how do you bring up anal play with a partner?

caramilk caramilk
for a first time, how do you bring up that you'd like to try anal? please share stories!
07/07/2013
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Two Grand Two Grand
I have been talking to my wife for years and she does not want to do anything< I cant even touch inside her butt, and I have asked her to put a finger in mine, but the answer has only been no, she is a church woman and will stick by her values, I can respect her beliefs while laying in the bed with a plug in my ass, that she doesn't know about.
07/08/2013
Rossie Rossie
I secretly bought a silicone butt plug similar to the The li'l end and showed it to my hubby right before foreplay, and told him I want to try anal. He was a little unsure about it, but was willing to work with me. The result was disappointing, because that cheap butt plug kept sliding out.

If you're planning to try butt plugs, buy a silicone plug that has a long and narrow neck -- not something like The li'l end.
07/08/2013
caramilk caramilk
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Originally posted by Rossie
I secretly bought a silicone butt plug similar to the The li'l end and showed it to my hubby right before foreplay, and told him I want to try anal. He was a little unsure about it, but was willing to work with me. The result was disappointing, ... More
thanks for the story/advice and the info on that toy!
07/13/2013
caramilk caramilk
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Originally posted by Two Grand
I have been talking to my wife for years and she does not want to do anything< I cant even touch inside her butt, and I have asked her to put a finger in mine, but the answer has only been no, she is a church woman and will stick by her values, I ... More
aww man well that is really great that you respect that she's not into it.
07/13/2013
dm dm
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Originally posted by caramilk
for a first time, how do you bring up that you'd like to try anal? please share stories!
As I was giving her a foot massage I told her it was something that I was interested in. I was shocked that she was too. As I get older I realize even if she is not into something It still is worth bringing up.
07/15/2013
SickOnSin SickOnSin
I write so I wrote a story about anal sex and handed it to him. He read it.
07/18/2013
HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
The first time my honey brought it up to me, he denied ever doing it or wanting to do it and said "I heard it feels like fucking a sandbag."

I doubted that a lot because his favorite part of my body is my ass... He slaps it, smacks it, likes to rub. Eventually he just told me one day when we were getting a bit kinkier that doing certain things made him "want bad things" and he confessed he actually likes anal. I'm a pretty open person with him. While we were in 69, he put his finger around my ass, and he licked up to it, and that truly opened the back door for us

We've only been able to do it once at any kind of full speed. I'm little, so opening me up is quite difficult, and for some reason I always get a burning sensation (not pleasant) so we stop. We have a few plugs- one is the Mood Naughty one on here. It's very small, and even for me, it falls out. Another is a black jelly one that came in a kit. This one is a bit thicker, less safe of a material (and very sticky so we have to lube it up a LOT) but works for now as an intermediate. The third plug we have is a big purple one that I have yet to fit in.

You should be open and honest with your partner/s. Bring it up. The bigger of a deal you make about bringing it up, the ore likely your partner will be timid with it. If there is something I want to try, while cuddled up with my honey (or even randomly while he is working via texting) I simply say, "So, I was thinking about ____ today... it looks interesting."

You miss 100% of the shots you never take... You will only have anal if it gets brought up eventually. If you never bring it up, it'll never happen.
07/19/2013
fruit viking fruit viking
I think the best thing to do is to just tell your partner. I was embarrassed about it when I told my girlfriend, and I was really worried that she would reject it or be disgusted. She was fine with it. We're starting off slow, but that's what you have to do with this kind of thing.

In short, just tell them. And if they're apprehensive, discuss it with them.
07/24/2013
AF AF
Well, just ask...It isn't the 'big taboo' from years ago...I always think: 'if you dont do it, you dont know how it is'

And here's an advice for men: try it yourself...Im serious. If you tried it yourself, you know how it feels, how it works, how you can relax, how far you can go (especially for the first time) This really helped me to have e anal sex with my girl. And she loves it.
08/01/2013
stacylyn12 stacylyn12
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Originally posted by caramilk
for a first time, how do you bring up that you'd like to try anal? please share stories!
I just asked if he have any fantasy that I did not know and it came out and we did it
08/01/2013
Thong man Thong man
I wore a plug last night with my wife for the first time last night. She knew that I had it but this was the first time I had used it with her. She was very open to bringing it into our playtime.
08/04/2013
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