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Raym Raym
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Hey all, my girlfriend and I would like to start having more anal sex. She does enjoy it, but it takes quite a while to warm her up to it during sex. Are there any toys that can help?
11/02/2011
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Peggi Peggi
Starting off, I chose to use these beads and sometimes still do. They make stretching a lot easier as well as adjusting to the sensation. Also, someone recommended this great lube to me, which was a Godsend. Just be aware of the ingredients and interactions with toys for that lube. Hope that helps!
11/02/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by Peggi
Starting off, I chose to use these beads and sometimes still do. They make stretching a lot easier as well as adjusting to the sensation. Also, someone recommended this great lube to me, which was a Godsend. Just be aware of the ingredients and ...
Thanks! I appreciate it!
11/02/2011
LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
Try putting some lube on your finger and finger her asshole a bit first, my bf does this to me while fucking my pussy and It loosens my ass right up, not to mention drives me wild.
11/02/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by LilLostLenore
Try putting some lube on your finger and finger her asshole a bit first, my bf does this to me while fucking my pussy and It loosens my ass right up, not to mention drives me wild.
This is the method I have been using. But she remains exceptionally tight despite it for the most part. It drives her crazy as well. But it still takes quite too long for the both of us.
11/02/2011
RonLee RonLee
Take the time and enjoy the warm up. Life's too short to hurry up getting to the destination.
11/02/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by Peggi
Starting off, I chose to use these beads and sometimes still do. They make stretching a lot easier as well as adjusting to the sensation. Also, someone recommended this great lube to me, which was a Godsend. Just be aware of the ingredients and ...
Awww, the lube is out of stock at the moment. It does look pretty good though. I bought a silicone based lube to help, but didn't think of one that may desensitize as well.
11/02/2011
RonLee RonLee
BTW RayM
Thank You for your service.
11/02/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by RonLee
BTW RayM
Thank You for your service.
I appreciate that a lot Ron. And I agree with you about life as well. Unfortunately, it's not so much about speed as general comfort. She seems to remain quite tight and experience a higher level of discomfort on initial penetration then I would like no matter what I seem to do. As I am fairly new to anal sex I just don't really know all the tricks of the trade so to speak.
11/02/2011
RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Raym
I appreciate that a lot Ron. And I agree with you about life as well. Unfortunately, it's not so much about speed as general comfort. She seems to remain quite tight and experience a higher level of discomfort on initial penetration then I would ...
My GF has a regular ritual of "warming up" with a slim vibrator for about a half hour prior. Additionally, you might try rimming her, that's worked well for us.
11/03/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by RonLee
My GF has a regular ritual of "warming up" with a slim vibrator for about a half hour prior. Additionally, you might try rimming her, that's worked well for us.
I have thought about that, any ladies have opinions on that?
11/03/2011
Ryuson Ryuson
I've heard that wearing a butt plug is a good way to do it, but I have no personal experience!
11/03/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by Ryuson
I've heard that wearing a butt plug is a good way to do it, but I have no personal experience!
I am looking into those as well.
11/03/2011
PassionCpl PassionCpl
Honestly, we just start off the 'warming up' process with mouth, tongue, fingers and maybe lube. Just treat it like a slow & sensual part of foreplay
11/03/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by PassionCpl
Honestly, we just start off the 'warming up' process with mouth, tongue, fingers and maybe lube. Just treat it like a slow & sensual part of foreplay
Ok, she said she likes when I use my mouth and tongue on her. So I'm trying that a bit now.
11/03/2011
crgriffin crgriffin
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Originally posted by Raym
Hey all, my girlfriend and I would like to start having more anal sex. She does enjoy it, but it takes quite a while to warm her up to it during sex. Are there any toys that can help?
My wife was the same way. She ordered a butt plug and wears it before she wants to have anal sex and it has made a world of difference.
11/04/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by crgriffin
My wife was the same way. She ordered a butt plug and wears it before she wants to have anal sex and it has made a world of difference.
I ordered some previously suggested anal beads, I haven't had a chance to use them yet, but we are looking forward to being able to.
11/04/2011
indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by Raym
Awww, the lube is out of stock at the moment. It does look pretty good though. I bought a silicone based lube to help, but didn't think of one that may desensitize as well.
Just wanted to add that it is not recommended that you use a desensitizing lube for anal play. You need to really feel what is going on back there so you don't injure anything. Desensitizing lube can allow you to "force" things more than they should be, which could have really bad results. Pain, especially during anal play, is a sign that something is not right and you should stop immediately. You don't want to take that danger signal away.

As for making initial insertion more comfortable, I would suggest using a LOT more lube (if you think you have enough, go ahead and add some more). And not just on the penis or on her externally - lubing the inside with something like a lube shooter could be really helpful for that. I also agree with the suggestion of using a butt plug, or another toy before hand. This will allow her to stretch more than just using 1 finger would. Alternatively, you could try using 1 finger, then going up to 2 fingers, and so on, until she is comfortably stretched and ready.

Best wishes!
11/04/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by indiglo
Just wanted to add that it is not recommended that you use a desensitizing lube for anal play. You need to really feel what is going on back there so you don't injure anything. Desensitizing lube can allow you to "force" things more ...
I had never heard of a lub shooter before to be honest. I'll have to look into that.
11/04/2011
RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Raym
I had never heard of a lub shooter before to be honest. I'll have to look into that.
Sadly I don't think that EF sells any. However do a google search, you're a Marine, on average the most resourceful members of our armed forces. I'm Army and saying that, so you know it's true!
11/04/2011
Raym Raym
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Originally posted by RonLee
Sadly I don't think that EF sells any. However do a google search, you're a Marine, on average the most resourceful members of our armed forces. I'm Army and saying that, so you know it's true!
Haha, well I appreciate that! I shall have to look them up then.
11/05/2011
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