newly single ~ what to do when horny

newly single ~ what to do when horny

melliegirl melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I call up my ex (he said i could) or should i just get over being horny by not doing anything about it? Please help
06/11/2013
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MrWill MrWill
Quote:
Originally posted by melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I ...
First things first: Don't call your ex. Seriously. The sex may be good, but nothing else will be.


Try masturbating new ways. Try finding other outlets to pour the energy into. Broaden your own sexual horizons, but don't go back to the ex for booty. It sounds like that's all he wanted anyway, and besides that things can get super weird really fast.
06/11/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
Quote:
Originally posted by MrWill
First things first: Don't call your ex. Seriously. The sex may be good, but nothing else will be.


Try masturbating new ways. Try finding other outlets to pour the energy into. Broaden your own sexual horizons, but don't go back to ...
MrWill is a wise one. I second finding a new outlet. Try writing erotica. Try finding new ways to pleasure yourself. Maybe try drawing/painting some sexual pictures if you're the artistic type. If you're feeling really daring, try camming. You can hide your face if you want to hide your identity.

There are so many ways to explore your sexuality, it'd be impossible to get bored with a little exploration.
06/11/2013
edeneve edeneve
I suggest you extensively research the toys on EF to see what you might enjoy & then get them to try out if they work for you. it's really a learning/trial and error experience at first and a really fun experience.

and when I'm horney, I get out several vibes including a couple faves to make my play time long and so so exciting.
06/11/2013
Fluke Fluke
Mr Will is right. It is a classic mistake to go back with your ex. Maybe you need to learn the hard way but you'll learn it. When I did it I always ended up with feelings for my ex and getting hurt all over again.

You will be better off in the long run if you take a little bit time off (even just a week or two) and focus on yourself. Have you tried a really good, powerful vibrator like the hitachi wand or g4 tiger?
06/12/2013
evanescentowl evanescentowl
I highly recommend writing erotica. You don't have to do full on novels or anything. Perhaps little snippets or one-shots of whatever makes you horny. That way, you can record your ideas for later and help with the horniness!
06/12/2013
melliegirl melliegirl
Thanks everyone. I'll look into the ideas ya'll gave me.... and yeah i agree that going back to him would be probably a bad thing. Thanks!
06/12/2013
ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
Print this out and carry it with you so you can re-read it when you're tempted!
06/12/2013
MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by melliegirl
Thanks everyone. I'll look into the ideas ya'll gave me.... and yeah i agree that going back to him would be probably a bad thing. Thanks!
I speak from experience. I've played both parts in a post-breakup scenario... and someone always ends up devastated. Save yourself the time and effort. Hell, find a safe new friend to have sex with... but going back for sex is a bad idea!
06/12/2013
laxplaya18 laxplaya18
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Originally posted by melliegirl
Thanks everyone. I'll look into the ideas ya'll gave me.... and yeah i agree that going back to him would be probably a bad thing. Thanks!
Hey, I'd love to chat sometime and maybe shoot u a few pointers! My email is laxguy20@live.com and Skype is laxplaya52
06/16/2013
MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by laxplaya18
Hey, I'd love to chat sometime and maybe shoot u a few pointers! My email is laxguy20@live.com and Skype is laxplaya52
Dude: Unacceptable. Cease and desist.

This isn't a personals service, nor a way to find cam shows or to try to find a new hook up. I'm appalled that you thought you were going to hop on here and throw a chick trying to find out how to take care of herself your Skype addy and e-mail... especially when you chose to be so creative in calling yourself a "playa".

Check craigslist, or adultfriendfinder, or some other site. Otherwise.. Thanks for coming out and have a nice day.
06/16/2013
laxplaya18 laxplaya18
Quote:
Originally posted by MrWill
Dude: Unacceptable. Cease and desist.

This isn't a personals service, nor a way to find cam shows or to try to find a new hook up. I'm appalled that you thought you were going to hop on here and throw a chick trying to find out how to ...
My apologies, new to this forum stuff. Won't happen again
06/16/2013
novanilla novanilla
I agree with others about not contacting the ex.

Sometimes, when you get out of a relationship, your body just has to adjust to not having as much sex. Try experimenting with new things or maybe join something like okcupid to find a hook up, but if you're anything like me, the extreme horniness will go away after several weeks when you're not as used to the constant sex. And maybe by then you'll find a new regular partner anyway.
06/17/2013
Ayogirl230 Ayogirl230
Quote:
Originally posted by melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I ...
try mixing up your masturbation sessions. Calling your ex is always a bad call.
06/19/2013
melliegirl melliegirl
Quote:
Originally posted by MrWill
Dude: Unacceptable. Cease and desist.

This isn't a personals service, nor a way to find cam shows or to try to find a new hook up. I'm appalled that you thought you were going to hop on here and throw a chick trying to find out how to ...
thanks for having my back appreciate it!
09/23/2013
Sincerely yours, N Sincerely yours, N
I used to get bored masturbating, but then I discovered toys that make me enjoy it so much more. Figure out what you like and get those toys - they'll be worth it!
09/23/2013
cmm cmm
You shouldn't get bored while masturbating!
09/24/2013
michael scofield michael scofield
Quote:
Originally posted by melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I ...
I bring out my secret box and pick a Vagina and I bang the hell out of it until I explode inside it.
07/28/2015
NJ casanova NJ casanova
Quote:
Originally posted by melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I ...
---- " FWB" ----

You probably have a few that "hang around". They know you/your situation and already care about you. Hang out with some friends and see what happens;-) The main thing with FWBs is to be honest as to what you both want/expect. You could always be the "third wheel" for a sexual couple? I guess you're not bi, but if you are/have thought about it, that would be an option. You can always have a girlfriend set you up will someone... all girls have FWBs in waiting
10/31/2015
TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
If you are desperate, put a Craigslist ad up and wait half a minute. You get hot on quicker than walking nude into a bar.
10/31/2015
Ms.Terious Ms.Terious
Quote:
Originally posted by melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I ...
I'm newly single too, and I'be never done anal, so right now, I just want to do a little self exploration. Find out if anal is something I enjoy. Just bought myself some toys. I just got done trying out different types of Gspot toys & I learned how to squirt

Just have fun with it.
Mar 30, 1:34 am
MrClark MrClark
The thing I missed the most being single was not really the sex but the emotional/physical connection to another. Having someone that would just cuddle next to me on the couch while watching TV was what I missed more than sex, but might be that me and my ex-gf also had done the long distance thing for a while before breaking up.

But will say in the interim did make a new friend and we decided to do the FWB thing since they were soon moving and I wasn't sure I wanted a new LTR at the time. We discussed this at length, including making rules about if we met someone new or wanted to end it we'd let the other know. Communication I think like in any relationship makes things clear and helps make sure there is still friendship at the end.

But agree, don't go back to your ex. And take the time to explore and discover more about yourself... this will only make you more confident in yourself when you are ready and meet someone new.
Jun 5, 1:33 pm
PolyLove PolyLove
Get on Tinder for a FWB, just make sure the both of you get tested before having sex and use protection. That's what I would do anyway. But I'm a bit of a proud whore. (I use the term whore as in someone who takes no shame in enjoying sex).
Jun 6, 2:26 pm
symbiasin symbiasin
Quote:
Originally posted by melliegirl
I'm newly single and idk what i should do when i'm horny. Since I'm just out of a relationship i don't want a one night stand or a booty call. I also get really bored quickly when i masturbate so thats not a solution for me. Should I ...
When I was divorced is when I found out MORE about sex than I had known. First of all it took me 3 years to realize that there was no other way than divorce in my case.

After the 3 years natural feelings began to surface, and I had a better time. I just happened on a sex site and since I was naive sexually it was an eye opener. I hadn't even masturbated. I had a lot to learn and so far it has been enjoyable learning.

You are in different circumstances and you have to deal with the horniness the way best suited to you, which may differ every time, maybe you feel like company one time. maybe others u feel like being alone.

OKCupid is fine. part date and you can tell who wants to go further. It has mods, like myself to make sure that the pic they put up is of them and there are also admins who look at the profile for possible scammers.

It is your time now
Jun 7, 12:37 pm
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