When I was with Mulder, I insisted that his children NOT know of me. He was puzzled by this as he wanted me to at least meet his eldest (the one he had right after high school). But I knew this wasn't going to last and I didn't want his kids to get used to me being around. I was right - he dumped me without telling me after a five month affair. For his kids' sakes, I'm GLAD they never knew of me.
Being that I'm in my 30's I'm aware that anyone else my age is going to end up having kids. (Which is hilarious because everyone in school swore up and down I'd be the first to have them and I'd have a dozen - and it turns out they're having the kids and I don't have any.) I'm ... uneasy with the idea right now. I want to be his emotional priority (for once in my life), and that's near impossible when there are children involved. And, of course, it goes right back to the 'I don't want them to get used to me and then we break up'. I just want to avoid dating fathers when I do start seeing people.
I may change my mind if that's all there is left, though.
God, this is depressing.