Does anal play make me gay?

curious1 curious1
I'm a straight older guy who likes to masturbate with dildos and vibes. I began many years ago and have continued, even doing it once in a while while I had a partner because I enjoy the sensations. Stimulating the prostate seems to intensify my orgasms. Banging my ass with a rubber cock turns me on. Sometimes I think I ought to try to find a man to have anal sex with just to see how a real cock would feel in me, but truthfully, the thought of having sex with another guy doesn't excite me. Lately I've considered visiting a pre-op transexual prostitute as an alternate way to have the getting-fucked experience. I'm wondering if other men have had similar experience and how they managed it. Share your story with me. Thanks.
10/13/2010
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Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by curious1
I'm a straight older guy who likes to masturbate with dildos and vibes. I began many years ago and have continued, even doing it once in a while while I had a partner because I enjoy the sensations. Stimulating the prostate seems to intensify my ... More
I think, the only thing that would make you gay is this:

1. Are you attracted to men?
2. You are not interested in women (if you are, and meet the other, you may be bi)

Really doesn't matter. If you like anal play, that does not make you gay. I wouldn't worry what labels other people try to attach to other people. If you don't think your gay, then your not.

As for having sex with a pre-op Transsexual, not that I agree with why you are doing it, would still not make you gay (in my opinion, which should not matter to you). She is a women, not a guy, at least that is what I am told. Then again, I am no expert.


At least that is how I feel about it.


No one can say if you are or are not.

As a side note... I'd be very careful going to a prostitute. Sometime you can catch a disease or two , and a sometime may land you a free trip to jail in some countries.
10/13/2010
Yoda Yoda
If you like anal play, but aren't attracted to men, then you're not gay. Your sexual orientation is about your sexual preferences and identity, not what gives you the strongest orgasm.
10/13/2010
ScottA ScottA
If you're interested you can always get a real-feel dildo (such as VixSkin or Tantus O2) and have a woman peg you. Sex is much more fun if you're excited about it.
10/13/2010
Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I'm with everyone else, the bum is just another erogenous zone. I mean... if anal play makes you gay.... then I'm a gay man too!!
10/13/2010
whubwa whubwa
Why not just play with a woman who's wearing a strapon? That way you get it all ? I mean if men don't interest you, don't force it.
10/13/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
If you're not sexually attracted to men, you're not a gay man. The anus and prostate region are crazy full of nerve endings and there's nothing gay or wrong about enjoying them, by yourself or with a partner. If you enjoy it, get a good prostate massager (the Aneros line is ridiculously popular) and have a ball, or find a woman that's interested in pegging. I wouldn't think finding a prostitute, or a post-op transgender prostitute would be necessary especially if real penises and the male bodies attached to them don't excite you. Find yourself an open minded woman that you're compatible with, a good harness, and a handful of dildos - might I suggest the Deep Secret dildo? - might more than surpass your expectations and desires. My man LOVES anal - and he's as straight as they come.
10/13/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
If you're not sexually attracted to men, you're not a gay man. The anus and prostate region are crazy full of nerve endings and there's nothing gay or wrong about enjoying them, by yourself or with a partner. If you enjoy it, get a good ... More
I agree wholeheartedly. Also like ScottA was saying get a realistic dildo and try that to get a feel of what it is like.

I will second the deep secret as this was my first dildo for anal play and is one of my top two that I use.
10/13/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Pleasure Piratess
I'm with everyone else, the bum is just another erogenous zone. I mean... if anal play makes you gay.... then I'm a gay man too!!
LOL we have soooo many gay men on this site if anal play is the criteria for being gay.
Desiring the penis be attached to a man makes you gay or at least gay curious, playing with your ass makes you adventurous!
10/14/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by curious1
I'm a straight older guy who likes to masturbate with dildos and vibes. I began many years ago and have continued, even doing it once in a while while I had a partner because I enjoy the sensations. Stimulating the prostate seems to intensify my ... More
God no!

Men are anatomically designed to enjoy anal stimulation more than females.

"truthfully, the thought of having sex with another guy doesn't excite me."=not gay

And even if you were excited by that...you could be bi or just curious or open...nothign wrong with that either.
10/14/2010
Vexed Vexed
It can be an open door for you to start being curious as to what a real penis would feel like. That is what happened to me. I wasn't interested in men in my teens, but after lots of anal play I became curious. I should also point out that other psychological reasons came into play.

Now, I'm bi with a strong hetero leaning after much experimentation.
10/17/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Vexed
It can be an open door for you to start being curious as to what a real penis would feel like. That is what happened to me. I wasn't interested in men in my teens, but after lots of anal play I became curious. I should also point out that ... More
Note that being curious doesn't mean being bi or gay, and being curious (or potentially being curious) doesn't mean that you'll ever want to have sex with another man. Best news - now that there is VixSkin, O2 and the like you can feel pretty close to what it's like even if you are curious but not interested in having sex with another man.

If you're bi or gay then there is always the option of the "real thing", but you don't need to worry that you'll feel the need to go there if you don't want to.
10/18/2010
UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
LOL we have soooo many gay men on this site if anal play is the criteria for being gay.
Desiring the penis be attached to a man makes you gay or at least gay curious, playing with your ass makes you adventurous!
Yes adventurous and a very fun playmate I must admit one of my fantasies is to peg a man.
10/18/2010
PussyGalore PussyGalore
Absolutely not. You are just a guy who knows what he wants. There are many many layers to sexuality and it is quite fluid. Sometimes, I like to play with other women but I would never want to be in a relationship with one. My guy likes to entertain homoerotic fantasies, he definitely doesn't want a relationship with a guy. It's just knowing what you like.
10/22/2010
PussyGalore PussyGalore
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Originally posted by ScottA
If you're interested you can always get a real-feel dildo (such as VixSkin or Tantus O2) and have a woman peg you. Sex is much more fun if you're excited about it.
Absolutely!
10/22/2010
Sera Sera
I would have answered just like many of these fine contributors already have!
10/23/2010
CafeSabroso CafeSabroso
Anal play does not make gay. Why should gay males be the only one's to enjoy their asses? Also, it's worth noting that not all gay males enjoy anal play. I think that enjoying anal play is an indicator that one is self-exploring and open-minded, not that he is gay or gay-inclined.

I personally really like anal for the 1. pleasurable sensations 2. for the intensified ejaculations, and 3. for the power play opportunities where my partner gets to be the penetrator when she desires. I think it's of utmost importance to be comfortable expressing and doing what you like.
10/24/2010
Bitxhslapmakeup Bitxhslapmakeup
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Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
I think, the only thing that would make you gay is this:

1. Are you attracted to men?
2. You are not interested in women (if you are, and meet the other, you may be bi)

Really doesn't matter. If you like anal play, that does ... More
iThink It Does But iGuess It Depends On Wht Yhur In2
10/26/2010
Valerie Valerie
eso no tiene nada q ver con la sexualidad.. eso es un placer.. y hay q esplorar cosas diferentes.. pero no significa que eres Gay.. NO GAY
10/28/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Bitxhslapmakeup
iThink It Does But iGuess It Depends On Wht Yhur In2
At max it would be "curious" because he's expressed slight interest in having sex with someone having a natural penis (I don't think the "professionals" have an exception for transsexuals, so the fact that there is a natural penis makes it a same-sex encounter - correct me if I'm wrong, most of what I've seen has been many years old (20 years plus - not too useful, but cheap at the used book store!)).

Because the thoughts are fleeting and there is little sustained interest in a same-sex encounter that would tend to favor the "no, you're not gay or bi" point of view.

In neither case does the simple fact of enjoying anal play enter into it.
10/28/2010
odingirl odingirl
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Originally posted by Yoda
If you like anal play, but aren't attracted to men, then you're not gay. Your sexual orientation is about your sexual preferences and identity, not what gives you the strongest orgasm.
well said!
11/01/2010
SomewhatSomewhere SomewhatSomewhere
You are NOT gay! However, if you're wondering this far about it, and you're actually questioning your identity, you might be bi, if you're still attracted to women, that is. Besides, massaging the prostate is a good thing to do, either for pleasure or health.

Don't worry about it, just go with it. Be happy with yourself, an love the way you are!
11/01/2010
Twist Twist
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Originally posted by curious1
I'm a straight older guy who likes to masturbate with dildos and vibes. I began many years ago and have continued, even doing it once in a while while I had a partner because I enjoy the sensations. Stimulating the prostate seems to intensify my ... More
Not really...however if you have a open minded girlfriend buy her a strap on. Lot of guys actually enjoy being screwed and their girlfriends find it "empowering" because you trust them enough to share that tid bit.
11/15/2010
jb1walker jb1walker
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Originally posted by curious1
I'm a straight older guy who likes to masturbate with dildos and vibes. I began many years ago and have continued, even doing it once in a while while I had a partner because I enjoy the sensations. Stimulating the prostate seems to intensify my ... More
Anal is awesome, as far as the tranny I might stay away from that personally
11/23/2010
occius occius
No, I enjoy anal play and love women. What ever gets your rocks off man!
12/07/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
I'd say no, my hubby is the same way, enjoys the feeling, but isn't attracted to the opposite sex. I would say he could be bi?? But not to the point where he would want a relationship with a guy, just the sex part.
12/07/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
not at all. unless youre attracted to men.
12/08/2010
nyc cpl nyc cpl
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Originally posted by ScottA
If you're interested you can always get a real-feel dildo (such as VixSkin or Tantus O2) and have a woman peg you. Sex is much more fun if you're excited about it.
agree in full with you.
12/16/2010
Blakiepoo Blakiepoo
I'm surprised there are no gay men here who posted.

As a gay man myself, I can tell you that anal sex isn't gay.
There are gay men who don't like the thought or feel of anal sex. There are gay men who don't like the thought or feel of oral sex. Straight people in general don't have a clue about anything besides standard straight sex. And it's because of those pressures and assumptions that you and lots of other types become confused.

The thing that defines me as a gay man is the desire when I see an attractive man to get close to him, make eye contact or establish some sort of connection.

If I felt the most pleasure in my elbows, I'd use them for sex with a man, but incidentally I get pleasure in my crotch and butt just like most other men so that's what I use.

I suggest you try a good porno with chicks with dicks (particularly them penetrating men) and seeing if it gets a decent rise out of you. Compare to a movie with a woman with a strapon penetrating a man.
12/17/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Blakiepoo
I'm surprised there are no gay men here who posted.

As a gay man myself, I can tell you that anal sex isn't gay.
There are gay men who don't like the thought or feel of anal sex. There are gay men who don't like the ... More
I'd be very hesitant to use that definition, since it could also be construed as meaning any sort of friendship on anything but the most superficial level, and since so many people are homophobic anyway they don't need anything else that impedes their forming friendships.
12/17/2010
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