How to make anal better?

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How to make anal better?

daniel and frances daniel and frances
I KIND of enjoy anal, but it's always hit or miss. Sometimes it hurts more than others. Sometimes it's just too intense. Any ides to make it easier?
05/06/2011
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Skitlz Skitlz
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
I KIND of enjoy anal, but it's always hit or miss. Sometimes it hurts more than others. Sometimes it's just too intense. Any ides to make it easier?
Use lots of lube.
05/07/2011
toxie m toxie m
Go super slow. Like, teasing to the point where you're begging for it. Start with a lot of teasing around the area without any penetration, just fingers and tongue and maybe a vibrating toy, just massaging from the outside. At some point you (hopefully? probably?) will want your partner to just penetrate you already, dammit! But, they won't. They will make you wait MORE, until you think you might seriously die if you don't have it right now. Finally at that point you can start slow with some penetration, maybe using fingers or small toy to start with. And like Skitlz said, lots of lube.

If all the teasing really isn't doing it for you and you never really feel like you want to move onto penetration, don't force it. It may just be a "miss" night and that's cool. I usually love anal but there are definitely times when it just isn't going to happen and it's completely off the menu that night. Just listen to your body and try to just have fun without a goal - maybe one night all you plan to do is *just* the external teasing stuff, without going for any penetration.

Watch how your body reacts to certain kinds of stimulation. For me, it can get wayyy too intense if my man is just pounding away. We've figured out that I get way more pleasure from having him thrust very deep but very minimally, barely pulling out with each thrust. He doesn't get quite as much out of it, but it feels amazing for me so he doesn't mind at all. Try different kinds of movements and angles to see what feels best and most manageable for you - better yet, use a position that lets you be in control of those variable so you never get overwhelmed.
05/07/2011
Jobthingy Jobthingy
Quote:
Originally posted by daniel and frances
I KIND of enjoy anal, but it's always hit or miss. Sometimes it hurts more than others. Sometimes it's just too intense. Any ides to make it easier?
Glad to see you in the forums

There are a few things you need for good anal. Lot of lube, be relaxed, and warm up with fingers and toys.

take it slow. enjoy it. If something hurts, say so immediately.
05/07/2011
Miss Voluptuous Miss Voluptuous
I agree with the lube and warm-up. Sometimes people try and stick it in full-on in the heat of the moment. But if your ass isn't warmed up to take it, it's not going to feel all that sexy! Just be patient with yourself and communicate with your partner... If you both want it, it's worth working up to. I also find that playing with myself with a butt plug before intercourse helps heaps.
05/07/2011
slynch slynch
you can never use too much lube
05/07/2011
daniel and frances daniel and frances
Thanks guys! Such terrific advice! I think it will be easier to let things play out more organically when Daniel and I live in the same place. I appreciate the info!
05/07/2011
alliegator alliegator
Have you played with a vibrator? Teasing around the outside, or pressing a bullet against a butt plug can be a great fun.
05/07/2011
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