What first attracts you?

Supervixen Supervixen
Looks, first thing. Personality should follow or I won't be interested, but looks are the very first thing.
12/09/2012
mlmac mlmac
Looks and overall personality.
12/09/2012
Major Panda Major Panda
Personality for sure.
01/13/2013
InnocentIchigo InnocentIchigo
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
What is the first thing that attracts you to another?
Usually the looks are what pull me in first. But if I end up getting to talk to them and they're nothing but a jerk or someone who acts fake, or just simple someone I'm not compatible with I just stop there.

But there have been people I've noticed first with their personality. It kinda depends on the situation and how things go.
01/20/2013
Toy Fiend Toy Fiend
Humor definitely
01/20/2013
LoganAshlee. LoganAshlee.
If someone is funny enough I couldn't care less what they looked like.

I think humor intertwines with intelligence so I'd say they're the same
03/15/2013
lilyflower lilyflower
A combination of things. Most important to me are sense of humor and kindness, and then to some extent intelligence.
03/19/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Looks can pull you into range to find out about personality, intelligence, etc. But it's pretty difficult to sense someone's IQ from across a room. Something has to interest you enough to find out the rest & that is usually something to do with looks, but can also be their demeanor. I can be drawn to someone just because of the way I see them caring for & interacting with an animal. Kindness is a big lure for me, as is wit & humor.
03/25/2013
chicmichiw chicmichiw
Smile! Then, of course, other things.
03/25/2013
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
Smart and a sense of humor is way more important than money or looks. Looks fade and I can make my own money.
03/25/2013
hillys hillys
Lately I've been going for looks but that's because I don't actually want to be attached to anyone. when I'm really looking the guy has to be halarious.
03/25/2013
SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
Physical attractiveness is nice, but if I went solely based on that, I'd probably only be attracted to women.
04/14/2013
snowminx snowminx
Out of these choices I would say sense of humor gets me most. If a guy can make me laugh that's a huge plus in my book. Intelligence also helps but it's not the first thing I look for.
04/14/2013
joiedejouets joiedejouets
Initially, I go for looks as a basis. I'm not going to try to fool myself to believe otherwise
04/14/2013
Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
Other than the obvious personality being a must, I would choose intelligence. I just love it.
04/14/2013
ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
Their personality.
04/14/2013
TransMarc TransMarc
It starts with looks and if the person is an asshole, then I'm not attracted anymore, but it's not a problem if they aren't smart.
04/14/2013
edeneve edeneve
at first I have to like the appearance of a guy - don't care for slobs. then once we get past the initial hello conversation, he's got to have a brain & sense of humor.
04/14/2013
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
You see people first. If you think they are not attractive you probably won't find out if they have a sense of humor or money or are smart.
04/19/2013
vulvalicious vulvalicious
I guess looks first, as I may see someone before talking to them and knowing anything about their personality. I do like certain body types.
04/19/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Looks get me interested, but to be attracted he has to be smart and funny...which my man has all three, I'm so lucky to find him!!
04/19/2013
spiced spiced
I actually studied the science of attraction in college. What I learned is that we THINK we know why certain people attract us, but the reality is, it happens at an unconscious level, as the result of pheromones. Then, AFTER we realize we're attracted to someone, we rationalize why, like looks or sense of humor or whatever.

I know a lot of people will reject this answer, but it's the reality of how we work.
04/19/2013
Pandora'sBox Pandora'sBox
I notice the way the man carries himself.

I like a man who wears clothes that actually FIT him and who doesn't think he's something he's not.

Like those wannabe "gangstahs." They aren't in any actual gangs, but they walk around like they got one leg shorter than the other, wearing clothes 5 times too big, talking like they have marshmallows in their cheeks. Instant turnoff.

The second thing I notice is how he treats the people around him. Is he controlling or does he respect the feelings and boundaries of others? Is his sense of humor actually funny or does it come at the expense of others?

I find these things important because it usually is a pretty good indication of how he will treat me. If he walks around like he thinks he's hot shit every day, he usually thinks he's hot shit in a relationship. If he cares about how he treats others and takes care of himself, he is more conscious of my feelings and is more open to communication.
06/30/2013
AMorris89 AMorris89
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
What is the first thing that attracts you to another?
I like to know people before I date them. I love the mind.
06/30/2013
mr115393 mr115393
It's really complicated. I mean, of course I immediately noticed that my girlfriend was really pretty when I met her, but she has a serious presence. She comes in and you can tell that she's hilarious and confident and smart and talented.
07/01/2013
Castielskitten Castielskitten
Personality does it for me. In the looks department, you could pick up what seems like a overall sweet hot guy, then when he thinks it's alright, he's a downright abusive jackass. Then there could be the chubby hubby that people would think opposite of, but come to find out he's the biggest sweetheart you could ever know.
07/01/2013
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