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I'm sorry, I'm just a tad shy about these things and feel a little ashamed I guess you could call it. I was raised incredibly sheltered and talking about sex was unheard of in my family. I don't recall ever getting the typical birds and
I'm sorry, I'm just a tad shy about these things and feel a little ashamed I guess you could call it. I was raised incredibly sheltered and talking about sex was unheard of in my family. I don't recall ever getting the typical birds and bees talk much less anything beyond that. I never dreamed I'd even own any toys much less talk about it.
Anyhow, I didn't use any lube. I wasn't sure if I'd need it since I get wet enough without it. The burning lasts for at least an hour after use and I had to tell my husband to remove it after only a minute the 2nd time we used it.
I guess I could try lube or a condom first before looking into buying one with a different material.
Heck there's no need to feel ashamed, we're here to help! You could try both actually, a good water based lube and a non-latex condom should help the burning. You could try a technique my dermatologist showed me. Try holding the toy in the crook of your elbow for up to a minute or two. If it burns without rubbing back and forth you can assume you have a sensitivity to the materials. The skin in that area is very close to the sensitivity of the skin in your genital area. If it doesn't burn then try the water based lube and condom route.
For the best hypoallergenic route hard plastic or silicone (medical grade) is the absolute best along with glass, wood or metal. Still if you have very sensitive lady parts you'll want to try them with an appropriate lube (can't use silicone lube with silicone toys...they melt).
On a serious note don't feel bad for asking for help here, it's how you learn and it'll help you become more at ease discussing sex and sexual matters with others. This is so helpful especially if you are looking to change your family's approach to sexuality with your own kids. Either way being able to comfortably discuss what you like and dislike will help you in your own sex life and your relationship with your partner.