Sex with an ex? Everyone welcome!

mariedoll mariedoll
This question has been frustrating me lately due to the fact that I have done just this, sex with an ex. Not just once, but several times. You know how it can be, you guys dated and if for a relatively nice period of time, you get to know one another and it's that elusive "c" word, "comfortable". But my question is, can you have sex with an without murkying up the waters? Please feel free to expand on the topic. I lovey stories. (yes I used lovey )

Oh and this applies to all types of past relationships and all genders.
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Of course! I do all the time. Waters are still clear.
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Hell no, too complicated.
46
I did once and got out of that as soon as possible.
6
I've thought about it and wanted to, but I'm too cautious about that sticky situation.
9
Yes and we got back together.
Uhh, let me explain.
9
Total votes: 72 (68 voters)
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06/25/2012
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by mariedoll
This question has been frustrating me lately due to the fact that I have done just this, sex with an ex. Not just once, but several times. You know how it can be, you guys dated and if for a relatively nice period of time, you get to know one another ... More
I dunno, I don't have any -ex's. Now if I were to speculate I think I could most definitely have casual sex with Sigel and not muddy up anything. If we were to split it would be for reasons other than sexual incompatibility...and I'd still be attracted to him physically. Now with Arch? Our relationship is too new to be sure, I would like to think we could part amicably and then, if we wanted, have the occasional hook up. I realize this is probably a pipe dream though...
06/25/2012
mariedoll mariedoll
Why I inquire...

So after years of not talking to my ex (bad breakup), we finally made amends and thought we could rekindle our friendship. That summer I went to visit him, new place and boy was he looking good. However I looked better, and I knew it. I had no intension of doing anything beyond showing off my "look what you missed out on" new look. Famous last words.

Before you knew it, we were hugging and saying our goodbyes. An awkward over the shoulder hug turned into a lingering hug that turned into bodies touching hug that turned into faces grazing to lips touching. The rest was history, well, repeated history.

It was so strange and familiar all at the same time. A mere hour visit turned into a weekend affair. I ended up seeing him again that week. It was like a new refreshed sort of scenario. It was nice being embraced by his strong arms in his bed. (Is it hot in here or is it just me?)

After two weeks of this, old patterns started to emerge. And there I was again, caught in a whirlwind of wonderful sex and emotional neglect. At that point I had let my guard down because of the comfortableness it had offered and began feeling hurt again. In no stretch of the imagination could I ever see myself with him again, but when I really stripped away my pride I think I did. So after three weeks we ended it. It's been a year now, and I'm glad I got out. It just seemed that at first glance it was great. But no matter how much we both had separately matured, together we reverted back to old habits with one another. In the end, the waters became murky and it was no happy ending.

I do miss the sex though.
06/25/2012
Peggi Peggi
Honestly the thought that I ever HAD sex with my ex-husband makes me sick to my stomach, because it amazes me I stayed with him for as long as I did. I should've left him LONG before I did...like year 1, not after 6! Especially after having met someone so much better, I could never imagine having sex with that guy again! Yuck.

But, a lot of my friends are able to do it, and I guess if it had been an ex I wasn't revolted by (yes, REVOLTED) and I wasn't with someone special, I'd consider it.
06/25/2012
Mwar Mwar
My thought is: an ex is an ex for a reason. There's no need to put yourself in that potential mess.
06/25/2012
J5ive J5ive
nope
06/25/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
If I was single, I don't think I could have sex with my ex, but I'd have sex with my friend.
06/25/2012
Beck Beck
I don't think I could be with an ex at all.
06/25/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
My ex-husband had no libido to begin with, so it would likely be his robot twin from a mirror dimension for that to happen.

I get too emotionally involved, so if there's a break up (and it's usually very hurtful on their end), I'd be too nauseous to think about being physical with them again because of them having hurt me before. I guess physical attraction can't overrule emotional betrayal in my world.
06/25/2012
Tork48309 Tork48309
What a turn off that would be.
06/25/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
Hell no! I can't believe I was with his ass to begin with and for as long as I was. I swear, he must have drugged me that whole relationship because when I see him now, I'm like "what the hell were you thinking?!". The other exs, just no, we broke up for a reason and nothing further needs to be said or done.
06/26/2012
Cora Jane Cora Jane
My ex boyfriend and I had a bad breakup and didn't speak for months. Then we made an effort to try being friends again since we were still working together and shared the same group of friends (we saw each other all the time so it would be easier for everyone if we could at least stand each other).

One night we were hanging out alone and decided to hook up. We figured 1) we were both lonely, 2) we still don't like each other so we definitely wouldn't be getting back together, and 3) we've already had sex and knew what we liked so it would be better than hooking up with a stranger.

We never talked about it afterwards and we're still friends. I don't regret it, it didn't really change anything.
06/26/2012
hjtee hjtee
I'm pretty sure that if I were to get with my ex, I'd fall for one specific one all over again, and that would make the world implode.
For the sake of the world, we keep a LOT of distance.
08/31/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
No way! I ended it for a reason, and the sex wasn't even okay either, so of course I wouldn't!
09/04/2012
Buh-bye Buh-bye
I would never have sex with an ex.
11/27/2012
lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by mariedoll
This question has been frustrating me lately due to the fact that I have done just this, sex with an ex. Not just once, but several times. You know how it can be, you guys dated and if for a relatively nice period of time, you get to know one another ... More
want to but wont he's sexy but i'm married
11/27/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
No thanks, way too many emotional booby traps
11/27/2012
Intrepid Niddering Intrepid Niddering
I only have two exes, only one of which I had sex with during the relationship. I would never have sex with him. Not because I'm afraid of "making things complicated" or whatever. He's just a giant creep-o. Like.. showed up in my bedroom when I was sleeping one morning, three months after we broke up, creep-o.
11/27/2012
RonLee RonLee
Decades ago and a few years prior to meeting the girl I'd marry, I did have sex relatively frequently with an Ex GF. That Ex had a very high sex drive and when her BF of the moment wouldn't or couldn't fuck her enough, she'd call me.

One particularly memorable rendezvous with her was when I was a college student living in a high rise dormitory. She called around midnight and asked if she could come over. I told her I'd meet her at the door to let her in in fifteen minutes. It was winter and snow was swirling around the building. When I let her in she was wearing an ankle length fur coat and high heeled boots, nothing else at all.

It as late enough that none of my dorm neighbors saw her as we walked to my single dorm room. If they had it would've probly raised my status among the guys on the dorm floor LOL!
11/27/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
nope
11/27/2012
Martiniman Martiniman
You can do it but I don't think it's the best situation.
11/27/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
No - I've plenty of exes - in the day - and never did the rebound thing. Happily married now so that's all behind me!
11/28/2012
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
I have been there, done that. Wouldn't do it again.
11/28/2012
The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by mariedoll
This question has been frustrating me lately due to the fact that I have done just this, sex with an ex. Not just once, but several times. You know how it can be, you guys dated and if for a relatively nice period of time, you get to know one another ... More
thats a touchy subject sometimes u can be abjective but honestly its emotionally a bad idea
11/28/2012
Zakkie Zakkie
Most definantly not. Would end up being a weird situation
12/02/2012
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by mariedoll
This question has been frustrating me lately due to the fact that I have done just this, sex with an ex. Not just once, but several times. You know how it can be, you guys dated and if for a relatively nice period of time, you get to know one another ... More
I am not interested in sex with any of my ex's. I might be tempted due to some feelings about some of my ex's but I wouldn't do it. Too complicated.
12/02/2012
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Did it once, would never do it again. It just got too crazy...
12/02/2012
pandasauce pandasauce
Quote:
Originally posted by mariedoll
This question has been frustrating me lately due to the fact that I have done just this, sex with an ex. Not just once, but several times. You know how it can be, you guys dated and if for a relatively nice period of time, you get to know one another ... More
Well, now I feel weird being the only one who picked the first option...so I guess I should explain. I I have a specific ex with whom I have repeatedly had friends-with-benefits relationships with when both of us ended up single at the same time. To an extent, it's comfort: we both know how to get the other off, and the desire never faded. We just know for a fact that we were terrible as a couple. I guess both of us just learned how to have sex without getting emotionally involved past our friendship.
12/05/2012
KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
I wish it was that easy but if i had sex with an ex it would stir up old feelings and id be heartbroken all over again.
12/05/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Personally, I wouldn't.
12/05/2012
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