Depressed and lonely...

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Depressed and lonely...

kitty1949 kitty1949
hi guys. i don't know if this is the right place to post this, but whatever.

the past week i've been so depressed. like, whale shit at the bottom of the ocean depressed. a lot of it has to do with my disorder, PMDD, but some of it is situational.

i've been single forever. it's been 15 months since i've been intimate with anyone. i'm 23 and horny. i'm lonely. i just want someone to hold me and love me and touch me. all my friends are in great loving relationships and i am super happy for them, but it just makes me hurt even more.

i need to put myself out there more, but i guess i'm just afraid of getting hurt. all i want to do lately is lay in bed.

i don't know where i was going with this, but thank you all for reading/listening.
07/01/2012
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js250 js250


Here is a huge hug from a new friend. I remember feeling that way most of my life--it really depressed and hurt me as well. There are many things that I could say, but they are overstated and obvious. The only thing I can think of is what actually helped me in the long run--it did take time but at least I was working on feeling better.

I took special and extreme note of what was right in a relationship without also considering the negative as well. There are checks and balances for the good/bad in a relationship--remember those and make a list if need be, I did. For everything I wanted/needed more than anything in the world, I also made sure I wrote down the negative aspect. For instance, 'I want someone to hold me'--'I need some space and time for myself'. Make any sense? This did not diminish my want, but it did help put my feelings into perspective. Make a list of all the things you want to accomplish for YOURSELF before you are married or have a child-if you do not already-then start doing it. You will be happier and more satisfied when the relationship happens. Stop being so down on yourself--you are human and love and touch is a basic emotional need. But love yourself and like yourself first. Message me anytime you want to talk--I am here and understand how you feel. It has been a few years, but a person never forgets that feeling and depression.

Another hug!!
07/01/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I'm sorry! I have battled depression for about 5 years now. I have a chronic health condition that makes life a bit trying sometimes and it leads me into depression.

I know it is hard to try to do anything when you feel that way. Maybe put up a profile on a dating site if you haven't already? Maybe you won't find anyone that is right for you, but you may get a little bit of attention which can help the self-esteem.
07/01/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by kitty1949
hi guys. i don't know if this is the right place to post this, but whatever.

the past week i've been so depressed. like, whale shit at the bottom of the ocean depressed. a lot of it has to do with my disorder, PMDD, but some of it is ...
So sorry to hear you are having such a rough time right now.
07/01/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
*hugs* Going through it myself, honey, so I know exactly what you mean with being affection-starved. It sucks, it really does. You just want to skip the dating part so you can go immediately into the comfortable part. It's okay. You are okay, even though it feels awful.
07/01/2012
All His All His
***HUGS*** I have a history of depression and Anxiety Order that feeds into it. I am sorry to hear you are struggling. js250 did some of the same things I do when it gets bad. I write things down and it really helps
07/01/2012
kitty1949 kitty1949
thank you all so much. i am overwhelmed by your support. thank you for helping me get through this dark time
07/01/2012
Lavendar Lavendar
Hey girl, sorry you're feeling blue! I've been there as well. Even though you're lonely don't rush into a sexual relationship, it can make you feel even worse. If you want to try internet dating, I think OK Cupid is one of the better sites. A few of my friends have found good, down to earth people on their site. Stay strong, you can get through this! *Hugs*
07/01/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
I don't have depression but my partner does and I can see at least second hand how rough it can be. It can also mess with your sex-drive when it gets too bad. The thing that seems to help my partner is when I remind them that depression /is/ a disease and they're just going through a flare up. Then I try to get my partner to go out and have fun. Pamper yourself, go hang with a friend, maybe try online dating (I've had quite a few flops using online dating but going out at least gives you stories to laugh at and gets you out there. ) Try joining a social club on meetup.com, finding people with similar hobbies and interests as you is one step in the right direction and it will help pull you out of your funk, at least a little.

In any event, I'm sending hugs your way!
07/01/2012
*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
*hugs*
I know the feeling of being depressed just had my relationship of a year end a week ago and it SUCKS an I have been in bed just the same,which is why no one has really seen me on here
07/01/2012
kitty1949 kitty1949
You guys are the best. Love and light to you all. We gotta stick together.
07/02/2012
js250 js250
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Originally posted by kitty1949
You guys are the best. Love and light to you all. We gotta stick together.
Sounds like a wonderful plan--be strong for each other when one is down!! Hope you are feeling more cheerful and grounded!!
07/02/2012
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by kitty1949
hi guys. i don't know if this is the right place to post this, but whatever.

the past week i've been so depressed. like, whale shit at the bottom of the ocean depressed. a lot of it has to do with my disorder, PMDD, but some of it is ...
Bless your heart! I am sorry you are so depressed, but you have to be strong and confident. You never know if you are going to end up getting hurt, I'm 42 and sometimes I still hurt, and get hurt by my husband. We love eachother completely, but hurt is part of any relationship.

You will meet a great person, and you will be happy. It just seems like you won't, but things happen when they are supposed to happen. You may have someone in your life that you haven't even realized is wanting to get to know you.

Keep your options open, and if you look for love, you won't find it. You have to let it happen. Being alone will make u stronger, and you will appreciate yourself more if you don't depend on someone else for your happiness. Don't be depressed, you are beautiful and you are smart. The right person will come along and appreciate all your wonderful qualities. Hang in there!!!
07/02/2012
kitty1949 kitty1949
Thank you all for your kind words. I go through this all the time and I'm back in a funk, I guess you could call it. I just want affection. :/
08/21/2012
LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
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Originally posted by kitty1949
hi guys. i don't know if this is the right place to post this, but whatever.

the past week i've been so depressed. like, whale shit at the bottom of the ocean depressed. a lot of it has to do with my disorder, PMDD, but some of it is ...
Aww hun, we are in the same boat:

I have been single since 2006 and I haven't touched a man since then. My rare medical condition has isolated me from the outside world, so I can't get out and meet people.

I'm always willing to lend you my ear and virtual shoulder to cry on. I have Major Depressive Disorder and was diagnosed with moderate OCD, so I understand the depression and loneliness. I know this is a semi-older post, but I really hope you are feeling better now. If not, you can always message me anytime.

Just remember that:



No matter if you are single or not, there are people that love and care about you. I know it sounds all corny and shit, but sometimes just seriously thinking about that really does make you feel better.
08/21/2012
kitty1949 kitty1949
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Originally posted by LadyDarknezz
Aww hun, we are in the same boat:

I have been single since 2006 and I haven't touched a man since then. My rare medical condition has isolated me from the outside world, so I can't get out and meet people.

I'm always ...
08/21/2012
nikki0668 nikki0668
Depression sucks! I'm going through it myself. I left my husband who I love very much, but also cannot stand him (his morals just suck). Even my family can't stand him. But our sex life was wonderful. We never had problems with that area of our lives together. I keep being drawn back to him at times, just because I miss being with someone, but then I really regret it when I do back to see him. It's hard to move on. I've been going to therapy for my depression, and it is helping a lot.
11/27/2012
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