able to survive, take care of my business and play with my toys!
03/21/2011
Awby Awby
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Originally posted by LittleBird
As a single person, do you ever feel inferior? Like something is wrong with you because you don't have a mate? I guess I'm just a pessimist but I'm just curious if anyone felt the same.
I rarely feel inferior for being single, but do find that those in relationships seem to think I am lacking something, am lonely, or don't want to be around couples. It occasionally feels as though my mated friends would love to take me on as a "project" and get me into something resembling a relationship ~silent scream~ and seem unable to comprehend how I could be happy without a partner.
03/25/2011
tickle me pink tickle me pink
I used to feel that way all the time while I was in high school, since I didn't get my first boyfriend until my senior year. I really shouldn't have, but it's just one of those things that I could only see in hindsight.
03/26/2011
SoBlue SoBlue
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Originally posted by LittleBird
As a single person, do you ever feel inferior? Like something is wrong with you because you don't have a mate? I guess I'm just a pessimist but I'm just curious if anyone felt the same.
Oh, I agree totally, you feel lower on the food chain for sure... Its sad, but true
04/01/2011
CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
I cant really speak from my experience because I have been married for quite a few years and had a steady stream of girlfriends before that, but my sister inlaw had a pretty wierd experience when she was single. She would go out to the honky tonks with us on the weekends. For about three months no body would ask to dance with her or even talk to her. What is wierd is that she is a great looking really good girl, educated and is easy to talk to. But she seemed to have that feeling to her. She was living at my our house for like three months after she moved back to town, trying to find a new home. I couldn't understand it.
04/01/2011
Enchantedkitty Enchantedkitty
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Originally posted by LittleBird
As a single person, do you ever feel inferior? Like something is wrong with you because you don't have a mate? I guess I'm just a pessimist but I'm just curious if anyone felt the same.
sometimes.
04/10/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
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Originally posted by LittleBird
As a single person, do you ever feel inferior? Like something is wrong with you because you don't have a mate? I guess I'm just a pessimist but I'm just curious if anyone felt the same.
no, nothing makes you inferior b/c just b/c you're not in a relationship.
05/09/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
More often I feel lonely or frustrated because I don't have the strong emotional connection I'm looking for. It's a double-edged problem for me: guys rarely show any interest in me (or, if they do, they're often total jerks/creeps), and love-shyness on my end makes it harder for me to actively search out someone I like.

But I don't feel inferior. In fact, I'd say I actually feel rather proud because I've never "settled" or "given in" and accepted anyone I didn't really want.
05/14/2011
Noira Noira
I won't settle for any Dick, Dick, or Dick. I mean, I'd better be picky about whoever I spend the rest of my life with... how is considering the sanity of myself and a future partner being inferior? How is being picky being inferior? Considering me inferior for being single because I don't feel emotionally ready for a relationship, because I'm not jumping out to procreate... is basically bringing humans down to an animal level where all we exist for is the need to procreate, and not form a worthwhile life for ourselves in the future.

Why should I accept someone I don't want because of a biological urge?
05/15/2011
Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Being in a relationship with the same guy since 14 I dont quite understand how you feel, but I feel inferior sometimes because I am in a relationship. No doubt I love him and want to stay with him, but when Im with single friends or telling people in a committed at a young age makes me feel like there something wrong because we've been together so long. I think we're all crazy for thinking we're inferior for anything.
05/15/2011
deletedacct deletedacct
Society likes to paint single people as having some deficiency, but i think it can be a smart life decision based on the individual. What works for me might not work for everyone, that doesn't mean i'm 'inferior.'
06/22/2011
philz philz
My feeling of inferiority has nothing to do with my relationship status. (also agree with "chaingangsoflove")
07/02/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
no, being single doesn't mean you're inferior, it just means your single. if people treat me like i'm below them because of that, they need to reevaluate their priorities
07/08/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
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Originally posted by Shellz31
Nah. But then most of the time I'm not really sure I could put up with having a partner. I like doing what I like, when I like!
I get interest from guys but I'm not interested in them..... they are inferior...hehehe.

I'm picky ... More
yes! i totally agree with you
07/08/2011
zeebot zeebot
Nope. The only time I get a bit sad about being single is when I'm hanging out with couples and they start being all couple-y. Otherwise, I like being single! It's great!
07/18/2011
XeroXion XeroXion
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Originally posted by LittleBird
As a single person, do you ever feel inferior? Like something is wrong with you because you don't have a mate? I guess I'm just a pessimist but I'm just curious if anyone felt the same.
I've never felt inferior to others, and especially never would just because of a lack of a relationship. I wouldn't mind being in a relationship, but I'm on the shy end of the spectrum, and my personality seems to grate on a lot of my friends at times.

Basically, this is how I feel: I take care of all my sexual urges myself, when I want. I take care of all my social needs with close friends, when we can. In both cases, I feel more free than I think I would with a significant other. So, no, I don't ever feel inferior. I just occasionally feel lonely.
08/14/2011
Dear Ruby Dear Ruby
It's not being single that bothers me, it's the failed relationship, and the things in me that I know caused it Otherwise though, there are a lot of things I love about myself, and spending time by myself.
08/15/2011
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