"It's just not working out."
"This is going nowhere."
"Perhaps we should stick to just friends."
But then what? Some of us get vaguely sad, some of us hit rock bottom and fall into depression, and others move on about their lives and pick up where they left off. Personally, when I go through a break up, I make changes in my life that are significant enough to represent my loss and I move along. I quickly pick back up where I was beforehand, though it takes me a few weeks and sometimes more to remember.
Recently, after a break up, I dyed and cut my hair and it made me feel brand new in some ways. Not that I forgot about the sadness or the memories, but I saw it as a step forward in representing myself as a new person, without the person I'd spent so much time with nestled in. It felt really nice.
What are your strategies for dealing with a breakup? What are your steps for grieving and learning to pick back up with life?