Why choose a dildo over a vibrator?

I have the VixSkin Johnny and Tex and very highly recommend both of them! Those are great choices.

The first dildo that my husband ever bought me that I actually ENJOYED was the Vibratex Silky. I still have it and really enjoy it. It is bendable to the shape you like, and it is plushy soft and realistic feeling, which makes it a great toy for a first dildo so that you can experiment without suffering any type of bruising. It's also nice that you can choose your curved angle to hit the spots that you want to stimulate.

Having dildos in different types of materials is nice because each type feels different. I have dildos in all kinds of materials: lifelike (VixSkin, elastomer, Tantus O2), extra-firm (glass, stainless steel, anodized aluminum, wood, ceramic), firm (firmer silicone), and plush (elastomer and softer silicone). They each offer different types of sensations that you would just have to experience to fully understand. Also, dildos in all types of materials offer a variety of textures ranging from smooth to extra bumpy or intensely ridged.

What does a dildo made from a nonrealistic material such as wood, glass, stainless steel, ceramic, or extra-firm silicone have to offer that a real penis does not? Well, these types of materials can offer a firmer sensation while stroking or clenching around the dildo. Firm materials are perfect for helping you discover (and intensely stimulate) your G-spot and other pleasure spots. Also, glass, steel, and ceramic hold heat and cold well, so they are perfect for the joys of temperature play.

The softer material dildos are nice to have when my husband is not available, but I want something realistic (such as when I am on my period or he is working late or I'm up late studying and need some stress relief but don't want to wake him). Realistic dildos are also good for longer partner play sessions to give the guy a break if he needs it. Plus--and this is a BIG plus!--there are a variety of sizes to choose from. Each size offers a different sensation.

Usually when I choose a softer material dildo from my collection for a play session, it is when I want to straddle it and ride it. You can't really do this with a vibrator because vibrators are not forgiving (due to the inside mechanics) if you make a wrong move that briefly places you at a disagreeable angle. Softer materials are perfect for avoiding this disagreeable sensation while riding since they bend with you.

Another difference between some softer material dildos and a real penis is that many dildos have a unique shape or unique texture that provide stimulation in a way that a real penis cannot. Some have an intense curve or an exaggerated or flattened head that you don't find in real life. These differences offer unique sensations. (Differences in shape also goes for dildos of any material: for instance, my wooden Nob Essence dildos have the most incredible shapes for delivering the most amazing sensations!)

Despite everything that a more realistic, softer material dildo offers that a real penis does not, nothing beats the real deal! I still enjoy sex with my husband much more than I enjoy my toys (and I LOVE my toys!). The toys just offer unique sensations that are a joy to experience, and they have even helped increase my libido. On the other hand, the most realistic toy cannot replicate the experience of sex with your partner. Toys are like the wonderful "side dishes" that add to the full experience of an amazing meal--but a real-life partner is always the star and "main course"!

Regarding my opinion of vibrators versus dildos, as others have mentioned, internal vibrations are not important to me and can even be distracting. I either want a dildo that is filling so that I can clench around it or a toy that I can thrust to provide interesting sensations. Vibrators tend to not be as filling (though there are exceptions such as Fun Factory's Big Boss).

I also like G-spot toys in firm materials that relentlessly stimulate my G-spot. These toys almost always have unique shapes. Gently rocking them or clenching around them is enough to do the trick for me.

I do love vibrations on my clit, though, and ALWAYS use a separate clit vibe in conjunction with my dildos. A separate clit vibe ensures that I can place it in just the right spot and take it away the instant I become overstimulated while still leaving the dildo in place.

I have plenty of extremely nice vibrators, but I find that I enjoy using my dildos the most while applying an external vibrator to my clit. I haven't yet met a vibrator that could displace my preferred combo of dildo and clit vibe!

I suggest eventually trying dildos in a variety of materials. Don't spend a lot of money until you have a general idea what size you prefer and how much texture (if any) you prefer. Luckily, there are a large variety of inexpensive glass dildos to try, and you should be able to find an inexpensive silicone dildo that interests you. If you do like silicone dildos or a softer dildo such as the Vibratex Silky (which is not too expensive), then I would highly suggest you pick up the VixSkin dildos you mentioned above. They are pricey but very much worth the cost. The Tex is a good size (just slightly thicker in diameter than 1.5 inches), and the Johnny is considerably thicker for those days when I want something more filling.

Wow. Sorry this is so long! I didn't mean to write a text wall.

This. I answered before I read this!

I'm not really into the life-like dildos, not because I think they would be competition for my man, but because I lean toward the heavy, solid, unyielding dildos that hold cold temperatures, like glass or steel. I like having something to squeeze against while I use a clit vibe, and I like to actually FEEL the dildo itself, rather than the vibes of a vibrator, which DISTRACT from the texture, hardness and temperature of a good dildo.

I hate the stretching misconception. I'm still lightly worried about it and I'm so tempted to buy the Johnny Vixskin since it has such rave reviews.. and maybe even the o2 Revolution. The two most suggested/requested dildos.

"Our vagina's are made of memory foam," as P'Gell once said! They are meant to stretch and return to their original shape. I can attest to this. I gave birth to an 8lb 12oz baby (without tearing or needing to be cut), and my husband says that I feel exactly the same as I did before giving birth, if not a bit tighter. However, with proper warm up and being extremely turned on, on occasion I enjoy the largest of dildos and yes, fisting, too. And my vagina returns to normal within a few hours.

Thanks for all the information

Right. There is a hormone called "Relaxin" that relaxes all kinds of muscles in the pelvic area and even in the legs and other parts of the body (that may be one of the reasons pregnant women often feel their legs are "loose" in their sockets) Relaxin stays in the body, literally relaxing the muscles and connective tissue, so that the body doesn't become damaged during pregnancy and childbirth. But most of the effects of Relaxin don't last long after the early post partum period. Most women feel back to the way they were in 6 months or less. Those of us with small rib cages may find our rib cages permanently pried open. I have clothing I wore that I was never able to wear again after my first pregnancy. Most of this was rib cage and shoulders, not hips, as many people think. This was due to my rib cage opening and my shoulders getting wider, as I started out a very small woman, smaller than I even am now. Some women may have permanent effects, but that is on BONE and connective tissue connected to bone.

The vagina will not stretch out permanently from childbirth. And like Airen said, toys sure aren't going to do it.

Our vaginas were the first Memory Foam!

P Gell is right cold glass is something NO woman should miss!

I love both vibrators and dildos. for me it depends on the mood im in, If i want to get off real quick, just to release some pent up energy then i use a vibrator but if im in the mood to play I use a dildo..