Naughty Boy Help Needed -- Promise Not to Laugh

TheSexista TheSexista
I need some help! Let me start by saying my hubby has never ever ever allowed anything near his rear until I bought him the naughty boy.

After reading many review of the p-spot toys I decided to get the Naughty Boy for my hubby in hopes I could get him to try it. He agreed. After several very unsuccessful attempts to get any feeling other than pain we have had no luck. I had him even try inserting it laying in different positions and it still was uncomfortable for him.

While he loves giving anal sex when I opened the Naughty Boy box the 1st thing he said was "and where is that thing going". I think maybe the size intimidated him and he could not relax enough.

He seems very interested in exploring this. So my question is, is the Naughty Boy to large for a 1st timer? Are there any tips from you pro's on p-spot pleasure for the 1st time?
03/30/2011
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Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
If he's experiencing pain you guys are taking things too fast. He needs a proper warm up which includes getting him aroused, relaxed, oral (totally optional haha, but my husband loves it), fingering, and a lot of lube before even touching the toy since he's a beginner. Work your way up to it; don't scare him off before he can even experience anal pleasure.
03/30/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Are you doing some warm up with fingers first and using plenty of good thick lube? The size 'should' be small enough so I think you may be all right there, although th bulge could be a bit much with out some warm up.

Where is he feeling the pain? Is it at the anus or is it poking him inside? If the anus, go slower and do some warm up with fingers or something smaller. There is a good curve on the Naughty Boy and that may be the case if it's pokey. If so, try something with less of a curve. Something like your Sphere may work good.

Lastly, he needs to be able to relax and clinch up. That may be one of the biggest keys to pain free butt play. Start with some other stimulation, like some oral, and ease into the butt play.

Hope that helps a bit.
03/30/2011
JustYourAverageGuy JustYourAverageGuy
The Naughty boy was my first toy and look at all the toys I have tried. it is a good beginner toy, not too big and frankly, it hits the sport well.

A few suggestions.....

1. He needs to mentally want to use it, if not he wont enjoy it regardless adn eh wont be relaxed.
2. He should be relaxed!!
3. warm him up, if he feel sits too big, use a finger first, then when hes relaxed use 2... but remember always use lube... preferably something thick
4. Don't go too fast, go at his pace, he should enjoy it if its on his terms and he says ok i want it now...
5. use lube, lots of it, always.. I suggest the "anal Lube" which can be found on here.. its water based and thick. A great lube!
6. listen to him. If he is giving pushback or isn't liking it, take it a step backwards until he is relaxed and enjoying it. Go slow and eventually he will be in total bliss.

he may not like the Naughty boy to go in all the way because it might put too much pressure, but if it isnt a problem get it in all the way because thats how it was designed. it wasnt made to be thrusted, but rather to kind of rock on it for a slow in and out feeling.

Enjoy!
03/30/2011
Antipova Antipova
If you say he's "never allowed anything near his rear," you've got a little bit of work to do before you bring in toys. Let him have a few orgasms with his anal tissues engaged so that he warms up to the idea mentally and physically. If he's very averse, start off by

~giving him a few blow jobs and pressing your finger to his anus- don't try to work it in, just let your finger apply pressure to the outside. After he's had a few orgasms this way,

~make sure your nails are well-trimmed, add some lube or saliva to your finger, and work your finger inside his anus. Make sure to keep him well-relaxed with blow jobs, and always listen to his feedback. If it hurts, stop moving and let him guide you out. If it doesn't hurt, see if you can find his prostate. Explore plenty, hopefully it's pleasurable for both of you.

~If he's open to it, warm up his anus with your tongue. In my experience, guys who are squeamish about receiving anal stimulation are more likely to let you use a finger than your tongue.

~After he really enjoys anal play in these forms, and he's had a good many orgasms to solidly establish in his brain that prostrates are fun, let him insert your Naughty Boy himself a few times. Once he feels comfortable,

~then it's your turn.



Always, always listen to his cues and don't let anything hurt him. Taking it too fast can result in a lot of pain.
03/30/2011
Aly890 Aly890
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
I need some help! Let me start by saying my hubby has never ever ever allowed anything near his rear until I bought him the naughty boy.



After reading many review of the p-spot toys I decided to get the Naughty Boy for my hubby in ... More
Aw I laughed at first, but reading the whole post.. I'm curious to hear how he became comfortable if at all..
04/02/2011
ScottA ScottA
#2 thing - prostate play (not just anal play) can be odd and unusual at first, so you'll have to get him "into" it as well. One big thing to keep in mind is that the prostate becomes more sensitive and is more likely to give "pleasure responses" to stimulation when the guy is sexually excited. It's also easier to find the prostate then. Once you've done the "anal intro" then work in the prostate play.

Fingers are a good start, as you can feel for the prostate and figure out where it is. Once you've done that you can work out how best you use your Naughty Boy.
04/02/2011
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by Lithaewyn
If he's experiencing pain you guys are taking things too fast. He needs a proper warm up which includes getting him aroused, relaxed, oral (totally optional haha, but my husband loves it), fingering, and a lot of lube before even touching the toy ... More
Thanks for the reply! I am not trying to scare him! I really think he would enjoy it if he could relax enough to allow his body to enjoy it.

When I purchased it he seemed excited to try it. Actually the day it got here he was opening the package.

I did not however offer any type of anal play before we attempted to use the Naughty Boy. He was aroused and seemed relaxed.
04/02/2011
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Are you doing some warm up with fingers first and using plenty of good thick lube? The size 'should' be small enough so I think you may be all right there, although th bulge could be a bit much with out some warm up.



Where is ... More
He was feeling the discomfort inside. Which is why I offered him to change positions, hoping that may help.

But, we did NOT use a lot of lube! I dunno how I even forgot that!

Since my post we did try using a small butt plug which he did enjoy! Actually said it felt pretty good. I did use a load of lube and he was relaxed well.

Maybe he needs some practice with the smaller toy beofre moving up to the Naughty boy!
04/02/2011
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by JustYourAverageGuy
The Naughty boy was my first toy and look at all the toys I have tried. it is a good beginner toy, not too big and frankly, it hits the sport well.



A few suggestions.....



1. He needs to mentally want to use it, if not he ... More
Thanks for the feedback hun. Since my post we have been trying out some smaller plugs and probes. I am hoping it will open him up to relax a bit more so he can see how pleasurable p-play can be. I am not a man so I do not know exactly, but from what all you awesome people here say I am excited for him to try!
04/02/2011
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by Aly890
Aw I laughed at first, but reading the whole post.. I'm curious to hear how he became comfortable if at all..
I had him read some reviews here on Eden on different toys. I do not think he even knew it was an option. He started allowing me to rub his ass or slide and finger in or so. Just stimulate the area some. So then he became interested.
04/02/2011
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
#2 thing - prostate play (not just anal play) can be odd and unusual at first, so you'll have to get him "into" it as well. One big thing to keep in mind is that the prostate becomes more sensitive and is more likely to give ... More
Thanks for the feedback! It is greatly appreciated!
04/02/2011
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