Putting it in the Butt Dilemma...

Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but it's a small conversation between my boyfriend and I that we keep avoiding or giving odd excuses to avoid, including calling this debate something as silly as "can I put it in your butt"...

We talk about anal play, and I'm starting to warm up to the idea, but he's showed restraint. I was wondering what you guys/gentlemen/women who assist in prostate pleasure would say about what it feels like to give the prostate a little salute? What kind of pleasure is it, exactly?

What toys would you also say are the least threatening to put back there?
08/21/2012
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Sodom and Gomorrah Sodom and Gomorrah
I don't think you should put anything back there. but many would disagree.
08/21/2012
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Bethy Cassatt
I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but it's a small conversation between my boyfriend and I that we keep avoiding or giving odd excuses to avoid, including calling this debate something as silly as "can I put it in your ... More
Prostate play is a very enjoyable form of play. The anus has tons of nerve endings and the prostate itself enjoys stimulation as well. There is some debate but it is said the feelings are similar to G-spot stimulation, this makes sense though as guys can have P-spot orgasms from just stimulating the prostate. Also, like the G-spot, the prostate engorges with blood during sexual excitement.

Check out my Work Shop; Prostate 101, it should help get you started should you decide to take the plunge.
08/21/2012
AK Bunny AK Bunny
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Originally posted by Bethy Cassatt
I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but it's a small conversation between my boyfriend and I that we keep avoiding or giving odd excuses to avoid, including calling this debate something as silly as "can I put it in your ... More
Not everyone is comfortable with the idea, but if you can relax, it can be a lot of fun. I've only had one bf who wanted it, but he really enjoyed. As far as a non-threatening toy, maybe a small curved vibe, but make sure it's a safe material.
08/22/2012
DashO'Roark DashO'Roark
My first anal toy was the Naughty Boy by Tantus; and he was about as threatening as a basket full of kittens.


You might also like to look at the Lelo Billy – prostate massager or Lelo’s Bob

As far as the pleasure goes I would have to agree with the male G-spot analogy. All I can say is that I it...
08/22/2012
JohnnyB87 JohnnyB87
Prostate stimulation feels like G spot stimulation, but there are other nice sensations too, like sliding through the anus. I would definitely recommend something smooth, hard and slippery, which means glass. Perhaps something like the clear pawn clear-pawn. It might seem like something soft would be easier, but that softness actually causes more drag, because the anus digs into the surface and make it harder to slide in. Smooth hard glass is the best in my experience, and a long wand with a smooth surface for the first inch or two is the easiest to start with.
08/25/2012
ScottA ScottA
Prostate stimulation has different feelings for different people. Many do have a "WOW!" response, but there are things you can do to make it even better for them (and better for those without a "WOW" response).

First, keep in mind that anal/prostate stimulation can feel good, but it doesn't always - especially in the beginning. We don't always connect anal stimulation with sexual pleasure at first, and it's important to keep that in mind. Bringing anal/prostate play in alongside other sex play helps - either masturbating him or during oral sex (you can do it during other sex play, but it's more difficult). There's a benefit for you as well - the prostate firms up when he's excited, making it easier to find.

The first thing is for him to make sure he's comfortable with you playing inside his anus. If he's worried about mess he won't be able to relax and enjoy it. Have him go to the bathroom and wash up.

If you have short nails I recommend a lubed finger as a first toy. It's small, strong, can feel when it's going the right way, and is warm (warm toys do feel much better). Play around with him, then using a lubed finger massage around his anus (while still giving his penis attention). He'll probably tense up, wait for him to get used to the sensation and relax before diving in. Slowly insert your finger and feel for the prostate, a walnut sized lump about 2-3.5" inside near the front wall of the rectum (aim your finger towards his belly button). Gently rub it while still playing with his penis, and let his feedback guide you.
08/25/2012
robertk2380 robertk2380
There are certainly many slim dildos that won't be threatening, but I have to agree with ScottA who suggested using your finger to get started. My wife and I have used toys back there for years, but there's something really intimate about her using just her finger(s) to stimulate my prostate.

You asked how it feels. My wife asked me the same thing. It's a different kind of orgasm if you see it through to that conclusion. For me (and from what I've seen many men say in other posts), P spot orgasms are more intense. Absolutely mind blowing in terms of the sensation, particularly when combined with stimulation of the penis.

I think in the beginning just using your finger helps you learn too. Your finger gives you feedback that a toy can't. When your boyfriend is ready for something larger, he'll let you know. Good luck.
08/25/2012
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