Dildo for virgin

I have never had any kind of penetration, but I would like to give it a try. I have plenty of clitoral vibes so it's not like this would be my first toy. I also would really like to not go into whether or not I should try it as I have seen on other posts. I tried searching the forum, but lots of things aren't current and lead to discontinued items.

The only things I know I want are silicone and not a huge diameter. But even with that there are so many shapes and textures and lengths when searching, it is a little overwhelming since I don't know what I like. My favorite vibe would probably be the Lelo Siri, so I have been looking at more Lelo products. I am currently thinking of the Ella since it doesn't look too big (but what do I know on that) and has 2 different shaped ends. Beyond that I don't know. Would there be something better suited for me? less

I have never had any kind of penetration, but I would like to give it a try. I have plenty of clitoral vibes so it's not like this would be my first toy. I also would really like to not go into whether or not I should try it as I have seen on other posts. I tried searching the forum, but lots of things aren't current and lead to discontinued items.

The only things I know I want are silicone and not a huge diameter. But even with that there are so many shapes and textures and lengths when searching, it is a little overwhelming since I don't know what I like. My favorite vibe would probably be the Lelo Siri, so I have been looking at more Lelo products. I am currently thinking of the Ella since it doesn't look too big (but what do I know on that) and has 2 different shaped ends. Beyond that I don't know. Would there be something better suited for me? less

Velvet touch, definitely! I I was a virgin when I started using dildos, and my third toy ever was the Velvet touch. I would 100% agree with Stormy about getting a traditional vibrator as a first penetrative toy. Vibes can always be used as dildos if you decide that internal vibrations aren't your thing. The velvet touch and vibes like it are thin enough so insertion shouldn't be an issue, and long enough to wield comfortably. The length is great because it is good for g spot exploration. It will depend on your anatomy, but for me, a long, hard thin dildo/vibe is enough to stimulate my g spot, and the velvet touch definitely helped me find it!

I would also suggest buying a few cheap vibes in different shapes and materials before investing in a Lelo. I bought the Gigi early in my experimentation, before I had tried a bunch of different toys, but since I like hard toys (which I didn't really know for sure until much later) it worked. But if you're not a fan of plastic toys, it would be better figuring that out with a cheap toy rather than a $100+ toy. My first toy was a short traditional plastic vibrator, and my second was a soft jelly vibe. The shorter traditional vibe was nice. I liked the way it felt internally, which is why I bought the velvet touch. But the short length (about 3-4 inches) made it hard to maneuver. The jelly smelled absolutely awful, but it helped me figure out that I didn't enjoy softer toys. (That preference later changed, but at the time, I preferred harder materials.) As much as I hate jelly toys, I would recommend a cheap jelly vibe, or a moderately priced soft, silicone vibe to see if you prefer harder or softer toys.

tl;dr: I'd suggest two, cheap traditional vibes: one hard (Velvet Touch is awesome!) and one soft. Then, I'd try a cheaper g-spot vibe (or dildo). That way, you can get a sense of whether you like vibrations, soft/hard, and/or g spot stimulation before you invest in say a Lelo or Funfactory. less

I think everyone should start out with a traditional vibrator as their first try with penetrative toys. It's just my personal opinion, of course. I feel like had I not gone through about 100 of those toys in the beginning I wouldn't be able to appreciate the higher-end toys that I have now. I personally am not a fan of most of the rabbit style vibes as they tend to assault rather than please the clitoris (it grabs, tears, pulls, et al).

It can be difficult to recommend a toy for someone who doesn't know exactly what they're looking for because personal likes and dislikes haven't been discovered yet. It's a learning curve, but once you have a couple of toys under your belt it gets easier. Most of the traditional vibes are really affordable, so you can get two or three with different tips on them to try out. less

I like the thought of trying the different materials. For the hard, traditional vibe it seems the velvet touch has many admirers. And the price is good too. Is there such a thing as a soft vibe? While the Gigi has silicone, you said it was hard. Does silicone transfer vibrations well? I am a little reluctant to try a jelly toy from what I have read and how it isn't very body safe and can smell horrible.

Since I am not too experienced with toys, some materials kinda freak me out at the moment. Like jelly or glass or wood. While some may be safe, there is a mental block that makes me want to try others first. I am currently thinking of a silicone one less than 1 inch in diameter, small silk and sedeux please both fit this and are around $25.

Thanks all for the input, I realize it's very hard to help in this situation less

I like the thought of trying the different materials. For the hard, traditional vibe it seems the velvet touch has many admirers. And the price is good too. Is there such a thing as a soft vibe? While the Gigi has silicone, you said it was hard. Does silicone transfer vibrations well? I am a little reluctant to try a jelly toy from what I have read and how it isn't very body safe and can smell horrible.

Since I am not too experienced with toys, some materials kinda freak me out at the moment. Like jelly or glass or wood. While some may be safe, there is a mental block that makes me want to try others first. I am currently thinking of a silicone one less than 1 inch in diameter, small silk and sedeux please both fit this and are around $25.

Thanks all for the input, I realize it's very hard to help in this situation less

I like the thought of trying the different materials. For the hard, traditional vibe it seems the velvet touch has many admirers. And the price is good too. Is there such a thing as a soft vibe? While the Gigi has silicone, you said it was hard. Does silicone transfer vibrations well? I am a little reluctant to try a jelly toy from what I have read and how it isn't very body safe and can smell horrible.

Since I am not too experienced with toys, some materials kinda freak me out at the moment. Like jelly or glass or wood. While some may be safe, there is a mental block that makes me want to try others first. I am currently thinking of a silicone one less than 1 inch in diameter, small silk and sedeux please both fit this and are around $25.

Thanks all for the input, I realize it's very hard to help in this situation less

You beat me to my suggesstion! I have the Tantus Silks in medium and large (I bought the intermediate bend over kit on sale and got the two dildos I wanted, plus a harness and bullet vibe for less than the cost of the two dildos alone!! You can always sell the harness, right?) Anyway, if I was just starting, I would have gone for the small silk, but be warned, it's really small, like a finger, okay? The medium is more what I would consider similar to a traditional vibe size and definitely stay away from the large until you are more sure, but it's very nice.

I really like the smooth, non-representational design of the Silk dildos and wish VixSkin made more like that for their line (they only have the Raquel, but it has a slightly bulbous tip). I think for a first time toy, you can't beat this style because you aren't confusing the issue with texture and shapes you might not like. You can also insert the dildo and leave it there, you don't have to thrust (which I found as a surprise myself), then if you want, hold a vibrator to the bottom and the vibes transmit throughout the dildo!

I would also suggest you consider getting some lube because silicone can get a little "grippy" and your own lubrication may not be enough to make it fully comfortable. If you like, just get a sample size or two of Sliquid for $1.99. Start with one of the safest lubes you can get, which is why I recommended that one. I have also used organic coconut oil on these Silks without problem (coconut oil is a great lube - you can read other posts on it, or PM me for info if you're curious or concerned)

EDIT: Hey, Ducky12! I wanted to send you a private message but couldn't because you didn't submit a profile. Did you know you don't have to fill in any revealing info if you don't want, but still have the profile? It will give you a wall where people can leave you messages and you will be able to get private messages from nice folks like moi! Think about it; I still want to send you that PM! less

I finished setting up the profile! I just had to hit 1 button so you can PM me if you want. Thanks for all the good info! The more I think about it, the more I think really small is probably better for me to start with considering my lack of history with insertion.

Lube was going to be my next question, but this didn't seem like the right board for it. And again I came across materials used that aren't 100% body safe. Which makes no sense to me, what is the point of make products for people that are harmful? That was actually one of the reasons I was drawn to Ella, not only does it have good reviews but there is a deal right now that it comes with lelo lube and toy cleaner. Convenient? yes. Best option? not necessarily. less