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Xavier7
It wasn't dramatic, was it? I didn't think so. Plus, I do find it rather rude that you're asking me. On other posts I've said that I only reply to posts as I need to. Look, if you want me to leave, I'm gone. I don't like it here anyway. But I have a
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It wasn't dramatic, was it? I didn't think so. Plus, I do find it rather rude that you're asking me. On other posts I've said that I only reply to posts as I need to. Look, if you want me to leave, I'm gone. I don't like it here anyway. But I have a right to talk to people on the forums that are my friends, and to reply to questions people have asked me. What do you think my intention was? And do you want to know why I left? You don't know why, I presume.
As for the clique thing, I'm sorry to have offended you. I didn't appreciate your sarcasm at the end, but at the same time I understand how you are hurt and I apologize.
Well, now, the idea of being dramatic is in the eye of the interpreter, is it not? If I read your post as dramatic, you do not have the right to tell me I'm incorrect. You do, of course, have the right to your own opinion and interpretation, but I'm just calling it like
I see it. I don't understand: why is it rude that I'm asking you why you're leaving? This post you made, as well as all the others on this thread, was a public post on a public forum: if you wanted privacy, you wouldn't have posted at all, I'd assume. Like the internet gurus say: the internet is forever, our words are immortalized for everyone to read, so we ought not put anything in writing we don't Really mean. The boy who cried wolf, and all. And, no, that's not a jab at your gender.
Anyway,
I don't much mind if you stay, but I don't mind, either, if you go. I don't mean that to be hurtful, that's just a fact of (internet) life. People often have to disengage from online communities for their own reasons--I've been online for the past twelve years, give or take--I grew up online, you see, I've been online since I was nine (as you probably have, too, being in the same age group as am I) so I understand that things happen. And sometimes we need to check out for our own well-being. It happens. I'd really like to believe that you wouldn't pin your staying or going of a community on what one anonymous poster says you ought to do.
My next (and perhaps the most important) question is why would you want to stay in a community that you "don't like anyway"? I mean, if I'm having a lousy time at a party, I leave. If the movie sucks, I go see a different one. If I'm unhappy in one online circle, I...? Well, you get the picture. Why would your staying or going hinge on someone at all, if you aren't happy being there in the first place? Seriously. This is an entirely earnest question, no sarcasm or snark involved: i just don't get it.
As for your intentions: I don't judge them, I don't evaluate them. Your intentions are your own. Why you "left" is your business, not mine. I'm one for the quiet, refined exit, stage left, if you will. If people (including myself) decide that the community is no longer an appropriate fit for them, I will (and have, done in the past on other fora) quietly take my leave with dignity and as little notoriety as I can manage. I cannot take away your rights; I'm not a moderator here, I'm not your Owner. I'm just one girl with a laptop and a (shaky) internet connection. You are free to post as you like, reply to whomever you'd like, talk to whomever you'd like. Ah, the power of the internet.
Please, in the future, do not make the assumption that you know how I'm feeling without even knowing a thing about me--I'm not hurt (why would I be...?) so your apology is unnecessary but still appreciated. And my question in the end was rather sincere: I would still like to know if I'm a Cool Kid. And I'd still like a brooch.
