How do you figure out what your audience wants to know?

Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
When writing a review it's hard for me to figure out what my audience wants to know. Being young, I can't get into the mind set of an older person. Being female, it's hard for me to understand what men are looking for in a product. Not being into anal, I don't really know what information to include about anal on which products. Being straight and in a long term relationship I don't know how to word different things as not to offend people. When writing a review I also try to be careful of how I word things, but that makes writing seem like a chore, which sucks cause I love writing! Have you ever had this problem? What did/do you do about it?
06/12/2012
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Contributor: Rossie Rossie
With all those worries you have, the best thing is to become a student in the EF mentor program.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by Rossie
With all those worries you have, the best thing is to become a student in the EF mentor program.
I've been a student to 4 or 5 mentors already. And I believe I've become a much better reviewer, but there's still so much for me to learn. And since I do have so many worries I thought it'd be best to get as much input from many different people as possible. =)
06/12/2012
Contributor: meitman meitman
You can't get in to everyone's mind. I'm fairly new to reviewing myself, but I think you have to just let some of that stuff go and do the best review you can without going crazy over it.

If anyone happens to have a problem or would like to see something else in your review, hopefully they will kindly let you know in the comments and you will know for the next review. Just be yourself. Most people on Eden will know you are not trying to offend them.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by meitman
You can't get in to everyone's mind. I'm fairly new to reviewing myself, but I think you have to just let some of that stuff go and do the best review you can without going crazy over it.

If anyone happens to have a problem or ... more
Thats a good way to look at it. Thank you.
06/12/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Talk to people that know about it, so you can at least be educated if not experienced about the topic.
06/12/2012
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
When writing a review it's hard for me to figure out what my audience wants to know. Being young, I can't get into the mind set of an older person. Being female, it's hard for me to understand what men are looking for in a product. Not ... more
I would say what you know and don't be to concerned about offending folks. If it helps, just state that you only used it "this way" and you are not to sure about other ways of using it. For instance, you mention not know about anal toys but I am sure you know that a toy for anal use should have a safe base, right? In this case you could say "This toy is not recommended for anal play since it does not have a base" or "This toy could be also used for anal play but I did not use it this way" Same could be said about harness compatible toys.

But honestly, you should enjoy writing the reviews. When a review becomes a chore you are not being yourself since all these thought are running through your head. Say what you want to say as long as you are happy with your work.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
People will not agree with everyone! Just be yourself and someone will relate! Honesty is the best always! (I know cheesy, but true!) I feel like I relate to some reviews, and not others... so don't try to relate to everyone and you won't come off as faking it!
06/12/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
You've gotten some great input already. When I write reviews, I try to think about what I'd want to know about the item if I were new here and reading the review. So I answer my own questions, and include that information.

You simply will NOT be able to please everyone, no matter what you include in the review. Knowing that, I've decided to write a review that I think is good, and that I'm happy with. That often results in good votes, and when it doesn't - I don't care! I did my best and that's that. I'm satisfied.
06/13/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
You cannot answer all the questions for every reader.

What you can do is write the best review possible, do your research-if needed and answer all of the questions you thought of prior to, waiting for and while using the product.

Include experiences-no need to get xxx, just generalized.

Be factual, fun and the review will flow naturally. You do a great job!
06/13/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
I would say what you know and don't be to concerned about offending folks. If it helps, just state that you only used it "this way" and you are not to sure about other ways of using it. For instance, you mention not know about anal toys ... more
Tim and the others make a lot of sense. You can briefly mention activities you don't engage in, but of course, don't review toys you wouldn't use. (Say, don't review a butt plug, as you wouldn't use it, y'know? I don't review things like harnesses and pegging toys, because I'm clueless on how to use them, and I think a review written by me about these things would be fairly unhelpful.) I stick with toys I DO use, of course branching out, but only to toys I will use.

As Tim said, you can mention whether a toy is anal safe or not, even if you don't use it that way, but I wouldn't review an anal toy, unless you are using it. (I've seen people review toys they don't use and.... well, you know.)

As for it being a chore, you know enough about the toys you use to write really good reviews. Stay with what you know, occasionally adding a new activity, if you want to. Don't try anal just to write a review on a probe, only try anal only because you want to, if you don't want to try it, that's OK, too!

Use the knowledge you have, and always be open to new experiences. That will lead to good reviews. If there's an activity you know you will never engage in, that's OK, too. Just know where your strong points are and use those to your advantage, always being open minded.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
Thanks everyone. I guess I truly do over-analyze everything! I'll try and relax with my next review.
06/13/2012