newly single ~ what to do when horny

melliegirl melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I call up my ex (he said i could) or should i just get over being horny by not doing anything about it? Please help
06/11/2013
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MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I ... More
First things first: Don't call your ex. Seriously. The sex may be good, but nothing else will be.


Try masturbating new ways. Try finding other outlets to pour the energy into. Broaden your own sexual horizons, but don't go back to the ex for booty. It sounds like that's all he wanted anyway, and besides that things can get super weird really fast.
06/11/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
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Originally posted by MrWill
First things first: Don't call your ex. Seriously. The sex may be good, but nothing else will be.


Try masturbating new ways. Try finding other outlets to pour the energy into. Broaden your own sexual horizons, but don't go back to ... More
MrWill is a wise one. I second finding a new outlet. Try writing erotica. Try finding new ways to pleasure yourself. Maybe try drawing/painting some sexual pictures if you're the artistic type. If you're feeling really daring, try camming. You can hide your face if you want to hide your identity.

There are so many ways to explore your sexuality, it'd be impossible to get bored with a little exploration.
06/11/2013
edeneve edeneve
I suggest you extensively research the toys on EF to see what you might enjoy & then get them to try out if they work for you. it's really a learning/trial and error experience at first and a really fun experience.

and when I'm horney, I get out several vibes including a couple faves to make my play time long and so so exciting.
06/11/2013
Fluke Fluke
Mr Will is right. It is a classic mistake to go back with your ex. Maybe you need to learn the hard way but you'll learn it. When I did it I always ended up with feelings for my ex and getting hurt all over again.

You will be better off in the long run if you take a little bit time off (even just a week or two) and focus on yourself. Have you tried a really good, powerful vibrator like the hitachi wand or g4 tiger?
06/12/2013
evanescentowl evanescentowl
I highly recommend writing erotica. You don't have to do full on novels or anything. Perhaps little snippets or one-shots of whatever makes you horny. That way, you can record your ideas for later and help with the horniness!
06/12/2013
melliegirl melliegirl
Thanks everyone. I'll look into the ideas ya'll gave me.... and yeah i agree that going back to him would be probably a bad thing. Thanks!
06/12/2013
ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
Print this out and carry it with you so you can re-read it when you're tempted!
06/12/2013
MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by melliegirl
Thanks everyone. I'll look into the ideas ya'll gave me.... and yeah i agree that going back to him would be probably a bad thing. Thanks!
I speak from experience. I've played both parts in a post-breakup scenario... and someone always ends up devastated. Save yourself the time and effort. Hell, find a safe new friend to have sex with... but going back for sex is a bad idea!
06/12/2013
laxplaya18 laxplaya18
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Originally posted by melliegirl
Thanks everyone. I'll look into the ideas ya'll gave me.... and yeah i agree that going back to him would be probably a bad thing. Thanks!
Hey, I'd love to chat sometime and maybe shoot u a few pointers! My email is laxguy20@live.com and Skype is laxplaya52
06/16/2013
MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by laxplaya18
Hey, I'd love to chat sometime and maybe shoot u a few pointers! My email is laxguy20@live.com and Skype is laxplaya52
Dude: Unacceptable. Cease and desist.

This isn't a personals service, nor a way to find cam shows or to try to find a new hook up. I'm appalled that you thought you were going to hop on here and throw a chick trying to find out how to take care of herself your Skype addy and e-mail... especially when you chose to be so creative in calling yourself a "playa".

Check craigslist, or adultfriendfinder, or some other site. Otherwise.. Thanks for coming out and have a nice day.
06/16/2013
laxplaya18 laxplaya18
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Originally posted by MrWill
Dude: Unacceptable. Cease and desist.

This isn't a personals service, nor a way to find cam shows or to try to find a new hook up. I'm appalled that you thought you were going to hop on here and throw a chick trying to find out how to ... More
My apologies, new to this forum stuff. Won't happen again
06/16/2013
novanilla novanilla
I agree with others about not contacting the ex.

Sometimes, when you get out of a relationship, your body just has to adjust to not having as much sex. Try experimenting with new things or maybe join something like okcupid to find a hook up, but if you're anything like me, the extreme horniness will go away after several weeks when you're not as used to the constant sex. And maybe by then you'll find a new regular partner anyway.
06/17/2013
Ayogirl230 Ayogirl230
Quote:
Originally posted by melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I ... More
try mixing up your masturbation sessions. Calling your ex is always a bad call.
06/19/2013
melliegirl melliegirl
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Originally posted by MrWill
Dude: Unacceptable. Cease and desist.

This isn't a personals service, nor a way to find cam shows or to try to find a new hook up. I'm appalled that you thought you were going to hop on here and throw a chick trying to find out how to ... More
thanks for having my back appreciate it!
09/23/2013
Sincerely Yours, N Sincerely Yours, N
I used to get bored masturbating, but then I discovered toys that make me enjoy it so much more. Figure out what you like and get those toys - they'll be worth it!
09/23/2013
cmm cmm
You shouldn't get bored while masturbating!
09/24/2013
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