Anal?

zensgirl10 zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
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Yes!
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159  (89%)
No!
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18  (10%)
Hurts Like Hell
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2  (1%)
Total votes: 179
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05/12/2011
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kendra30752 kendra30752
I voted no because I've never done anal. My partner and I aren't into the idea. But, everyone is different. Only you will know if you like it enough to keep doing it. Also, only do it if you're comfortable with it.
05/12/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
Gah, I have to say no. I'm so close to my next change to try, though! I know I enjoy anal toys, though. Just make sure to relaaaaaax and use lots of lube.

The first time I used my Pure Plug Large, it hurt as the widest part passed the sphincter. But I was VERY new to toys, and taking it out I was actually ok (this was after an hour or two of having it in I think). Since then I have had to trouble with pain.

Edit: no as in I haven't done it... I'm not sure what question we're responding to, though. Is it "Should you continue without doing it?" In which case I would say go ahead and try it if you guys are interested. Doesn't hurt to experiment, you sound like you can trust each other to stop immediately if it gets worrisome.
05/12/2011
RonLee RonLee
I just cannot figure out what the first two choices "Yes" or "NO" mean.
Apart from that NO anal SHOULD NOT HURT.
If you're apprehensive about something unpleasant in there, well use an enema. Not just one fleet enema either, again and again until what comes out is clear and clean.
Go very slow, use LOTs of lube. Have your partner use fingers first. When you do feel ready for anal intercourse, remind your partner to NOT get too vigorous, even if you feel like going along with it. Go slow until you've done it enough times that your body has adjusted to that activity.
05/12/2011
zensgirl10 zensgirl10
Quote:
Originally posted by kendra30752
I voted no because I've never done anal. My partner and I aren't into the idea. But, everyone is different. Only you will know if you like it enough to keep doing it. Also, only do it if you're comfortable with it.
thanks for your reply. no pressure from him to do it. He hasn't ever tried it either. We were just talking about things we would like to try and he said maybe try anal sometime if I was comfortable. I don't think we will be, at least not anytime soon. I just really don't like the idea right now.
05/14/2011
zensgirl10 zensgirl10
Quote:
Originally posted by MaryExy
Gah, I have to say no. I'm so close to my next change to try, though! I know I enjoy anal toys, though. Just make sure to relaaaaaax and use lots of lube.

The first time I used my Pure Plug Large, it hurt as the widest part passed the ... More
thanks for your comment.
05/14/2011
zensgirl10 zensgirl10
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
I just cannot figure out what the first two choices "Yes" or "NO" mean.
Apart from that NO anal SHOULD NOT HURT.
If you're apprehensive about something unpleasant in there, well use an enema. Not just one fleet ... More
Yes, try it.

No don't
or yes but it hurts like hell. Sorry I wasn't clear.
05/14/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
The double negative in your question is confusing. Anal sex is pleasurable if done properly = so yes you should continue to try - but go slowly, with plenty of lube and start with penile penetration. Work up from simple massage to fingers to small toys - eventually you'll understand your body enough to enjoy the sensations. Something that should be rewarding for both of you.

Enjoy the journey.
05/14/2011
alliegator alliegator
Do you already do anal play? Start slow, playing with fingers to see if you like the sensation first. If you do, then move on to trying small toys and intercourse.
05/14/2011
Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
Yes, try it.

No don't
or yes but it hurts like hell. Sorry I wasn't clear.
Yes, try it! It does require some effort, but it can be worth it if you both enjoy it. It is very different and the sensations can be pretty incredible once you get used to how the process works.
05/14/2011
Oxygen99 Oxygen99
Anal is amazing!
05/14/2011
ScottA ScottA
If you want to then by all means go ahead and try it, but count on it being a process that can take time - at least a month, maybe more.

When done properly it feels good and there is no pain, and only a bit of discomfort from time to time.

If you don't want to do it than don't - if you feel pushed into it and are doing it because you feel you have to then you're much less likely to enjoy it.
05/15/2011
Kdlips Kdlips
yes
05/15/2011
Brosia Brosia
It's taken my partner and I awhile to be comfortable trying anal, but it was worth the wait. Don't rush it; do it only when you're both into it.
05/15/2011
AOutrajus AOutrajus
it feels great! just make sure to use lube and a starter so it doesn't hurt.
05/15/2011
zensgirl10 zensgirl10
Quote:
Originally posted by alliegator
Do you already do anal play? Start slow, playing with fingers to see if you like the sensation first. If you do, then move on to trying small toys and intercourse.
thank you.
05/22/2011
zensgirl10 zensgirl10
Quote:
Originally posted by Brosia
It's taken my partner and I awhile to be comfortable trying anal, but it was worth the wait. Don't rush it; do it only when you're both into it.
thanks for the reply. I am thinking about trying the first of the new month. Ordering some kits for first time anal play soon.
05/22/2011
Anjulie Anjulie
Quote:
Originally posted by Oxygen99
Anal is amazing!
Agreed. You just need to go slow and take it easy. Start with something small and work up. It should not hurt. If it does, then stop because you are doing something wrong.
05/23/2011
CAKES CAKES
I love anal!
05/25/2011
daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
It takes time to warm up to it. You can't just jump into it. It takes work to make it pleasurable, but I feel it's worth it whne you put the extra time in.
05/25/2011
clp clp
I love anal. LOVE. Like everyone else has said: stop if it hurts, only try when you are feeling up to it, and it may take time to become comfortable with. I cannot imagine life without it (I refuse to!!) but its also completely cool if you try it and its just not your bag. You never know until you've tried.
05/25/2011
salaciousrex salaciousrex
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
I just cannot figure out what the first two choices "Yes" or "NO" mean.
Apart from that NO anal SHOULD NOT HURT.
If you're apprehensive about something unpleasant in there, well use an enema. Not just one fleet ... More
This is GREAT advice. Just go slow

It's worth a try if you're interested. If either of you don't like it, then you can just stop and not do it again. At least then you know, right?
Personally I think anal is A LOT of fun. I love it. My guy doesn't like doing that to me though, and I have friends that don't like it. But everyone is different, so take some time, maybe experiment with fingers or a small toy first even.
05/25/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
I voted no because my partner and I do not have actual anal sex. However, we love anal toys, both large and small. Also anal massage with the hands. We just don't have anal sex due to personal preferences.
05/25/2011
babyrock babyrock
you have to be in the right state of mind. just take baby steps. it helps to have a few orgasms first.
05/26/2011
stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
Should it hurt, No. Should you attempt it, possibly. It would be better if you were to play with toys before hand to open you up & get used to something in there. It should be extremely pleasurable & when his head enters you he should stop moving until you are ready. The 1st time neither of you may get off, but it can be a great feeling.
05/30/2011
Devz Devz
I love anal and it doesnt hurt at all. You have to start it slow though step by step
05/30/2011
Rossie Rossie
Yes, try it. Anal can be fun if you do it following the right steps. Always remember to be patient and don't rush into things. You should study Eden's Sex Guides and Tips section link, especially the "Beginner Plugs and Short-Term Wear". Enjoy!
05/30/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
As a guy, setting aside the issue of anal intercourse, I encourage you both to explore slowing and sensuously that area of both of your bodies, it is very erogenous. As you feel comfortable you can then decide how far you wish to take it. Even if all you ever do is take fingers and gently massage your respective anal areas without ever penetrating you will both get arousal from it as there are a huge number of wonderful nerves in that area that get aroused from sexual touching. Communication is the key, no surprises from either of you.
05/31/2011
deletedacct deletedacct
I would suggest reading "the ultimate guide to anal sex for women" by Tristan Taormino to answer any questions you have. Try experimenting with smaller toys & using lots of lube before jumping into full blown anal sex.
05/31/2011
missthing missthing
I haven't tried it either, I'm a bit terrified to tell you the truth. Let me know what you decide and how it goes!
06/17/2011
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