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DeeDee912 DeeDee912
I've been searching this site for hours now and can't seem to find an answer. I recently purchased a ribbed siligel, but when my husband uses it on me, it burns. It was cleaned properly before and after the first use. Could I just be allergic to it? I had never used any kind of toy before and don't really know what to expect. Should I just try one with a different material?
03/10/2010
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Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
I've had issues with sil-a-gel too. It seems to be a material people are commonly sensitive too. I'd say, yes, try a new material. Unfortunately we never know what we're going to be sensitive to until it happens.
03/10/2010
Miss Jane Miss Jane
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Originally posted by DeeDee912
I've been searching this site for hours now and can't seem to find an answer. I recently purchased a ribbed siligel, but when my husband uses it on me, it burns. It was cleaned properly before and after the first use. Could I just be allergic ...
Did you use any kind of lube? It could be the type of lube you are using (I'm allergic/sensitive to some kinds of lube and it gives a burning sensation).

Or if you're not using any/much/enough lube or wet enough, it could just be that you're a little raw from the friction. That happens to me every once in a while I'll appear ready but not be quite wet enough and it burns a bit.

You can always just put a condom over the dildo.
03/10/2010
DeeDee912 DeeDee912
Thank you. Can you recommend a better material?
03/10/2010
Sir Sir
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Originally posted by DeeDee912
Thank you. Can you recommend a better material?
Silicone is hypoallergenic (I do hope that I'm spelling that correctly) and may be good for you. You can also sometimes cover the toy with a condom to keep from the irritation. I, for one, do not like Sil-a-Gel, so I understand completely.
03/10/2010
DeeDee912 DeeDee912
I'm sorry, I'm just a tad shy about these things and feel a little ashamed I guess you could call it. I was raised incredibly sheltered and talking about sex was unheard of in my family. I don't recall ever getting the typical birds and bees talk much less anything beyond that. I never dreamed I'd even own any toys much less talk about it.

Anyhow, I didn't use any lube. I wasn't sure if I'd need it since I get wet enough without it. The burning lasts for at least an hour after use and I had to tell my husband to remove it after only a minute the 2nd time we used it.

I guess I could try lube or a condom first before looking into buying one with a different material.
03/10/2010
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by DeeDee912
I'm sorry, I'm just a tad shy about these things and feel a little ashamed I guess you could call it. I was raised incredibly sheltered and talking about sex was unheard of in my family. I don't recall ever getting the typical birds and ...
A condom is a great option. A better material would be silicone, even TPR is usually okay for most folks.
03/10/2010
Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by DeeDee912
I'm sorry, I'm just a tad shy about these things and feel a little ashamed I guess you could call it. I was raised incredibly sheltered and talking about sex was unheard of in my family. I don't recall ever getting the typical birds and ...
Don't be embarrassed at all! We're glad you asked! I am sensitive to Sil-a-gel as well as other materials, so I know how it feels. I also suggest that you try actual silicone, and use a lube to cut back on the friction and drag that toys sometimes create.
03/10/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by DeeDee912
I'm sorry, I'm just a tad shy about these things and feel a little ashamed I guess you could call it. I was raised incredibly sheltered and talking about sex was unheard of in my family. I don't recall ever getting the typical birds and ...
Heck there's no need to feel ashamed, we're here to help! You could try both actually, a good water based lube and a non-latex condom should help the burning. You could try a technique my dermatologist showed me. Try holding the toy in the crook of your elbow for up to a minute or two. If it burns without rubbing back and forth you can assume you have a sensitivity to the materials. The skin in that area is very close to the sensitivity of the skin in your genital area. If it doesn't burn then try the water based lube and condom route.

For the best hypoallergenic route hard plastic or silicone (medical grade) is the absolute best along with glass, wood or metal. Still if you have very sensitive lady parts you'll want to try them with an appropriate lube (can't use silicone lube with silicone toys...they melt).

On a serious note don't feel bad for asking for help here, it's how you learn and it'll help you become more at ease discussing sex and sexual matters with others. This is so helpful especially if you are looking to change your family's approach to sexuality with your own kids. Either way being able to comfortably discuss what you like and dislike will help you in your own sex life and your relationship with your partner.

Good luck!
03/10/2010
DeeDee912 DeeDee912
It just feels weird talking about it. I've always had just a normal boring sex life. I forget the name of the company, but a friend of mine used to sell the same items sold here and I just felt really uncomfortable when she brought over her samples. I have no problem with sex in general, but it's always been a taboo subject. If I'm ever lucky enough to have kids, I don't want them to feel the way I do about it.

My husband was also searching the site and found Embrace lubricant. Would that be good to use?

I'll have to try the elbow thing. The burning sensation is just so painful and I don't think we did enough research before he went and bought one for us. We've been together almost 10yrs now and I think he just wanted to spice things up. I'm open to all other suggestions on how to do that as well.
03/10/2010
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by DeeDee912
It just feels weird talking about it. I've always had just a normal boring sex life. I forget the name of the company, but a friend of mine used to sell the same items sold here and I just felt really uncomfortable when she brought over her ...
If you're looking for a water-based lube, I recommend Maximus. It's glycerin-free, paraben-free, and absolutely awesome. My rule: If it burns, stop using it, at least until the cause is found. If you want a safer squishy toy, then silicone and TPR are good materials to try. If you're interested in trying more rigid toys, then check out plastic (cheaper), or glass and metal (more pricey).
03/10/2010
Miss Jane Miss Jane
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Originally posted by DeeDee912
I'm sorry, I'm just a tad shy about these things and feel a little ashamed I guess you could call it. I was raised incredibly sheltered and talking about sex was unheard of in my family. I don't recall ever getting the typical birds and ...
Don't feel ashamed - that's what we're here for If you get wet enough, you don't need it; just apply at the first hint if you start getting dry.
03/10/2010
DeeDee912 DeeDee912
Airen, I tried what you suggested and it did indeed burn. We'll just have to find a better one to use. Thanks everyone!
03/11/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by DeeDee912
Airen, I tried what you suggested and it did indeed burn. We'll just have to find a better one to use. Thanks everyone!
There ya have it...now you have something to add to discussions about sil-a-gel products! Sounds like a real allergy problem. Only choice is buy a new product that has a higher safety rating (I find that works for me and I wouldn't recommend going lower on the safety scale), or use a very heavy condom. Wash the toy before and after use if you plan to keep it but I'd really recommend buying a better rated toy such as TPR, silicone, hard plastic, glass, metal or wood and this is the perfect site to do just that...we rate pretty near everything so looking with your husband could actually help your feelings of awkwardness.
Good luck and glad you found the answer!
03/12/2010
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