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Anal Insertible for him during PIV sex

MsTryska MsTryska
Hey y'all need help.

We've bene experimenting with strap-on play and various toys. We found that we both REALLY like the sex when he has a dildo inside him. He prefers to stroke deep and slow so he can feel the toy, and it is very intimate for both of us.

The one time we tried it, we used a vac-u-loc realistic dildo, and I was on top. He was able to thrust on it a little bit and it felt good, but since then we've been talking about other logistical options.

He thinks a suction cup type dildo with a base would work, and we could use it sitting or with him on the bottom.

I'm thinking a bendable double dildo might be better, because then he can use the extra legnth for leverage lying or somewhat sitting, and I can use it with him on top.

Also any other toys with reasonable length and girth (he is sort of a size queen) are on the table.

Does anyone have any good toy suggestions for this particular activity?
08/22/2010
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bend over hottie bend over hottie
My girlfriend prefers a suction cup type to others because it's wider and hits her in all the right places. We've found we like this one pretty well link Only problem with it is that it has the rubber smell some tend to have. And it's a pretty good size, yeah...I'm a "size queen" also lol.

Also, my girlfriend has found she likes the feeling when she puts a vibrating cock ring on it when she does me to give her extra stimulation.
08/23/2010
MsTryska MsTryska
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Originally posted by bend over hottie
My girlfriend prefers a suction cup type to others because it's wider and hits her in all the right places. We've found we like this one pretty well link Only problem with it is that it has the rubber smell some tend to have. And it's ...
Wait - I don't understand...how does the suction cup type hit her in all the right places? Does she have it in her ass, while you are penetrating her?
08/23/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Man, I wish my husband was like that. I want him to try stuff like this out.
08/23/2010
MsTryska MsTryska
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Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
Man, I wish my husband was like that. I want him to try stuff like this out.
lol this was his idea originally and I ran with it. I think if i were to start a new relationship now, openness to playing like this would be a requirement.
08/23/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by MsTryska
lol this was his idea originally and I ran with it. I think if i were to start a new relationship now, openness to playing like this would be a requirement.
Lol. Well I'm having issues with that with my hubby right now. He's not very open to it, but I want him to do things like that. It's like a big turn on for me. So I'm working on making him more open to it. I think he thinks that if he likes it, it will make him seem gay or something. But I try to tell him it won't.
08/23/2010
MsTryska MsTryska
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Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
Lol. Well I'm having issues with that with my hubby right now. He's not very open to it, but I want him to do things like that. It's like a big turn on for me. So I'm working on making him more open to it. I think he thinks that if he ...
To quote Dan Savage - "the ass isn't some magical place that only gay people can visit like a leather bar or the Liberace museum.."

Maybe you could start slow - give him a rubdown, and then sneak attack the tush, give him a good rubdown, kiss and nibble at it then maybe slip in soem rimming and leave it at that. Then on another day mention how much you enjoyed that..the next time go a little further..maybe slip a finger in and give him some oral (i think that's the anal pleasure gateway drug judging from the first time stories i hear from guys)

I dunno - i mean mine snuck it on me by mentioning bdsm it took him 6 months or so to cowboy up and tell me what he really wanted - which was just his ass played with - i amped it up a notch by suggesting the strapon.
08/23/2010
shepegs shepegs
He's missing out.
08/23/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by MsTryska
To quote Dan Savage - "the ass isn't some magical place that only gay people can visit like a leather bar or the Liberace museum.."

Maybe you could start slow - give him a rubdown, and then sneak attack the tush, give him a good ...
Yeah, it's been suggested to me on another forum post to start with oral and while doing that start with a finger. The first time I tried it on him, it was just a finger alone and he didn't enjoy that very much at all. Well that first and ONLY time he has let me do something like that.
08/24/2010
MsTryska MsTryska
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Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
Yeah, it's been suggested to me on another forum post to start with oral and while doing that start with a finger. The first time I tried it on him, it was just a finger alone and he didn't enjoy that very much at all. Well that first and ...
did he know the finger was coming?

I think the only way to get there is slowly and sneakily - try rimming him first - you have to connect pleasure with his ass for him.

Then after a few random times of doing that with him on his belly a few weeks apart (always good to pair with a massage so he feels safe and things are all about him for a little while), do it to him as part of oral with him on his back or sitting down. You want to get him to the point where he's looking forward to you paying attention there - but you have to get there by not making it a big deal or seem like you are making a fuss about it.

Finally surprise him - get him on one of his extra-horny days (or when he's tipsy and perverted), get him going and stick the finger in while giving him a bj - I would suggest using lube too. My preference is not to have things stuck inside my ass - bare fingers burn and no lube feels rough.

lol i feel like a fratboy telling you how to score with the prom queen...

You still might never be able to actually peg him - I know my ass isn't to be had, although i have explored it more since getting with the boy. I mean a good top needs to know what it feels like to do things to their bottom. But, going slow and steady and sensitizing him would be much better for the relationship, then pressuring him or having long drawn out discussions that eventually wind up causing a wedge in the relationship.
08/24/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by MsTryska
did he know the finger was coming?

I think the only way to get there is slowly and sneakily - try rimming him first - you have to connect pleasure with his ass for him.

Then after a few random times of doing that with him on his belly a ...
Yeah I don't push it on him at all. He knows I want it, and I'm willing to experiment with things like that with him, if he ever opens up.

The one time I was able to get a finger inside, yes he did know it was coming. He finally opened up for a little bit and said I could try it out to see if he thought it felt good, but he didn't enjoy it. I think he was just too tense. I've gotten lots of good tips on here for how to make him enjoy it more, so once he opens up about it again, I will try some of these things out!
08/24/2010
ScottA ScottA
Tantus makes a suction cup that can slide into the vibrator hole on their dildos. Seems to work pretty well, and allows you to have a multi-use toy since you can hold onto it. The suction cup should work OK on any dildo that takes a silver-bullet type vibrator.

There aren't many bendable dills in silicone, and for anal silicone is really nice. There are the harnessless doubles, and those often work well hand-held.

Note that suction cups require hard surfaces to work, which might be uncomfortable during sex. Dildos during sex are great fun, though, since as a guy it makes pulling out (which pushes the dildo into your butt) as much fun as pushing in.
08/25/2010
MsTryska MsTryska
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Originally posted by ScottA
Tantus makes a suction cup that can slide into the vibrator hole on their dildos. Seems to work pretty well, and allows you to have a multi-use toy since you can hold onto it. The suction cup should work OK on any dildo that takes a silver-bullet ...
thanks Scott! and yeah - exactly why I like having sex with him like that - he thrusts really slow, because of that errr...sual action, and he just seems more sensation focused and in his body which i dig.

ANd yeah - I'm not sure how good the suction cup would be on a bed or a chair - really we jsut need something with leverage.

Jelly works pretty good for us at this point - everything in silicone that i have is too small for him to care about lol.

This is kinda what I had in mind:

Double-Dil

I figure with the bendiness and extra length - he can use it kind of bent against the bed when he's on the bottom and be able to slide on it, or I can reach around and use it and do him while he's on top of me.
08/25/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by MsTryska
thanks Scott! and yeah - exactly why I like having sex with him like that - he thrusts really slow, because of that errr...sual action, and he just seems more sensation focused and in his body which i dig.

ANd yeah - I'm not sure how good ...
Something with him on top and your hand holding it will probably work better. I think if you try to brace it against the bed it will bend in different places, work its way out, and generally not move with each thrust very well unless you can find a way to more firmly attach it. You could get some strong fabric or fake leather and make a "mini harness" that pins (or otherwise attaches) to the bed - look at the harnesses on EF to see how the dildo attaches (it's easy, just cut a hole in the middle that the flange doesn't fit through).

Sorry about making you uncomfortable with excess description - after a while on these types of forums you become a little less inhibited at times. I do try not to be obscene, but still sometimes say too much
08/26/2010
MsTryska MsTryska
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Originally posted by ScottA
Something with him on top and your hand holding it will probably work better. I think if you try to brace it against the bed it will bend in different places, work its way out, and generally not move with each thrust very well unless you can find a ...
You didn't make me uncomfortable at all - I enjoy hearing what it's liek for a guy - I treat it as advice!

And speaking of harnesses....once i've got my toys all stocked up and can start looking at other gear, this is on my wishlist:
Harness
08/26/2010
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