friends with benefits after relationships fail?

SoBlue SoBlue
I guess i have done that whole friends with benefits thing a time or two, just wondering the opinions of others
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always
ToyQuest , big b , Sex'и'Violence , LavenderSkies , Upyourreviews
5  (8%)
every once in a blue moon
sheree1 , slynch , MrRainybowbow , Waterfall , pinkcupcakes , ToyGurl , cherryredhead88 , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , toys=love , cobiffle , Miss Morphine , AnyBariz , null , MaryExy , GravyCakes , link82 , ashesqueer , -BillD , unfulfilled , dude , Liz2 , padmeamidala , MissK680 , Theaadrian , ellejay , Kdlips , dhig , Ms. Spice , authorzero , subwayrailings , T&L
31  (53%)
never
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23  (39%)
Total votes: 59
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05/05/2011
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sheree1 sheree1
it depends on how strong feelings are
05/05/2011
sheree1 sheree1
do both people want the same thing or one time only deal
05/05/2011
sheree1 sheree1
Quote:
Originally posted by SoBlue
I guess i have done that whole friends with benefits thing a time or two, just wondering the opinions of others
its always good when you can DO for each other
05/05/2011
MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
not something i've really done. i think i'd consider it if i knew and trusted the person. If me and my bf broke up and still were friends i probly would with him for awhile still if he was willing to but most likely he wouldnt want a noo strings attached thing.
05/05/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
I wasn't sure what answer to pick, but I did this with my last boyfriend before my fiance. We dated for three years. It was a high school thing, but it was still really serious and after we broke up we were friends with benefits up until only 5 days before getting with my fiance which is really funny. I didn't like the idea, but I just didn't know how to let him go. He was my first love.
05/06/2011
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Quote:
Originally posted by SoBlue
I guess i have done that whole friends with benefits thing a time or two, just wondering the opinions of others
I had to vote the way I did because it has happened for me, mostly with one person. I should have voted never because we always ended up back together, which in turn meant that we ended up breaking up again, and going back to FWB, and so forth. UGH
05/06/2011
toys=love toys=love
I voted once in a blue moon but then I got to thinking about it. Say you do and then you fall even more in love and one day the other person wants to call it off? Now your heart is broken even more so than it would have been. To me your just setting yourself up.
05/07/2011
cobiffle cobiffle
Done it before n its a little weird to do.
05/07/2011
indiglo indiglo
I can't recall ever doing that. Seems like a really bad idea, especially considering my exes!
05/07/2011
uu uu
I just can't do it.
05/07/2011
Rhazya Rhazya
I wouldn't do it, I'd feel I was degrading/devaluing myself personally. You either have all of me in a romantic relationship or none of me. If they "need some".. they have two hands and I can use my vibrator...

I wouldn't even want to be friends with them anymore, it would be too painful.
05/31/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
I considered it with my first guy, and depending on how bad a break-up was, I may consider it. If we just decided that we couldn't work emotionally but could both handle sex without the emotions, I'd be fine with sexing up until we met other people who looked interesting.
05/31/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I have done it before, but it left me feeling hollow cause I still had feelings. I won't make that mistake again.
Once it's over, it's OVER!
06/02/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
i had a fwb thing w/ my x after we broke up. we ended up getting back together a few months later.
06/12/2011
mandiegk mandiegk
I have never done it. I'm usually the one initiating the breakup so I would feel like I was stringing them along.
06/12/2011
Haifisch Haifisch
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Originally posted by mandiegk
I have never done it. I'm usually the one initiating the breakup so I would feel like I was stringing them along.
Same here. I wouldn't want to give them false hope, when I obviously didn't want to keep things going.
09/16/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
once it's dead, it's dead. I know when I'm done with a relationship i 1. really hate them or 2. have feelings for them and i would never want to be with someone the sex when there was an emotional component involved beforehand.
09/17/2011
minamouse minamouse
Quote:
Originally posted by SoBlue
I guess i have done that whole friends with benefits thing a time or two, just wondering the opinions of others
Usually not the best idea. FWB should be just for that purpose, and relationships separate
09/17/2011
ToyQuest ToyQuest
FWB is generally what I always go for, mostly because I haven't met the person I want to legitimately be in a relationship with...it usually works out well for a time.
09/30/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I've had FWB relationship before and it was just that. If people keep it just sexual then ok,but once feelings get involved then it could get complicated and who wants that right?
09/30/2011
big b big b
the wife
09/30/2011
dude dude
Quote:
Originally posted by SoBlue
I guess i have done that whole friends with benefits thing a time or two, just wondering the opinions of others
I have done this once. It was ok but felt really wrong.
09/30/2011
Liz2 Liz2
For me, when its over its over but I did with one guy. The bottom line is we agreed the sex was great but we were both impossible in a relationship with each other.
09/30/2011
Theaadrian Theaadrian
Yeah I did it once. It was really nice. I was a junior in high school, he was a senior. He graduated and it ended. I really liked him, but because it was always clear that it was going to end with the year, there were no broken hearts or tears. Over all a good experience...
11/08/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I've never had a big relationship fail, but I'd never want to have a friend with benefits.
11/13/2011
Kdlips Kdlips
maybe
11/13/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
usually. There's only been the odd time not.
11/14/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by SoBlue
I guess i have done that whole friends with benefits thing a time or two, just wondering the opinions of others
Usually.
11/15/2011
authorzero authorzero
I've done it, but not too often. It can work, but like so many other things, it really depends.
11/15/2011
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