Dildo for virgin

Ducky12 Ducky12
I have never had any kind of penetration, but I would like to give it a try. I have plenty of clitoral vibes so it's not like this would be my first toy. I also would really like to not go into whether or not I should try it as I have seen on other posts. I tried searching the forum, but lots of things aren't current and lead to discontinued items.

The only things I know I want are silicone and not a huge diameter. But even with that there are so many shapes and textures and lengths when searching, it is a little overwhelming since I don't know what I like. My favorite vibe would probably be the Lelo Siri, so I have been looking at more Lelo products. I am currently thinking of the Ella since it doesn't look too big (but what do I know on that) and has 2 different shaped ends. Beyond that I don't know. Would there be something better suited for me?
08/18/2013
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Ansley Ansley
I think everyone should start out with a traditional vibrator as their first try with penetrative toys. It's just my personal opinion, of course. I feel like had I not gone through about 100 of those toys in the beginning I wouldn't be able to appreciate the higher-end toys that I have now. I personally am not a fan of most of the rabbit style vibes as they tend to assault rather than please the clitoris (it grabs, tears, pulls, et al).

It can be difficult to recommend a toy for someone who doesn't know exactly what they're looking for because personal likes and dislikes haven't been discovered yet. It's a learning curve, but once you have a couple of toys under your belt it gets easier. Most of the traditional vibes are really affordable, so you can get two or three with different tips on them to try out.
08/19/2013
ILoveToWatchMyWife ILoveToWatchMyWife
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Originally posted by Ducky12
I have never had any kind of penetration, but I would like to give it a try. I have plenty of clitoral vibes so it's not like this would be my first toy. I also would really like to not go into whether or not I should try it as I have seen on ... More
Lelo Gigi...
08/19/2013
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Ducky12
I have never had any kind of penetration, but I would like to give it a try. I have plenty of clitoral vibes so it's not like this would be my first toy. I also would really like to not go into whether or not I should try it as I have seen on ... More
Here's some advice... Get some cheap toys and figure out what your body likes. In other words find toys that stimulate you where you want to be stimulated and do your homework. Once you find out what you like you go for the better materials and shapes that you believe will be fun to play with. Nothing is worse than getting an expensive toy that you hate playing with.
My wife loves the lelo toys for material, the rabbit toys for function and RO (OR rocks off) vibes for the vibe function. Have fun! (She likes them after trying a whole lot of cheaper toys that ended up getting disposed of or broken AND some expensive toys that just did nothing for her.)
08/19/2013
Sincerely Yours, N Sincerely Yours, N
My first penetration toy is the Lelo Ella. I'm actually very happy about that! I haven't really gotten around to fully exploring her yet since I got her last week and have been way too busy, but she's smaller than she looks and is really pleasant to the touch. I was considering getting a cheaper toy, but then realized that a cheap toy might not work for me, and then I'll have a bad opinion of traditional dildos. The girth really isn't that bad, and I really really love touching my Ella.

I picked the Ella over the Gigi because of the double ends. You basically get two toys in one, so if one end doesn't work for you the other might! Plus, I'm not sure how I feel about internal vibrations and Ella does carry vibrations well, so you can always use one of your clitoral vibes for her.

I'm super happy with this purchase, and will review her as soon as I get to play with her more! But she really is great for a beginner, and high quality.
08/19/2013
cagypsy cagypsy
I don't have any higher end toys so I can't comment on them however I do have Icicles number 4 and I would recommend it. Its slim and has a swirl so you get a little texture but nothing overwhelming. Also it has good length to it. Plus it has a little bullet you can put in the bottom IF and only IF you want to because it is not needed. I like this one because it is glass so it is super easy to clean and keep clean. This one is $32 and worth every penny.

I also have and would recommend the velvet touch vibrator. I recommend this one because the control is easy to turn on the bottom of the toy and it is also slim and of a good length. This one is only $12 or $13 but I like it and would pay more for it if they raised the price of it.
08/19/2013
Sincerely Yours, N Sincerely Yours, N
I've heard good things about the velvet touch vibrator as well, and am waiting for mine to come in. I was more excited about the Ella, but plan to use the Velvet Touch to see if I like internal vibrations!
08/19/2013
Dulcinea Dulcinea
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Originally posted by Sincerely Yours, N
I've heard good things about the velvet touch vibrator as well, and am waiting for mine to come in. I was more excited about the Ella, but plan to use the Velvet Touch to see if I like internal vibrations!
Velvet touch, definitely! I I was a virgin when I started using dildos, and my third toy ever was the Velvet touch. I would 100% agree with Stormy about getting a traditional vibrator as a first penetrative toy. Vibes can always be used as dildos if you decide that internal vibrations aren't your thing. The velvet touch and vibes like it are thin enough so insertion shouldn't be an issue, and long enough to wield comfortably. The length is great because it is good for g spot exploration. It will depend on your anatomy, but for me, a long, hard thin dildo/vibe is enough to stimulate my g spot, and the velvet touch definitely helped me find it!

I would also suggest buying a few cheap vibes in different shapes and materials before investing in a Lelo. I bought the Gigi early in my experimentation, before I had tried a bunch of different toys, but since I like hard toys (which I didn't really know for sure until much later) it worked. But if you're not a fan of plastic toys, it would be better figuring that out with a cheap toy rather than a $100+ toy. My first toy was a short traditional plastic vibrator, and my second was a soft jelly vibe. The shorter traditional vibe was nice. I liked the way it felt internally, which is why I bought the velvet touch. But the short length (about 3-4 inches) made it hard to maneuver. The jelly smelled absolutely awful, but it helped me figure out that I didn't enjoy softer toys. (That preference later changed, but at the time, I preferred harder materials.) As much as I hate jelly toys, I would recommend a cheap jelly vibe, or a moderately priced soft, silicone vibe to see if you prefer harder or softer toys.

tl;dr: I'd suggest two, cheap traditional vibes: one hard (Velvet Touch is awesome!) and one soft. Then, I'd try a cheaper g-spot vibe (or dildo). That way, you can get a sense of whether you like vibrations, soft/hard, and/or g spot stimulation before you invest in say a Lelo or Funfactory.
08/19/2013
Ducky12 Ducky12
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Originally posted by Dulcinea
Velvet touch, definitely! I I was a virgin when I started using dildos, and my third toy ever was the Velvet touch. I would 100% agree with Stormy about getting a traditional vibrator as a first penetrative toy. Vibes can always be used as dildos if ... More
I like the thought of trying the different materials. For the hard, traditional vibe it seems the velvet touch has many admirers. And the price is good too. Is there such a thing as a soft vibe? While the Gigi has silicone, you said it was hard. Does silicone transfer vibrations well? I am a little reluctant to try a jelly toy from what I have read and how it isn't very body safe and can smell horrible.

Since I am not too experienced with toys, some materials kinda freak me out at the moment. Like jelly or glass or wood. While some may be safe, there is a mental block that makes me want to try others first. I am currently thinking of a silicone one less than 1 inch in diameter, small silk and sedeux please both fit this and are around $25.

Thanks all for the input, I realize it's very hard to help in this situation
08/20/2013
lana'sart lana'sart
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Originally posted by Ansley
I think everyone should start out with a traditional vibrator as their first try with penetrative toys. It's just my personal opinion, of course. I feel like had I not gone through about 100 of those toys in the beginning I wouldn't be able ... More
I agree
08/20/2013
lana'sart lana'sart
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Originally posted by Ducky12
I like the thought of trying the different materials. For the hard, traditional vibe it seems the velvet touch has many admirers. And the price is good too. Is there such a thing as a soft vibe? While the Gigi has silicone, you said it was hard. Does ... More
that is good that u may of found what you are looking for.
08/20/2013
Sincerely Yours, N Sincerely Yours, N
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Originally posted by Ducky12
I like the thought of trying the different materials. For the hard, traditional vibe it seems the velvet touch has many admirers. And the price is good too. Is there such a thing as a soft vibe? While the Gigi has silicone, you said it was hard. Does ... More
My Velvet Touch came in, and I can't say that I enjoyed the first time around with it. I ended up just giving up and switching to my Lelo Nea. But, again, everybody is different, and I can't say I was in a very "on" mood when I tried it. It wasn't horrible, just not amazing enough that I finished. I am planning to give it another chance in the near future, though, but felt I should let you know since this specific vibrator was brought up.

The Gigi is in fact hard, since it's silicone over plastic. Wood and glass are generally safe materials, but you should steer clear from jelly. A lot of silicone is kind of soft; I'd recommend looking through the "most helpful" reviews for any given toy you're looking at to see if it has any give. The Ella is almost the same shape as Gigi but has a bit more give to her; she's not soft, but she's softer than other Lelos.

Of the two you mentioned, I would pick the small silk because of the brand. Tantus is a great brand, and I've heard wonderful things about the the quality of their silicone toys. I believe that they're quite soft. I don't have either, though, so I'm not the best person to ask (but I do plan on getting a Tantus when I have spare money to spend on toys again).
08/21/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Ducky12
I like the thought of trying the different materials. For the hard, traditional vibe it seems the velvet touch has many admirers. And the price is good too. Is there such a thing as a soft vibe? While the Gigi has silicone, you said it was hard. Does ... More
You beat me to my suggesstion! I have the Tantus Silks in medium and large (I bought the intermediate bend over kit on sale and got the two dildos I wanted, plus a harness and bullet vibe for less than the cost of the two dildos alone!! You can always sell the harness, right?) Anyway, if I was just starting, I would have gone for the small silk, but be warned, it's really small, like a finger, okay? The medium is more what I would consider similar to a traditional vibe size and definitely stay away from the large until you are more sure, but it's very nice.

I really like the smooth, non-representational design of the Silk dildos and wish VixSkin made more like that for their line (they only have the Raquel, but it has a slightly bulbous tip). I think for a first time toy, you can't beat this style because you aren't confusing the issue with texture and shapes you might not like. You can also insert the dildo and leave it there, you don't have to thrust (which I found as a surprise myself), then if you want, hold a vibrator to the bottom and the vibes transmit throughout the dildo!

I would also suggest you consider getting some lube because silicone can get a little "grippy" and your own lubrication may not be enough to make it fully comfortable. If you like, just get a sample size or two of Sliquid for $1.99. Start with one of the safest lubes you can get, which is why I recommended that one. I have also used organic coconut oil on these Silks without problem (coconut oil is a great lube - you can read other posts on it, or PM me for info if you're curious or concerned)

EDIT: Hey, Ducky12! I wanted to send you a private message but couldn't because you didn't submit a profile. Did you know you don't have to fill in any revealing info if you don't want, but still have the profile? It will give you a wall where people can leave you messages and you will be able to get private messages from nice folks like moi! Think about it; I still want to send you that PM!
08/21/2013
Ducky12 Ducky12
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
You beat me to my suggesstion! I have the Tantus Silks in medium and large (I bought the intermediate bend over kit on sale and got the two dildos I wanted, plus a harness and bullet vibe for less than the cost of the two dildos alone!! You can ... More
I finished setting up the profile! I just had to hit 1 button so you can PM me if you want. Thanks for all the good info! The more I think about it, the more I think really small is probably better for me to start with considering my lack of history with insertion.

Lube was going to be my next question, but this didn't seem like the right board for it. And again I came across materials used that aren't 100% body safe. Which makes no sense to me, what is the point of make products for people that are harmful? That was actually one of the reasons I was drawn to Ella, not only does it have good reviews but there is a deal right now that it comes with lelo lube and toy cleaner. Convenient? yes. Best option? not necessarily.
08/21/2013
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Ducky12
I finished setting up the profile! I just had to hit 1 button so you can PM me if you want. Thanks for all the good info! The more I think about it, the more I think really small is probably better for me to start with considering my lack of history ... More
I swear by Sliquid. I'm extremely picky about lube and it's the only brand I'll use. All of their formulas are fantastic!
08/23/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Ansley
I swear by Sliquid. I'm extremely picky about lube and it's the only brand I'll use. All of their formulas are fantastic!
I'd be using only their formulas if I hadn't discovered I was reacting to guar gum which is in many of the Sliquid formulas. (It's a natural thickener, like carrageenan, nothing unsafe about it used topically, I just get a rash because I'm a freak!) I always recommend Sliquid and they have so many different formulas, you are likely to find one you like!
08/23/2013
Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
I would suggest using a soft material for your first toy such as silicone instead of plastic.
08/23/2013
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