Do you think your partner should help you with anal training?

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Do you think your partner should help you with anal training?

Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I am wondering if you should ask your partner to help with anal training?
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Yes
160  (95%)
No
1  (1%)
Other: Please explain....
7  (4%)
Total votes: 168
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04/18/2011
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Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Absolutely. In fact I recommend mutual anal play. Having experienced what anal penetration is like - the art of going slow, of pausing to allow for 'acceptance' - all of these things help your partner understand how to do it so that it feels great instead of hurting.

Too many guys have seen pounding anal sex in porn - that's for the pros only.

Learn about it together - you'll both be better off in the end
04/19/2011
nicole07 nicole07
Of course!
04/19/2011
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
Definitely!! Why not?
04/19/2011
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Learning with your partner can definitely be valuable, but so can learning on your own. When you're alone you don't have to worry about someone else's pleasure, you can concentrate totally on the task at hand. You don't have to worry about your partner going too fast or hard. Also not everyone has a partner available for such things.
04/19/2011
Annemarie Annemarie
I think one should only ask their partner to anal train if one knows their partner is not adverse to such subjects. For example, I know my significant other does not like messing with the butt, so I won't ask him to help put in my butt plug. I also know that he will never put anything in his butt either. So, I'll just not ask.
04/19/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
If both parties are up to it, sure. I appreciate my husband learning what feels good for him, then teaching me how to make it feel good for him as well. But when it came down to my anal training, I needed my husband present in order for me to be able to relax. So yes! My partner should help me during anal training; but who are we kidding, like he'd be anywhere else.
04/19/2011
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Totally, maybe not inicially, but they should not assume that you are just ready to go!
04/19/2011
sarki sarki
Yes work through it together.
04/19/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I am wondering if you should ask your partner to help with anal training?
OMG yes! It's fucking amazing to share that experience!
04/19/2011
KnK KnK
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I am wondering if you should ask your partner to help with anal training?
I think it would make things a lot easier
04/19/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I am wondering if you should ask your partner to help with anal training?
I doubt I would have bothered with it on my own. My Man helped train me, and we are both pretty happy with the outcome.

It took about a month, starting with gentle finger play, (we tried toys, but I didn't like them until after we actually had anal intercourse) and going into more and more intense activities, until we were able to have anal sex. We do frequently now. The feeling is so intense and fantastic. I don't know WHY we waited as long as we did to get around to starting with it. I guess I was scared. There is NOTHING to be scared about, if you are careful, take your time, use lube, and stop if it hurts. Always enjoy yourself and say NO if you don't want to at that time.

We found fingers and hands easier to train with than toys, but everyone is different.
04/19/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
for sure
04/19/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
Experiencing anything sexual together is the best way!
04/19/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
I think so, especially if you hope to eventually participate together.
04/19/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
I think it makes it more fun that way.
04/19/2011
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I am wondering if you should ask your partner to help with anal training?
Yes!
04/19/2011
Yoda Yoda
Anal play, for sure. But what the heck is training? Is it like training for a marathon or something?
04/19/2011
Willis2011 Willis2011
Yes of course
04/19/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I am wondering if you should ask your partner to help with anal training?
As a male who loves anal stimulation, I answer yes in both directions. Yes I would like my partner to share/learn with me both giving and receiving. As someone else said, that is the joy of a sexual relationship, learning how to pleasure each other.
04/19/2011
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Quote:
Originally posted by Yoda
Anal play, for sure. But what the heck is training? Is it like training for a marathon or something?
Sure, if the marathon is anal sex. It's usually a bad idea to jump straight into anal intercourse, so people "train" with fingers, and smaller toys. I have a wishlist called "anal training regimen" which is the toys I plan on using to prepare myself for comfortable anal sex.
04/19/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Yoda
Anal play, for sure. But what the heck is training? Is it like training for a marathon or something?
Anal sex and anal play isn't like PIV sex in many ways. The anus often needs to learn how to relax to accept pleasure.

With anal training, one's partner or oneself gradually plays with the anus, starting with small things, or just playing with the opening, so that pleasure comes naturally with no pain. Gradually, larger toys or more fingers and eventually a penis or dildo or larger plug can be introduced.

It's the way a lot of couples get into anal play.

Our training took about a month or more from just rimming or simulated rimming through digital penetration and eventually to penis and toys. Everybody's body and mind and love map is different, so the time will vary.

Lube, as is always said, is absolutely necessary.
04/19/2011
PersonalAngel PersonalAngel
Yes!!
04/19/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Sure, but only if they are comfortable with it. If the wife did not want to help out, I would not hold it against her.
04/19/2011
Buttercup Green Buttercup Green
Absolutely. My husband has been there with me from the very beginning of my anal training. He loves to help me discover new sensations. We both have talked about what I like and dislike, and I have not looked back. I am completely comfortable with my husband helping me, and I trust him completely. We still take things nice and slow, and we use tons of lube.
04/19/2011
liilii080 liilii080
If he or she is into it then absolutely, but if they are not, there is nothing stopping you from going at it solo. Give them the option but we each have our own preferences.
04/19/2011
sexyintexas sexyintexas
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I am wondering if you should ask your partner to help with anal training?
Yes, hes the one that got me started because of his desire to do it. We spent hours and hours just playing around before ever attempting. Now its on!
04/19/2011
callsignhusker callsignhusker
It can really be a very intimate thing!
04/19/2011
Skitlz Skitlz
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I am wondering if you should ask your partner to help with anal training?
oh yes
04/21/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
Quote:
Originally posted by Diabolical Kitty
I am wondering if you should ask your partner to help with anal training?
why not? everyone is able to have fun then
04/21/2011
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