Men look at bodies, not faces, when picking date

LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
This article recently appeared on the UK Telegraph website:
Men look at bodies, not faces, when a picking date

It suggests that men are concerned with how a woman's body looks when searching for short-term dates, but focus on a woman's face when searching for a long term partner or wife.

Do you find this to be true? Is it important, is it a revelation or is it just confirmation of common sense?
09/16/2010
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Chilipepper Chilipepper
I thought it was the whole reason I didn't get any. :-/
09/16/2010
Sir Sir
I don't find this to be true at all.

Truly. AT all.
09/16/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
Speaking from past experiences, yea, some don't care at all about the face. I guess they figure if it's a short term hook-up, they don't have to look at you. Terrible I know, but so true. Now there are men who have standards and want the whole package, regardless of whether it's short term or long term.

Personally, I'm drawn to a handsome face first and if the body is great, that's a plus.
09/16/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
This article recently appeared on the UK Telegraph website:
Men look at bodies, not faces, when a picking date

It suggests that men are concerned with how a woman's body looks when searching for short-term dates, but focus on a ... More
Hmm. I think they eventually look at both. Sometimes My Man will say he's attracted to a woman I don't seem to think is "pretty" but he'll have some comment about her boobs or her butt or something like that. (Explains the rather insulting "Butterface" phenomenon.)

I tend to look at women (and men's) faces first, but I'm a hetero woman, so I think it's different.

Does this mean I don't have to spend as much time on my make up? Yes, they really are all staring at my chest. *sigh* It's what My Man always says. "Don't worry about your make up, for God's sake,they're all staring at your tits anyway."
09/16/2010
Trashley Trashley
Ohhh I believe that on the short/long term thing... tsk tsk tsk
09/16/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
This article recently appeared on the UK Telegraph website:
Men look at bodies, not faces, when a picking date

It suggests that men are concerned with how a woman's body looks when searching for short-term dates, but focus on a ... More
Hmmm just one more indication that Sigel is not your average cookie! His first remark to me when he's interested in a woman is "Cute face" and yes he can describe it down to the color of her hair and eyes! He is always first attracted to a woman by her smile or the way her eyes light up when she talks to him. Half the time He couldn't even describe her body...but he could describe how she smells.
09/16/2010
Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
I'd like to say there is some truth in that . BUT it is just so hard to make generalizations about a gender as a whole. There are too many different types of personalities, genetics, and other sciences and non sciences at work.
09/17/2010
Envy Envy
I somewhat believe it as genetically men are wired to look for bodies that would be more appealing to them as nursers of young (so the body type that would make a great mother). I think that's in both long term and short term, really.

But there are always those who don't fit the mold so to speak.
09/17/2010
Riccio Riccio
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Hmmm just one more indication that Sigel is not your average cookie! His first remark to me when he's interested in a woman is "Cute face" and yes he can describe it down to the color of her hair and eyes! He is always first attracted ... More
Despite being a card-carrying heterosexual, I recognize that I may be a lesbian in a man's body. Like Sigel, I do notice a woman's eyes and smile before anything else.

I had always known that I wasn't "normal," but that was humorously driven home one day when I was talking to other male colleagues about a new woman who had been hired. After ten minutes we realized that the woman with the lovely blue-gray eyes and melancholic smile and the woman with the large breasts was the same woman.

Yeah, I hadn't noticed anything below her face. So shoot me, already.
09/17/2010
Alicia Alicia
I saw this on Whatever with Alexis and Jennifer this morning..although I guess it was yesterday's show. Anyway, I think it's true to an extent. I don't think that the body is the only thing that matters to men, I think that the person's face matters too, but if a girl has a smoking hot body I think men tend to overlook flaws on the person's face. Where if that face was on a woman with a so-so body the guy might then notice the face more too and not think it was attractive as they originally did on the girl with the better body.

I have no true experience to speak of here since my husband and I met so long ago and I've been so out of the loop for so long..but I have watched those dating shows and it's always the girl with the great rock hard body that the guys are saying is "SOOOOO HOT" even though her face might not be as attractive as one of the girls who has an ok body. There's been a lot of times where I personally have found the girl to not be that attractive because I as a woman am looking at her face but the guys on the show seem to be focusing on the larger perky breasts, smooth rounded hips and tight ass.
09/17/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
sounds like common sense
09/17/2010
gone77 gone77
I think it really depends on the guy, and most guys I know look at the entire package. They could be in the minority, though.
09/17/2010
UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
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Originally posted by PassionQT
Speaking from past experiences, yea, some don't care at all about the face. I guess they figure if it's a short term hook-up, they don't have to look at you. Terrible I know, but so true. Now there are men who have standards and want ... More
My thoughts exactly
09/17/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Riccio
Despite being a card-carrying heterosexual, I recognize that I may be a lesbian in a man's body. Like Sigel, I do notice a woman's eyes and smile before anything else.

I had always known that I wasn't "normal," but that ... More
ROFL See now both Sigel and Arch swear they are lesbians wrapped in a man's body! We joke that sometimes they just have to let their inner lesbian out to have fun. It's all in fun though, since we are usually talking with our lesbian friends at the time. These ladies all know my guys aren't being fresh but they also know that if they should ever decide that they are bi curious both guys are standing in line willing to 'bite the bullet' so to speak. It's a joke between all of them because neither guy thinks a lesbian just needs a man....stupid bullshit statement that one!

The first thing Sigel notices is the eyes, smile and then the legs...Arch usually notices what shoes she has on and wonders how to get them off her, before wandering up to her face! Arch is about feet, height and then facial features. He likes a nice rack but rarely notices if she has boobs if her shoes are off!
09/17/2010
Riccio Riccio
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
ROFL See now both Sigel and Arch swear they are lesbians wrapped in a man's body! We joke that sometimes they just have to let their inner lesbian out to have fun. It's all in fun though, since we are usually talking with our lesbian friends ... More
I always enjoy your posts, so I am really happy that mine gave you a laugh.

Give my best to my sister brothers, or my brother sisters ... whatever.
09/20/2010
Fearsome Fearsome
Okay, I like faces, but personality kicks it for me (Why I'm pan-sexual in the first place)and more often than not I'll be disappointed in my date due to mental dexterity than anything else.

If you have a movie-star face (airbrush anyone?) I don't mind as long as you can keep up a conversation. <3
10/07/2010
chaos4fun chaos4fun
Well, men do focus on the body and visuals more than women, in general, so it could be true. but i've never heard it put that way before.

it's not completely unfeasible
10/13/2010
K-smith K-smith
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
This article recently appeared on the UK Telegraph website:
Men look at bodies, not faces, when a picking date

It suggests that men are concerned with how a woman's body looks when searching for short-term dates, but focus on a ... More
Being a Male, From what I have experience through my life, is that I first notice a woman's body, but it's not because that's all I'm interested in, It's simply that's the first thing I see. That being said I can be attracted to a woman's body but that doesn't mean anything if they don't have a good face, simply I will remember a woman's beautiful smile longer than I will her body.
But this is just me, I wasn't the most popular guy during my high school years, I played football and so on but when I met woman I always noticed there face, in particular their eye's.
10/13/2010
K-smith K-smith
Quote:
Originally posted by Fearsome
Okay, I like faces, but personality kicks it for me (Why I'm pan-sexual in the first place)and more often than not I'll be disappointed in my date due to mental dexterity than anything else.

If you have a movie-star face (airbrush ... More
I totally agree, I will notice a woman's body first but the face is what make's or breaks the physical attraction, and overall it doesn't matter how beautiful you are if that's all you bring into a relationship. Brains is a definite must, I need to be able to hold a intelligent conversation with my spouse. But this is all based on a relationship standard not a one night stand.
10/13/2010
closed account closed account
sound about right to me
12/24/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
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Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
sounds like common sense
Yeah, seems like common knowledge to me.
12/24/2010
moonch1ld moonch1ld
Never really thought about it but yeah seems about right to me
12/25/2010
darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
That article is kind of odd. I read something before that men look for partners with larger hips and boobs because apparently these features make them better for having kids. I'm not really sure what to think, especially since I am not a guy. I just know guys will go nuts over a woman's hips.
12/25/2010
Crash Crash
As a first impression before meeting someone, checking out their body does tend to be the first step. Especially in a bar scene. Hips, then chest, then face, then big picture. Sad to say. It's an instinctual reaction. That doesn't mean it has any real importance. Times have changed and the reaction of men to check out hips first is just a leftover instinct.
01/26/2011
Josh aka FootMan Josh aka FootMan
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
This article recently appeared on the UK Telegraph website:
Men look at bodies, not faces, when a picking date

It suggests that men are concerned with how a woman's body looks when searching for short-term dates, but focus on a ... More
Sounds kind of bad I suppose but it's true...

It makes sense when you think about it though, men find the body to be more important to them initially because the face has not a whole lot to do with having a healthy baby.

We're wired to look at hips and boobs. I'm not even a boob guy but I still look at them just because of instinct.

I have a pretty hardcore foot fetish, though, so I find myself mainly looking at a woman's legs when I'm attracted to her. The same still holds true though, the face is a secondary thought to me more often than not - the face doesn't seem to come under much scrutiny for me anyway until a long term relationship may be in the future, however.

Perhaps it's the idea of having to look at somebody for years to come that makes us remember that there's a face attached to all those yummy parts.

I watched a show about the science of attraction once a while back. They attached pupil tracking cameras to a few guys eyes and showed on the camera what their eyes were looking at as they walked by attractive women at the club. All of the men scanned the women they passed up and down from head to toe twice over, and were able to decide whether or not they wanted to sleep with them within that amount of time - according to the doctors and scientists. The show was clearly able to prove that while men do look at the entire package, they only remember key points that they see as important to healthy reproduction.
01/26/2011
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
im sure theres some true to that. sounds like theyre studding jerks...
01/26/2011
Xavier7 Xavier7
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
This article recently appeared on the UK Telegraph website:
Men look at bodies, not faces, when a picking date

It suggests that men are concerned with how a woman's body looks when searching for short-term dates, but focus on a ... More
Very very true. But I however, am not like that. I look at her brain, heart, and soul FIRST. That should be what's most important about any date, long term or short term.
03/03/2011
Blooddragon Blooddragon
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
This article recently appeared on the UK Telegraph website:
Men look at bodies, not faces, when a picking date

It suggests that men are concerned with how a woman's body looks when searching for short-term dates, but focus on a ... More
Well I've heard in studies that the reason a man looks to body's over faces is because of the underlying desire to procreate. They are attracted to fertile healthy looking body's. I am a man, who is happily married. I do appreciate a nice body, and my wife has a perfect one to me. However, I would much rather have face over body, unless there are extreme cases. I do want to be physically attracted in all areas. So if I were single again, I would choose the girl 30lbs overweight with a gorgeous face over the little hard body with a not so nice face. I appreciate beauty, and love a beautiful smile and eyes. This make me think of the term BUTTERFACE from back in the day. "Dude, she has a banging body, But her face! "
03/03/2011
bobowaxer bobowaxer
For me, if I'm not attracted to a woman's face...I'm not attracted to the woman.
03/10/2011
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