How do you feel when the other person doesn't orgasm?

eri86 eri86
... the other person doesn't orgasm?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I'm a guy
16
I feel bad if I don't bring my partner to orgasm
32
I only feel bad if they feel bad
14
I'm girl
41
I feel disappointed when my parent doesn't bring me to orgasm
11
I don't have to orgasm.
11
Other (share)
14
Total votes: 139 (68 voters)
Poll is closed
05/04/2013
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Mr. E Mr. E
It looks like an apparent typo on one of the choices.
I think and certainly hope you meant partner instead of parent.
05/04/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Mr. E
It looks like an apparent typo on one of the choices.
I think and certainly hope you meant partner instead of parent.
Seriously! Spell checker is not enough - you have to proof read your correspondence - especially when you are posting a question or poll.
05/04/2013
eri86 eri86
I did mean partner...
05/04/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by eri86
... the other person doesn't orgasm?
I am a female & there's only been one time that I didn't orgasm. My partner always puts in all the effort to make sure it happens, even if it's taking a while longer than expected & I tell him that there's no need in him having to continue on. He's never actually taken me up on that offer. He insists.

So would I feel disappointed? Probably not because if I ever didn't orgasm, I highly doubt it would be his fault. It would only be because I'm in pain (and even then, I've still orgasm'd til the pain was too much & I had to stop) or because I'm sooo sleepy that it won't happen. That's what happened to me the one time I didn't.

On the other hand, if my partner didn't ever make an effort on my behalf or bother to try and let me enjoy it too, I'd be more than disappointed. Been there. Done that. Didn't get a damn T-shirt for it though.

In his eyes, it's a two person thing & he's very . . . determined. Lol. I'm lucky.
05/04/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by eri86
I did mean partner...
Lol! Hahaha. "Parent?" That is a funny typo. Sorry, Eri86. I'm not trying to make the situation worse, actually trying to make it better. I thought it was funny. No big deal. I actually didn't even notice until reading comments. Then I just assumed it'd been changed, until I scrolled back up to look & seen it. Most people won't notice. I didn't, well. Until now. Lol.

That makes two really good, funny typos on the forum in one week! Hey, typos can be fun. No big deal. And I definitely don't think anyone actually, really thought you meant parent. Just teasing, probably. Surely. You can tell you were talking about a couple, so no big deal.
05/04/2013
chicmichiw chicmichiw
My guy is usually pretty easy, so it's very rare when it happens. When it does, I do feel pretty upset.
05/04/2013
ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I feel bad when my partner doesn't orgasm, it always makes me feel like it's my fault.

As far as having an orgasm myself, well he can't bring me to orgasm without a toy. I can hardly and rarely make myself orgasm without a toy. With a toy it can happen in under 3 minutes.
05/04/2013
bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by eri86
... the other person doesn't orgasm?
It depends whether or not the person is putting forth effort.

If they are trying but I don't have an orgasm, it doesn't bother me.

Selfishness is what bothers me.
05/04/2013
TJax TJax
It's way more fun for me if we both climax, and it actually makes it more difficult for me to if she doesn't.
05/04/2013
married with children married with children
Sometimes she has a hard time getting to the finish line. But that has more to do with her letting her mind wonder to things it should not be thinking about when we are having sex. I feel bad that she did not have one, of-course; but I cant read her mind so there is not much I can do about it.
05/04/2013
Trysexual Trysexual
I feel bad, selfish or frustrated if they don't cum..but I try my best and usually it happens.
05/04/2013
Bullfroggy and Rose Bullfroggy and Rose
seeing her orgasm is the best part
05/05/2013
Girly Juice Girly Juice
I need to orgasm or I get "blue clit." As for my partner, it'd only bother me if it bothered them, because not everyone has a problem with not coming.
05/08/2013
bratcat bratcat
While i enjoy being able to get my partner off, i dont really mind if they cant since it usually happens when they're just too tired to keep going. I'm never upset if my partner is unable to make me come, but i know it bothers them sometimes as they enjoy getting me off.
05/08/2013
karenm karenm
I feel a bit disappointed, even though I know he doesn't care much if I can't get him to- it's usually if he's too tired.
05/08/2013
ashboo32 ashboo32
It's unacceptable to have one partner not orgasm. If I'm just feeling generous and just want to please my partner than that's a different story.
05/08/2013
Real or memorex Real or memorex
I don't consider it my partner's responsibility to bring me to orgasm - it's more of a shared task. That said, I have difficulty orgasming, so I am used to a session without one.
06/10/2013
Nezzie13 Nezzie13
Other. I focus more on being emotionally satisfied with the experience, and I try to make sure that he's satisfied as well. It's easy for me to make him orgasm, but I like to build up his pleasure until he's ready to come. I always feel incredibly tender towards him after I've watched him climax. He seems to feel the same way about my orgasm(s); lots of build up before blowing my mind
06/10/2013
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by eri86
... the other person doesn't orgasm?
Like I need to keep trying.
06/11/2013
GingerSpice GingerSpice
i feel horrible when it happens (him not getting off), doesn't happen often, but when it does...yeah i don't mind if i don't get off though..i like to give more than recieve...
06/11/2013
snowminx snowminx
I don't orgasm that much during sex but I'm not disappointed in any way. I know it's not his fault and I hope he never blames himself for it.

If the guy doesn't get off I don't feel that bad either if I try. Some guys I've been with just last a very very long time in bed and I'll try to give them oral at the end and that might do the trick or it might not.
06/11/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I know when I don't have one... I get irritated... & I've never had a partner who didn't get off.
06/11/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
My wife tends to get frustrated if it doesn't happen as quickly as.she wants it to. I keep going until she cums. I normally put on a cockring or slip in a buttplug to keep things moving.
06/11/2013
alextge alextge
I do feel frustrated if I don't get my partner to orgasm. Because I almost always do
06/13/2013
Creepellah Creepellah
I feel bad only if they feel bad
06/14/2013
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
Quote:
Originally posted by Creepellah
I feel bad only if they feel bad
I feel bad if I cannot bring my partner off, though she generally does not gripe about it and knows it can sometimes happen. I just really want her to be happy, the least I can do for her land all she does for us is have her enjoy our love life.
On the other hand, I feel cheated sometimes when I do not get off and she does. She is more likely to just let it go and not keep trying to bring me off, which is more the way she feels about her own orgasm.
08/11/2013
sweisb4100 sweisb4100
Quote:
Originally posted by Mr. E
It looks like an apparent typo on one of the choices.
I think and certainly hope you meant partner instead of parent.
Lol Oh good I wasn't sure if that was intentional... lol glad someone else saw it. I had to read it a few times.
08/11/2013
ILoveToWatchMyWife ILoveToWatchMyWife
i love seeing my partner orgasm... If she doesn't then it upsets me...
08/11/2013
TheHardOne TheHardOne
I presume you meant partner and not parent in the choices.

That would be kind of weird.
08/11/2013
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