Which toy is better for a male first timer?

TheSexista TheSexista 12/04/2010

My husband has never been really keen on using male anal toys, But I would really like him to give it a try. He has agreed, do I would like to know what toy from this list do you like better and what's the reason.

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TheSexista TheSexista
For someone who has never had any type of prostate toy, which of these seem to be the best? It is hard to select a toy for a male when I am female and need some help!
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ToyBoy
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Kindred Kindred
What is his experience with anal play? Your list has quite a range in sizes and some may not be appropriate if he is a beginner.

How does he hope to use it? Solo or as a couple?

Is he looking for something that will stay in for a hands-free experience? Or is manipulating with his/your hands okay? Not all of these are likely to stay in on their own.
12/04/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I voted for the Nexus G-play as that was my first anal specific toy. But I will echo what Kindred has said.

If he/you has not play around back there it may be better to just start with fingers. He will need to learn to relax before those toys can be comfortably introduced. Otherwise it may be a bad experience for him.

Now if he has some experience already, you need to decide what type of butt play he/you are looking for. The Cheeky Boy, Rude Boy and G-play are on the smaller end so they may be a good starting point but the Cheeky and Rude boy are going to give firm pressure to the prostate. Furthermore they do not stay in very well. The Gyro and G-rider are quite big for a beginner, think three fingers, so based on experience that may not be a good start.

I see that you have the Sphere, have you thought about trying that one? It is Silicone so you can share and it is fairly small. Just a thought.
12/04/2010
maskineri maskineri
Lelo's Billy might seem a bit pricy option, but it should be one of the best for the beginners, I think. All the "boys" and "nexuses" have quite a specific shape which may be painful for the first-timers.
12/04/2010
ScottA ScottA
If he can take the size the Gyros are neat toys and they're flexible. You can wiggle on them, use them with your hands, or even thrust - but they're big enough to not be first-time toys. The Talon is small enough to work as a first time toy and it's pretty stimulating for its size, but you have to be careful to not get too extreme with it otherwise it can slide all the way in. A few quiet try-outs is best to get the feel for it.

Fingers are a great start, and a plug such as the Bootie can be used to give some prostate stimulation as well.
12/04/2010
Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
I was torn between the G-play medium and the Cheeky Boy. The Rude Boy would probably be okay as well, but the G-Rider and the Gyro Xtreme might be too large for a first timer. The Talon has the potential to slip inside, as ScottA mentioned, so that rules that one out in my book. The bead-like nature of the Cheeky Boy makes it intriguing, but I think the G-play medium would be more versatile.
12/04/2010
Porfiriato Porfiriato
I might also go with anal beads or a plug, unless you're really looking for prostate stimulation. There are some less expensive options in these areas, it kinda sucks buying an $80-90 toy that he might only use a few times.
12/04/2010
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by Kindred
What is his experience with anal play? Your list has quite a range in sizes and some may not be appropriate if he is a beginner.

How does he hope to use it? Solo or as a couple?

Is he looking for something that will stay in for a ... More
He has never experienced anal play at all. So I would say beginner! Couple plan would be great that is hands-free.
12/05/2010
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
I voted for the Nexus G-play as that was my first anal specific toy. But I will echo what Kindred has said.

If he/you has not play around back there it may be better to just start with fingers. He will need to learn to relax before those toys ... More
He is fine with finger play, we have just never used any anal toys. I bought him a set one time but it was broken when it got here and we never were able to use it.

After he read about the p-spot toys he seems interested and I want to surprise him!
12/05/2010
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by maskineri
Lelo's Billy might seem a bit pricy option, but it should be one of the best for the beginners, I think. All the "boys" and "nexuses" have quite a specific shape which may be painful for the first-timers.
Thanks for the feedback. I am not worried about price, if he will like it.
12/05/2010
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
If he can take the size the Gyros are neat toys and they're flexible. You can wiggle on them, use them with your hands, or even thrust - but they're big enough to not be first-time toys. The Talon is small enough to work as a first time toy ... More
Thanks. Is the Bootie a plug?
12/05/2010
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by Porfiriato
I might also go with anal beads or a plug, unless you're really looking for prostate stimulation. There are some less expensive options in these areas, it kinda sucks buying an $80-90 toy that he might only use a few times.
Do the beads and plus have the safe effect thought or feeling for a male?
12/05/2010
Maiden Maiden
My man is a total beginner too. We have the Euphoria Enhanced. It is rigid plastic, but it is designed for hands free prostate stimulation. He loves this toy, but sometimes it feels a little big for him, so we really have to work him up and use my finger first. The Aneros line has a few that are slighter smaller in diameter, but they are also more expensive. Hope that helps!
12/05/2010
ScottA ScottA
Yep, Bootie is a plug. Jimbo - the reason I didn't recommend the Cheeky Boy (I do like it) is because the curve makes it difficult to insert, and if a user isn't experienced/comfortabl e with anal toys they might find it difficult and/or uncomfortable.

Another thing to try is a G-spot vibe or wand (Tantus G-force is a wand example) I recommend silicone, but these can be very fun. Just make sure to keep your hand holding it if there isn't a flange (looking for one with a stop would be the best). Note the G-force is to long to easily get lost.
12/05/2010
Kindred Kindred
For a first timer, I would look for something made of silicone, my personal preference. I think a material with a little give would be better than a hard material such as glass. I would also look for a toy with just a slight curve for prostate stimulation, nothing that has too pronounced of a curve. Also, stay around 1" to 1-1/8" or so and not much larger. Based on those criteria, I would say for a hands-free type toy, consider the Bootie or the G-Play Medium which has a vibe. For a more wand-like toy that can be used solo or together, consider the Bob, G-force, or Billy.

Another option would be if you had a smaller curved dildo, ideally one with a flared base for safety. He could try that to start and see how he likes the experience.
12/05/2010
Balano Balano
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
For someone who has never had any type of prostate toy, which of these seem to be the best? It is hard to select a toy for a male when I am female and need some help!
you are a very open minded woman. How can i get my wife to think your way? Any advice?
12/28/2010
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
I can't believe no one has mentioned this, but the Silk Small by Tantus is an excellent choice. My first anal toy, and I'm still loving it 6 months later. It's small size and lack of texture makes it very unintimidating for a novice.
12/29/2010
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by hornypoet69
I can't believe no one has mentioned this, but the Silk Small by Tantus is an excellent choice. My first anal toy, and I'm still loving it 6 months later. It's small size and lack of texture makes it very unintimidating for a novice.
Sometimes you'd run up against the "oh no, that's a dildo - it's not going in my ass!" response that you might not get from a non-dildo toy.
01/11/2011
Fiendress Fiendress
Have you looked into Aneros? Those are great anal toys for men!
01/28/2011
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Fiendress
Have you looked into Aneros? Those are great anal toys for men!
They are, but they have a much bigger learning curve and the stimulation is more subtle.
01/28/2011
liilii080 liilii080
The G play medium is on my wish list and I've heard a lot of great things about it. What did you decide on?
02/05/2011
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
They are, but they have a much bigger learning curve and the stimulation is more subtle.
I think for a beginner the Aneros-like Nexus massagers might be better than an Aneros, just because they're easier to "drive" with the hands and the big round ball feels much better than the Aneros' disk.
02/05/2011
guy4guyz420 guy4guyz420
They all look fun!!!
02/23/2011
Kilgorescowboy Kilgorescowboy
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
For someone who has never had any type of prostate toy, which of these seem to be the best? It is hard to select a toy for a male when I am female and need some help!
dunno honestly
04/22/2011
Kilgorescowboy Kilgorescowboy
Quote:
Originally posted by guy4guyz420
They all look fun!!!
lol
04/22/2011
Kilgorescowboy Kilgorescowboy
Quote:
Originally posted by Kindred
For a first timer, I would look for something made of silicone, my personal preference. I think a material with a little give would be better than a hard material such as glass. I would also look for a toy with just a slight curve for prostate ... More
idk
04/22/2011
Kilgorescowboy Kilgorescowboy
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
He has never experienced anal play at all. So I would say beginner! Couple plan would be great that is hands-free.
hands free is good
04/22/2011
Kilgorescowboy Kilgorescowboy
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
They are, but they have a much bigger learning curve and the stimulation is more subtle.
does it iuhiuhg
04/22/2011
RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by Fiendress
Have you looked into Aneros? Those are great anal toys for men!
I've got one and the portion that is supposed to stimulate my perineum is QUITE UNCOMFORTABLE.
04/22/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
Good post, I had the same question.
04/25/2011
krisvida krisvida
G-play
04/27/2011
Fuck it. Fuck it.
All of those look a bit large or intense for a beginner toy.
04/27/2011
Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
Medium i find is a good starter, at least it was for me.
05/05/2011
exult8 exult8
Hello, I know this was posted a few months back but I highly recommend the Talon prostate massager. It is just right for a beginner and will stay in if you don't lube it too much. Upon insertion, it directs itself right to the P-spot and can induce some precum if allready arroused beforehand. I hope it's ok to us those words here. I do not want to affend anyone. I've had mine for over a year now. Very well made and the shape is internaly perfect. Now I wish they made it a little bigger. 1 1/4" diameter would be perfect. Hope this helps.
How lucky he is to have such a sharing wife.
05/07/2011
Judas Iscars Judas Iscars
Talon prostate massager.
05/07/2011
Kdlips Kdlips
my man ain't into to that and i don't want him to be
05/07/2011
yatinp30 yatinp30
why kdlips is that wrong to do so?
05/07/2011
ToyBoy ToyBoy
I would get the cheeky boy. I have had mine for a while, and it seems to be good for your purposes. He gets to have the experiences of a prostate massager, anal beads, and a vibrator. It is a slim diameter, and not too lengthy. I love mine and it seems right for a beginner.
05/12/2011
Anjulie Anjulie
Quote:
Originally posted by krisvida
G-play
agreed.
05/12/2011
melianofvalinor9 melianofvalinor9
For a first timer you definitely want something with a ring or flared out base so as not to be lost.
06/19/2011
thebest thebest
nexus
07/01/2011
T&A1987 T&A1987
try something that vibrates, but isn't too big. You want to do more than show what it's like to have something up the butt, you want to show how good it can feel.
09/12/2011
oldman oldman
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
For someone who has never had any type of prostate toy, which of these seem to be the best? It is hard to select a toy for a male when I am female and need some help!
I don't have an answer but I am interested in the results of your poll.
09/13/2011
oldman oldman
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
For someone who has never had any type of prostate toy, which of these seem to be the best? It is hard to select a toy for a male when I am female and need some help!
I don't have an answer but I am interested in the results of your poll.
09/13/2011
Rawhide Rawhide
The Talon looks good for building up a beginner
12/13/2011
acessorie acessorie
whatever you choose just go very slow and lots and lots of lube!
12/14/2011
<3BF <3BF
how the nexus G is formed is the most appealing.
04/15/2012
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
how the nexus G is formed is the most appealing.
The Play, Rider or both? They're great designs, but I find the non-waterproof vibrator of the Rider series difficult for clean-up.
04/15/2012
Lady Bear Lady Bear
G play medium
04/16/2012
Terri69 Terri69
I'd go with the Nexus G-Play medium
05/28/2012
ginainohio ginainohio
g play
09/24/2012
PepperPot PepperPot
It's cool that he's willing to give it a go.. have fun!
09/25/2012
travelnurse travelnurse
My husband did the anal beginners kit from eg first!!
09/25/2012
thesquaredeific thesquaredeific
Gyro extreme.
09/25/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Nexus G-play
10/01/2012
Boyfriend Boyfriend
nexus g
10/01/2012
Mikemanz Mikemanz
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
He has never experienced anal play at all. So I would say beginner! Couple plan would be great that is hands-free.
go small to start!
10/01/2012
Why Not? Why Not?
I think the Nexus G would be the best fit for someone exploring anal/prostrate play.
10/04/2012
RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
A nexus one
10/04/2012
AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
The Nexus G-Play medium I would say.
10/04/2012
mmmmm mmmmm
I would have to say G-Play medium
10/05/2012
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