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Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
It really depends on if you like the guy or not
07/18/2012
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
Dont do it...nothing good is ganna come of it. If these boys are really unhappy they should leave the marriage. And chances are, youre not the only tail their trying to get. Good luck.
07/20/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
The only time I could understand that being okay is if the man and wife are separated and have started the divorce process. Other than that, not a good idea, and even that could cause a lot of drama.
07/21/2012
Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
ive been on both sides someone thats been cheated on and someone that cheated on someone with me both are not good
07/21/2012
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
It will lead to heartache...
07/25/2012
Contributor: duff duff
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Originally posted by XxFallenAngelxX
It will lead to heartache...
dido
07/25/2012
Contributor: Gettinmymojoback Gettinmymojoback
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
Imagine being the wife, whether things are sour at home or not, they should leave if they are that unhappy! I would rather my husband leave me if he wanted to go for some other woman/man. Try putting yourself in the wives perspective.
07/25/2012
Contributor: bunny love bunny love
I wouldn't cheat. I would politely inform them of my relationship status, and then go about my life.

If they kept coming on to me, I would be tempted to tell them off rather rudely.
07/25/2012
Contributor: xGOLDx xGOLDx
Way too messy to get involved with people in a relationship. Not worth the drama and hurt feelings.
07/25/2012
Contributor: Gina RPG Geek Gina RPG Geek
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
Tell them all to get counseling and come to grips with what they really want.
07/25/2012
Contributor: yummyinmytummy yummyinmytummy
I wouldn't do it. If their marriage is really that bad, they can be open and tell their wife about having sex with you. Until then, it's nothing but lies, deceit, and being second fiddle
08/02/2012
Contributor: xcapricax xcapricax
gangbang???
08/02/2012
Contributor: Layenna Layenna
back offfff, that's a mess you could end up regretting for the rest of your life.
08/03/2012
Contributor: SkylarrStarr SkylarrStarr
Three words: wasn't worth it.
08/03/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
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Originally posted by xcapricax
gangbang???
NO not a gangbang.
I haven't talked to any of them and I am currently with someone else who isn't married SO all is good here
08/03/2012
Contributor: clockwork451 clockwork451
I only do open relationships, so cheating has never been an issue for me.
08/03/2012
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
4? how did that happen? for one, don't play a part in that, second- don't u think u deserve better? where could that possibly go? if u want casual sex u can get it elsewhere. except under rare circumstances they will cheat on u. and if there are kids involved...don't even be around this person at all.

the best thing to do is make whatever changes must be made to remove yourself from their life. take the temptation away from both of u.

the upside is that u know they are married. so u can't plead ignorance
08/15/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
4?! Damn, girl, what's your secret? Seriously, though, I would not mess with a married man. Ever. Not worth the drama, and you deserve better.
08/15/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
Don't do it. EVER. You will ruin a family.
08/15/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Thanks everyone I have actually moved forward and stopped talking to all but 2 in a NON Sexual Level. One's wife knows he talks to me in fact she tells him when I call or whatever that his "girlfriend" is calling him. As for the other I try to keep everything casual talk about work and what not since we are in the same career field, we met when we were both going through training. I constantly point out he is married and I am not taking a part in it. In the beginning I was all for it. Now, I have someone who I am seeing and I am NOT ruining what I have.

bayosgirl, secret hell I am still trying to figure out what they see in me!! As well as trying to figure out why they want me so damn bad. Oh well I have someone who isn't married now
08/15/2012
Contributor: bettle590 bettle590
Only if the guy is in an open marriage...I'd never want to be cheated on so i wouldn't want to be part of someone else's experience of it. Although, it is a moral grey area I think
08/16/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
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Originally posted by bettle590
Only if the guy is in an open marriage...I'd never want to be cheated on so i wouldn't want to be part of someone else's experience of it. Although, it is a moral grey area I think
If you read my last post you will see I have moved on from the married men, in which I never did anything with any of them.
08/16/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
You tell them to go home to their wives that you are BETTER than that! That is what you do. I have turned down married men more than once or twice without issue. It DOES NOT matter. THEY are married. Any woman who could do that to another woman is low in my book. Really. Really. Incredibly low. Women are supposed to stick together not be that way. Someone who gets involved with a married person is a home wrecker. Ruining a marriage or even contributing to an already "ruined" marriage is not something I could or will ever have to live with. We as girls are better than that, better than doing that to one of our own.
08/16/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
Thanks for the response. I know it makes me sound and look horrible since there are 2 who I REALLY want to jump on in with! Its just so confusing I know its not right but again if they aren't being taken care of at home its confusing to say the ... more
If they "are not being taken care of at home?" Really? Then that is their problem not yours and not their wives. I don't think deep down you really want another woman to suffer and hurt over you. I think most women will regret doing such a thing. You've already said you know it is wrong. If he's not being taken care of at home, then that is an issue he needs to resolve and not likely to be his wife's problem. Perhaps that is what you say to make yourself feel better? It's not an excuse that you'd likely be able to live with in the future. If he's having marriage issues, it's not going to help to have a F buddy. You'd end up hurt, which is awful and then you'd probably end up feeling guilty, and rightly so. You just DON'T ever, ever, ever get involved in someone else's marriage. It's just a big no.

I mean what if you did and then he went to another girl and said YOU weren't taking care of him, so he deserves another F buddy. It's HIS problem if he feels he isn't being taken care of. Maybe he's asking for more than what his wife can/knows how to give. Maybe she's not "taking care of him" because he's out trying to take advantage of you. That's plenty of reason. It is not her duty to fulfill his heart's desire, to "take care of him." It is HIS duty (and her's) however, to remain faithful to the promises he made to his wife.

What I would suggest to the married man, marriage counselling--with his WIFE. Then if you're so inclined to "jump in on it," tell him that when the divorce is final (assuming a divorce IS in fact coming up since he's ready to have intercourse with another woman besides his wife?) then you will consider it, but that you owe yourself and his wife (another woman) better than to be taken advantage of. And hey, if by some miraculous chance he is not taking advantage of ya, he'll call you up the day that divorce is final.

Ultimately, it is your choice and it honestly sounds like you have already made it.


EDIT

Oh. I see you are occupied with someone else now. Sorry. Didn't see that until I posted since your previous comments didn't show up except on page number 2. I'm am glad you've kept your distance though. You sound happy in your previous posts about this new relationship. I hope it goes really well! Congrats for making the moral decision. You DESERVE someone devoted only to you. I'm really happy to read you've got that. That is awesome and a very big congrats to you and warm lovely wishes. Hope he's a keeper.
08/16/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
Nope
08/16/2012
Contributor: LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
I don't condone cheating at all. I've been cheated on and the pain is still present within my heart; I wouldn't be able to face myself if I ever cheated on someone.
08/16/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
If they "are not being taken care of at home?" Really? Then that is their problem not yours and not their wives. I don't think deep down you really want another woman to suffer and hurt over you. I think most women will regret doing ... more
Thanks Kendra so far everything with the other guy is going good I am pretty happy with the way things are going right now.
08/17/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
No way do NOT do it
09/10/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
A gang bang is a fantasy of mine, but I would not suggest it with married/attached men. Not a good thing.
09/10/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Quote:
Originally posted by Noelle
A gang bang is a fantasy of mine, but I would not suggest it with married/attached men. Not a good thing.
I am not into gang bang not my thing.

An Stinkytofu10-in my last post I stated I wasn't seeing any of these guys I have mentioned it a few times I am happily seeing a non married man
09/11/2012