Anal Toys for Women? Completely New and Confused

Nothere Nothere
Sorry if this sounds really awkward or ignorant, I'm just really confused about anal sex/toys. I really really want to understand what the hype about anal is. What do women get out of it? I've never had anal sex and have never tried anal toys before. I understand P spot stimulation for guys, but have always wondered what women get from anal. What's the difference say between plugs, beads, dildos and probes, and how do you use them?

Is does it feel better to thrust or what, exactly? I'm completely new to this and don't even know where to start!
10/17/2011
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Jul!a Jul!a
I'll be honest with you, I consider myself a complete novice as well. To the best of my understanding, there are a lot of nerve endings in the area that with the right stimulation can feel really good. That's not to say that you'll love anal play, you may just as easily decide it's not for you, and there's nothing wrong with that either.

As for the difference between everything, here's my understanding of everything. A plug is for when you want something to sit inside of you and stay there, providing a filling feeling. Beads are mostly for the popping sensation as the beads enter and exit. Dildos and probes are similar and I can't really come up with much of anything better than probes are good for gentle probing, usually smaller for experimentation, and dildos you'd use just like you were using them vaginally.

The type of stimulation you like depends on your preferences really. Some women really enjoy thrusting, while others prefer the sensation of just wearing a plug and having it sit there.

I'm no expert by any means, but sometimes hearing it from somebody else as almost clueless helps? lol. Either way, I hope that provides some insight
10/17/2011
Antipova Antipova
Well, here are my thoughts.

Basically, it's just another route to pleasure. I've been an anal player fro a long time (when I was a teenager, I really craved penetration when I was masturbating, but I wanted to save my hymen for a boy). So basically, since I was having clitoral orgasms with things in my ass, over time I established a neural anal-penetration-orgas m pattern.

Sure, I don't have a prostrate. But the sensation of relaxing my muscles, of feeling something strong slip into and past them, feels good. The feeling of the muscles closing shut again around a neck of a plug feels nice, too. Then there's also the feeling of weight. That's for a plug, in particular, I guess---I enjoy wearing a plug for a significant chunk of the day, to feel weight inside me.

Dildos and probes have the same appeal as PIA sex, which is just basically thrusting. An anal orgasm from thrusting is similar to a vaginal (vaginal but non-g-spot) orgasm from thrusting... but a whole lot stronger. Usually I can have multiple vaginal orgasms, but an anal orgasm leaves me weak-kneed, and needing a rest.

Beads, as Sam said, are for the feeling of your muscles expanding and contracting to accept them. They feel really neat when pulled out during orgasm, too.

I guess the biggest draw of anal toys for me is double penetration---this has the huge advantage of whatever's in you ass pressing whatever's in your vagina straight up into your g-spot. The extra fullness feels wonderful too.


So, let's see. If you're just looking to start... I woudl get a plug (like the Njoy medium) and just wear the plug while you give yourself a clitoral orgasm for a while.

Also, if you've got a partner, encourage him to finger-fuck you and slip his (lubricated!) pinky into your anus. Remember that "two in the pink, one in the stink" hand motion middle schoolers used to wave at each other? Turns out it actually feels incredible. The first time my highschool boyfriend did it to me I was thunderstruck.

If you like that, have him add a finger (middle finger?) to your ass when you're having PIV sex doggy style, that's enjoyable and easily accessible too.

Basically, for me, the route to enjoying anal was probably solidified early on by correlating anal with orgasms.

Does that help at all?
10/17/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
The girls pretty much cover it but I'll add a few more facts.

The anus contains as many pleasure feeling nerve endings as any other sexual organ, maybe more.

Also, one thing I just learned about in a great book is that the clitoris has two 'legs' that end at or around the anus. During penetration, these legs get stimulated and can cause an orgasm. Probably why it is easier for women to have anal O's easier than guys can.

That book is a must have if you would like to learn more.
10/17/2011
Nothere Nothere
Thank you so much, Sam, Antipova and ToyTimeTim! I will definitely look into anal plug. I do like thrusting (vaginally) so I think I'll try and work my way up to that. Thanks for the book tip Tim!
10/18/2011
RonLee RonLee
The times that my Ex had "squirted" was always during anal intercourse. I think that it was primarily that the angle of my cock during anal was just right to stimulate her G-Spot.
10/18/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Nothere
Thank you so much, Sam, Antipova and ToyTimeTim! I will definitely look into anal plug. I do like thrusting (vaginally) so I think I'll try and work my way up to that. Thanks for the book tip Tim!
I'm glad we could help, and I hope you enjoy the journey!
10/18/2011
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Originally posted by Antipova
Well, here are my thoughts.

Basically, it's just another route to pleasure. I've been an anal player fro a long time (when I was a teenager, I really craved penetration when I was masturbating, but I wanted to save my hymen for a ... More
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02/16/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I don't have a ton of experience, but all I can say is progression. I knew I wanted to try anal play, and I wanted to do it by myself (my own pace). I started small, and progressed in frequency and size. Good luck, and I hope you find what works for you.
02/16/2013
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Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
Well, here are my thoughts.

Basically, it's just another route to pleasure. I've been an anal player fro a long time (when I was a teenager, I really craved penetration when I was masturbating, but I wanted to save my hymen for a ... More
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02/16/2013
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