Is it normal to fall in love with your friends bf?

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Is it normal to fall in love with your friends bf?

Derekkk Derekkk
I am just wondering if its just me or not... But I am developing feelings for one of my friends boyfriends.. I used to kind of date this friend, and it wouldn't be the first boyfriend I stole from this person if it got to that... I'm just wondering what kind of person this makes me I guess, and if anybody else has been in the same situation, and if you have, how have you handled it?! Thanks!
05/12/2013
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Zombirella Zombirella
I'm sorry if it offends you, but you asked. I don't think it would make you a friend AT ALL to try and pursue your friend's boyfriend! That's just horrible. Friends don't do that stuff to each other. The fact that your friend apparently forgave you the first time shocks me. But that just makes it even MORE WRONG to go do it again and honestly, I think it's selfish and immature. There are plenty of people in this world, go get your own SINGLE boyfriend and leave your friend and theirs alone. I would never even look at my friend's boyfriends like that.
05/13/2013
Derekkk Derekkk
You didn't offend me at all... And I say friend loosely.. I haven't seen him since 2010.. So it's not like we are friends... And I'd never steal someone like that again... I was just using it hypothetically I guess. I can't say what the future will bring but I was a lot you get when I did that. I don't think I could ever do anything like that again.. It's just only a crush and I don't wish to pursue it any further. I was just curious how many other ppl have gone through this and such
05/13/2013
Zombirella Zombirella
Well, if he is someone that you talk to regularly or hang out with, plan to hang out with again, I just wouldn't do it. I guess it all comes down to how much you value that person. Everyone's different though, but even if it was someone that I was just "acquaintances&am p;qu ot; with, I couldn't go after someone they are with. But, I've been cheated on before, badly, so maybe that is why I wouldn't do it to someone. Though who can say if that person would cheat or just end things right then and there? Either way, I didn't appreciate being hurt like that (and I know they KNEW that my ex was in a relationship) so I wouldn't want to do it to someone else. If that person chooses to leave that person on their own, then I guess they're fair game. But the thought of being with someone I know, talk to regularly or consider a friend just totally turns me off.
05/13/2013
Derekkk Derekkk
You made some very good points... Thank you for you're Advice. I've been cheated on badly myself, so I know how that feels, and I don't think I could cause that harm to another person again, given that I'm not a kid anymore!
05/13/2013
SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
It does not make you a good person, that is for sure. IMHO, what separates humans from other animals is our thinking mind as well as some kind of moral compass. I don't steal from other people, whether it is money or a belonging or another person.
06/03/2013
sunflower sunflower
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Originally posted by Derekkk
I am just wondering if its just me or not... But I am developing feelings for one of my friends boyfriends.. I used to kind of date this friend, and it wouldn't be the first boyfriend I stole from this person if it got to that... I'm just ...
Oh nope. Don't do it. It's ok to think about, not OK to pursue. You don't want to be known as the Boyfriend Stealer. Especially multiple times from the same person lmao. Does she just pick really great guys before you can get there first or do you have some sort of vendetta or thing for stealing her men? Just asking because if you've done it before, it is becoming a pattern.

Even pursuing peoples exes can be touchy unless you have permission.
06/05/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
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Originally posted by Derekkk
I am just wondering if its just me or not... But I am developing feelings for one of my friends boyfriends.. I used to kind of date this friend, and it wouldn't be the first boyfriend I stole from this person if it got to that... I'm just ...
Is it normal? Well, define normal. Is it common? Yes. Think about it: if you're friends with someone, it's usually because you have some things in common. So, if the friend dates someone, it's more likely that it will be someone you would like, too.

You just have to recognize this, and exercise control over your actions. Also, if this friend's boyfriend is the type of person who would leave the friend for you, then he may very well leave you for someone else down the road.
06/05/2013
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