FWB, harmful or helpful?

TexasBrat TexasBrat
If you've ever had a FWB, do you think that they were helpful or harmful for you?
Did having one make you feel like you shouldn't actively pursue finding someone else? Did it make you feel bad about yourself having an FWB?
Or, did having one make you feel empowered and better about yourself?
Aug 8, 11:23 pm
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dv8 dv8
The situation's different for everyone. Having an FWB isn't inherently problematic. Your questions relate more to personal issues and insecurities than to the experience of having an FWB.
Aug 11, 3:23 am
SexScienceAndFood SexScienceAndFood
FWB?
Aug 11, 4:44 pm
dv8 dv8
Quote:
Originally posted by SexScienceAndFood
FWB?
friend with benefits
Online dictionaries are convenient.
Aug 11, 10:54 pm
js250 js250
One helped me to get back into the real world after my husband's death. However--I can see where it could also go the other way and be harmful if there were other feelings developed by either party. Luckily mine was a friend only with a few benefits attached, so it was no big deal when he found a relationship.
Sep 14, 7:51 pm
Azula Azula
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
If you've ever had a FWB, do you think that they were helpful or harmful for you?
Did having one make you feel like you shouldn't actively pursue finding someone else? Did it make you feel bad about yourself having an FWB?
Or, did ... More
Personally, I've really enjoyed my FWB relationships! They tend to upgrade to relationships or else end because one or more people involved upgraded a different FWB to a relationship. I'm not terribly romantic, so I'm happier playing video games and then having sex than I am having to go on dates, even fun coffee or movie dates. I don't think they've ever made me feel like I couldn't pursue someone seriously, but I've never actually been interested in doing so-- hence my FWBs. Like any friendship or sexual partnership, good communication can make all the difference. If you want a FWB now but are ultimately looking for a long-term relationship, it's good to let your FWB know that up front.
Sep 14, 11:47 pm
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
One helped me to get back into the real world after my husband's death. However--I can see where it could also go the other way and be harmful if there were other feelings developed by either party. Luckily mine was a friend only with a few ... More
I am glad to hear that helped you and things worked out well.

I agree with dv8. It has to do with knowing yourself and how you may react. Of course, asking other people about their experiences can't hurt, after all, you may see people point out pitfalls or benefits you never thought of. I personally have not had the opportunity to try FWB, but as much as I'd like to think I could handle it, I worry one of us would want more and get hurt. I already feel badly enough for boyfriends I broke up with (who wanted more) and it's a horrible feeling for me. I feel sick to my stomach knowing someone is attached to me and I am not interested, or not in anything but a casual way. I hate breaking someone's heart! And you can't always anticipate it. I know I would hate being in their position as well, so I might only try FWB with someone I know I don't like that much to begin with (you know, someone with certain things about them that annoy the crap out of you, lol!), but then, how could I stand having sex with them? I am probably not destined to a FWB relationship, but I sure wish I could do it, and in a way, I envy those who can!
Sep 14, 11:58 pm
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