Biggest turn-off on a first date?

Other. I hate it when someone acts like a jerk. Do not be rude to the waitstaff!

Homophobia, transphobia, racism, and other unsavory views are an absolute turn-off.

My area has some of the worst traffic in the USA, so I don't really mind if someone is running a little bit late. Just let me know. less

Several of those were turn offs to me, but I don't mind the phone thing much if I know they're only doing it out of nervousness. Now, after a while, it gets old. I would hope they would have the decency to put the phone away and focus on me. I also HATE when people are sloppy eaters. I wouldn't like them to act like a starved opposum. I don't mind a little noise, but smacking has always been one of my biggest pet petes (as I call it.) My twin is the same way. She slaps her man if he smacks! Lol it is hilarious.

Anyways, also if a guy is attempts to have sex with me after I've made it clear that I am not doing that, then he'll probably be dumped asap. & I haven't dated in a long time because my partner and I got together 5 years ago, but before that, I had a guy who I'd just met and every day he would text me and say "ask me personal questions" I would finally ask something personal, but not too personal and he'd answer and say "ask me more personal questions." I finally quit texting him or talking to him altogether after 3 days of that shit. I was like wtf do you want to tell me something? I couldn't stand it. That is seriously the only thing he texted! When I quit texting him he said "Do you want to ask me how big I am?" I said no, I DO NOT. If I wanted to know that I'd have already asked. It seemed like he was extremely selfish and self absorbed. It also came off as immature and I will NEVER speak to him again.

If a guy is rude to others or talks nastily about people a lot on a first date, I'd stop him immediately. I hate when people down others or point out everything wrong with strangers. I also hate when people think others are below them and that's just nasty. Actually, one of the things that turned me on most (and still does!) about my partner is that he goes out of his way to help others. He's always stopping to give old ladies a ride. Just a month ago he stopped to give an old lady a ride to the grocery store. We had plans, but she was very old and had a hurt leg & stayed in the store for an hour and he never complained. He waited and helped her load her groceries and then we took her home, but on the way home her hat flew out the window and landed on the side of the road. HE STopped, turned around and walked to get it and brought it back in the truck to her. It was a huge turn on! I never told him how attractive it was to me until that day and we've been together for 5 years!

I love the kind of heart he has. He spends so much of his time helping others. Acutally, just tonight we had gotten home late around 10:30 pm and an older male friend of ours lives on my road and he called needing a long ride to chatt which is a good hour away not including the time we had to spend waiting and he done it. Even after working all day long, he said let's go and we didn't get home until nearly midnight. It was nice though.

That's one of the biggest turn offs to me is when a guy doesn't respect others. or me! Or when he thinks he's too good to stop and help people. less