Single vs. Dating

Lavender420 Lavender420 12/20/2011

I recently got out of a 3 year relationship and have been dating a bit just to get myself back in the game. Is it okay to be single and date multiple people at the same time, if nothing is serious? I'm thinking eventually I'll know exactly what I'm looking for and who that person is, but I don't want to hop into another relationship without playing the field first. What do you guys think?

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Lavender420 Lavender420
Just curious on your opinions.
12/20/2011
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ninaspinkturtle ninaspinkturtle
Quote:
Originally posted by Lavender420
Just curious on your opinions.
as long as you tell everyone that you are dating that you are seeing other people than i dont see anything wrong with it.
12/20/2011
Chirple Chirple
Yep, as long as you're honest and let people know what's going on up front.

That way, they can decide if they're okay with the situation or not.

But, you have to consider the implications as well. Even if someone thinks they're okay with it, you can end up with messy situations and hurt feelings.
12/20/2011
Peggi Peggi
It's only ok as long as all of your partners are consenting. Open relationships are fine by my book, but I am against cheating.
12/20/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
It is fine! And a good idea considering your situation. Of course, be open about it but not in a weird way.
12/21/2011
prttynink prttynink
it's only deceitful if you find yourself lying about it
01/02/2012
Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
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Originally posted by Lavender420
Just curious on your opinions.
Not if you are open about it and discuss it upfront. There is nothing wrong with polyamory and open relationships as long as everyone discusses it and mutually consents.
01/30/2012
geliebt geliebt
As others have said, nothing wrong with it if everyone knows what the deal is. Of course if you're a monogamous person, I'd be sure to set things up solidly with whoever you may choose and break it off with the others, but going on a few dates with varying people doesn't sound like a bad thing. 'Course, this is coming from someone who honestly has never DATED in the past just conjecture, here.
02/04/2012
Shellz31 Shellz31
As long as you're not sneaky about it. That way the person has the choice whether they want to go along with that or not. They may even be doing the same thing.
02/07/2012
kittenfacery kittenfacery
it depends on if everyone knows about it. I'm poly but only have my boyfriend right now, but we've talked lots and have agreed on the poly side of things. So it's all about communication. And accepting people's choices, even if it might mean either waiting for them to see you need this, or not going out with the person.
05/08/2012
Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
yes, in my personal relationships it is anyways.
05/16/2012
BadassFatass BadassFatass
I don't think so, as long as you don't let any one person think that they're the only one you're seeing.
05/16/2012
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