The girl I am in luv with has a bf. She has issues with him and rums to me for answers. We cuddle on my couch and everything....So am I just the friend or what?
You are in a bad position is what you are. Even if she does think of you as a relationship possible, she is tainting it by making you "the other guy" in this situation. More than likely she is using you to make herself feel like she is either in the right, or supported in her opinions and decisions (depending on the situation). With you she probably feels like she has comfort support, somebody who makes her feel perfect and that they will do anything for her. That may mean you are doomed to be the guy she runs to every time, but nothing ever happens with.
It is really difficult for somebody not knowing all the details of the situation to tell you what the answer is, the only thing I can say for sure is that if she has a bf and they are not in an open relationship he would not be ok with her running to and cuddling on the couch with another guy. It is probably something you should avoid. Let her relationship play out the way its going to, be ther for her if you need to be, just draw a line at friendship, maybe tell her if she wants more from you that you are open to it, but not while she is in a committed relationship with somebody else. If you are going to date her you want it to be all of her not just whatever part of her is not consumed with her other boyfriend.
From the info given, you are a friend. I wouldn't say that she loves you. If it starts to get more intimate I would say that she is digging you more. She is into you if she kisses you. Just be honest with her. Tell her that you see that way her bf treats her and you don't think it's ok. Tell her how you feel.
I've been that girl in the past, more than once. I'm not her but I was using these men to satisfy emotional needs that I was lacking in my relationship. I wasn't truly interested in these men deep down and it was nothing but lust because they gave me what I wanted. Very superficial.
In both cases I had escalated the situation to the point where it seemed I was going to stay with this other person, but ultimately I dropped them like a box of rocks. I'd say the odds are this is a similar situation.
And man, this really makes me seem like a manipulative cunt. Trust me, it was all a heat of the moment type of thing and I hadn't intended on being so cruel in either situation.
Hmmm, seems like she has the relationship with the other guy but she is also getting the emotional side she craves from you.
I know I found it extremely hard to be in your position. Sounds like she needs to ditch this other guy cause he clearly isn't satisfying her in every way.
I guess the only things you can do is either tell her how you feel and risk her running if that freaks her. Or, just be there for her and then approach her about your feelings if they break up in time.
But I know exactly how you're feeling and it's not nice being in that situation!