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can you keep a good friendship after you have a great sexual experiance with a friend. not just a one night stand but a sexual experiment. a understanding and journey if you will with that person? finding out what you like more and what they like
can you keep a good friendship after you have a great sexual experiance with a friend. not just a one night stand but a sexual experiment. a understanding and journey if you will with that person? finding out what you like more and what they like more. can you just go back to friends after? would you be able to?
I have three examples...some better than others. Ya know those relationships that just never made it fully official? Well I've had three of those and they all ended up as great friends. So...
Absolutely! IF, and that is a big IF, there is no new girl involved.
1. My best guy friend and I had to stop talking because his new girlfriend was too jealous once she found out I was the ex had talked about. It took over a year for him to finally have to make the break and being secretive and whatnot but finally she gave him the ultimatum. What's weird is her distrust and insecurity had/has gotten worse and worse as their relationship had gone on even though our talking lessened and then pretty much stopped all together. It was never weird for him and I because our relationship was based on a strong sexual attraction, we got it out of our system and then became best friends as we should have been from the start. She won't be comfortable with it until they are married...we'll see I guess. Our friendship is still strong, but we don't talk nearly as often as we used to because it has to be hush hush. But when we do, it is marathons of conversation and as if we never skipped a beat.
2. Another close guy friend of mine and I had our friendship get even better after we slept together. We only did a few times, but it was a long time coming since we had liked each other and dated in H.S. but never slept together. We were good friends then too but had a major falling out and had not even seen each other for years. We almost dated when we re-connected. He has not dated anyone since a year before we slept together and I think that is why our friendship is still strong. No meddling psycho girlfriends. But he is the type of guy that wouldn't let a girlfriend ruin his friendships, even if they are with girls.
3. And the last example is similar to #2, a guy I almost seriously dated a few times during outs of another relationship. Him and I are really close, but in this instance sometimes he puts blinders on that I am in a committed relationship and so I have to distance myself. He too has not dated anyone since a year before we slept together. No girls involved.
So all three were much more than one night stands. They were emotional and physical exclusive relationships that just never made it to being official (except the first...that one was). These are the only three guy friends I have slept with.
So I have concluded that if there is no other girl involved then it can happen, once there is and she is anything than 100% sure of herself or their relationship things can get complicated. It doesn't matter how comfortable you are with the other person, their partner might fuck it up.
I guess the real question is...can you keep it just friends if you have had that experience...hmmm