The Art of Flirting?

Isadorabelle Isadorabelle
So, I went out with my cousin the other night and had dinner at this awesome restaurant after touring some local galleries. It was a great girl's night out. Because I knew we'd be going out to dinner, I dressed up. I actually wore makeup!

Over dinner, my cousin tells me the various people I flirted with throughout the day and who flirted with me (including the cute waiter). After this, I informed my cousin that from then on, she had to stay with me at all times to tell me about this social interaction that I, apparently, have no concept over.

I know I can't be the only one who has no concept of flirting, so I ask everyone out there: how many of you are oblivious to this whole other language?

(I'm asking this on the Singles forum because I thought single girls and guys probably do more flirting.)
09/11/2010
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Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I'm sort of in the same boat. Depending on my mood, I can be very "social" with people, and some could misunderstand my actions as flirting, even though I'm not flirting intentionally. I sort of gave up on the whole "am I flirting, or just talking?" thing a year or so ago. It's too much energy and I'm too busy with other things to worry about it. I can, however, usually tell if I'm being flirted with. Then again, I pretty much surround myself with nerds/geeks/etc., and they can be pretty transparent with their efforts
09/11/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
As a guy my story may be a little different - but I have always been oblivious to the whole concept. I went to work at a company where office sex was going on all over the place - I was completely oblivious until I moved away and people told me what was going on - I was shocked - I felt like such a dumb-ass!

But I got my share out of the office - without the emotional baggage.
09/11/2010
Avant-garde Avant-garde
I am pretty much oblivious to flirting. I don't do it myself and cant recognize it unless its that obvious.
09/11/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
"Show kindness to a neglected dog, and it'll wind up humping your leg."

Careful who you flirt at. It gets our hopes up.
09/11/2010
Isadorabelle Isadorabelle
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
"Show kindness to a neglected dog, and it'll wind up humping your leg."

Careful who you flirt at. It gets our hopes up.
LOL! Priceless. That's awesome chilipepper!
09/11/2010
Isadorabelle Isadorabelle
There's this guy who used to work at the grocery store I frequent all the time and I knew he was flirting. That's pretty much the only time I really caught on without the aide of someone telling me.

I'm glad to see I'm not the only one that doesn't pick this up. My cousin is one of these people who has a new guy every few months and several interests on the side. That just flabbergasts me that she can charm and talk to people like that.
09/11/2010
Sir Sir
I am somewhat oblivious not to flirting with people (since I do not), but to being flirted with. I do not comprehend that the person is interested in me, most times, unless they come out and say it. I generally just take it as nice gestures or compliments.
09/11/2010
Envy Envy
I'm pretty much oblivious but I don't flirt much myself. Never really was a flirt, really.
09/11/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Quote:
Originally posted by Isadorabelle
So, I went out with my cousin the other night and had dinner at this awesome restaurant after touring some local galleries. It was a great girl's night out. Because I knew we'd be going out to dinner, I dressed up. I actually wore makeup! ... More
I flirt a little bit, but when it comes to guys right now I am just like, "meh." not really interested. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy a little company now and then.

Anyways, I like flirting and I can read people pretty well so I usually pick up on it (body language is a huge sign of that)
09/12/2010
UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
Oh people think I am flirting all the time. But I am not I am just being friendly. In college I found this one guy told a mutual friend that I liked him. I had to remind her that when I was the one that told her how two girls were hating on each other because they both liked him and how he was not that good looking. When I pointed him out she was like Eeeuu you were right.

Then another guy that I was great friends with totally ignore me when he started dating a girl. I did get upset and just stopped talking to him then people were telling me that I was upset cause I liked him. I was no. They all said oh we saw the way you flirted.

Honestly I am not flirting I just a friendly person. So I try now not to be so friendly or too smiley when I am around a guy that I think is thinking I am flirting with him.

I know this post is a bit long and confusing. Sorry.
09/17/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by UrNaughtyaAngel
Oh people think I am flirting all the time. But I am not I am just being friendly. In college I found this one guy told a mutual friend that I liked him. I had to remind her that when I was the one that told her how two girls were hating on each ... More
I guess it's similar for me too.

I am friendly and really social. I talk to people about all sorts of stuff and get really intrigued about others views. Sometimes this intrigue is taken as personal interest and the person thinks I'm into them or flirting perhaps. So when I talk to guys I try to be careful how I talk to them (I try to be aware of my body language too).

I don't know if its just my perception and I like to flatter myself(?) but I can tell when a guy is flirting with me. There are different kinds of flirting, some guys are really go getters(not too sure what to do but try anything they can to talk to you), or direct and rude(sexist), some guys just try to make you laugh a lot. Everyone has their own flirting style.

I am in a relationship and I flirt with friends soemtimes. Its more like teasing each other (were all in relationships) then flirting.
09/18/2010
UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
I guess it's similar for me too.

I am friendly and really social. I talk to people about all sorts of stuff and get really intrigued about others views. Sometimes this intrigue is taken as personal interest and the person thinks I'm ... More
Oh I am bad at knowing if someone is flirty with me. Like you said there are the obvious ones that keep saying things like your beutiful, etc but then there the ones that are sweet and friendly like me.
09/29/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
im a pretty bad flirt... can never tell if a dude is into me
10/01/2010
Sapphire Pet Sapphire Pet
I am accused of flirting all the time but I don't do it intentionally. It's just my personality. But it makes life fun and interesting!!!
11/13/2010
SoBlue SoBlue
Quote:
Originally posted by Isadorabelle
So, I went out with my cousin the other night and had dinner at this awesome restaurant after touring some local galleries. It was a great girl's night out. Because I knew we'd be going out to dinner, I dressed up. I actually wore makeup! ... More
I'm a flirt, always have been, but i have my moods where i just want to be left alone, i guess it kind of depends on the gathering and who they are...
04/13/2011
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
I'm a shameless flirt, and I'm extremely obvious about it. I usually do it as a joke, with my friends, though. Though I also do it with people I'm interested in. Not sure if it actually works, though.
04/13/2011
Freckles Freckles
I love flirting. It's one of the most fun things to do. Sometimes though, it just depends on who you're flirting with. Some guys like one thing while another likes the complete opposite. For instance, I dated this once guy who was liked when I was witty while another, while I was goofy. It just depends.
04/25/2011
Noira Noira
I'm naturally a bit flirty. With everyone. Ever. It doesn't work though, or I wouldn't be single. Lol. I'm not even trying to be flirty. D:
04/29/2011
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